I need advice about my daughter who has asthma

My son has asthma. His father and I separated when he was 2. His father smoked 2 packs a day. My son was diagnosed at age 3. He is now 13 and plays football, basketball and more. We can't protect our kids from everything. And having a peer who smokes was bound to come up sooner or later. As parents we must deal with that. I wouldn't worry too much. But I would think twice before sending over to that particular house again. Be bold. Talk the girl's parents and tell her, not so much about the smoking, but that you want an adult there when your child is there. Asthma is scarey, but it doesn't have to be. Once you learn exactly what the triggers are you can control it a little better.

My daughter has had asthma for since she was 3 and you I have learned you can't protect her from everything, as long as she takes her medicine, she should be o.k. and she can always call if she needs you. I understand your concern, but sooner or later you have to give them a chance to be on their own a little. You should have a talk with the mom and tell her you have no problem with her smoking, you just don't want your daughter around it due to her asthma and if she is a good parent, she will understand. If not then you should not leave your daughter with her.

She has all her medications and she knows to call you if she needs you. You can even call over there just to see how she's doing. The parents probably only smoke outside.

When did this happen? Is your daughter at your neighbour's at this moment? If what you tell happened in the past (yesterday, let us say), you can ask your daughter if the woman smoked. Even in the case she would have smoked, if your girl is OK now I would not worry. Of course, I would not take her there any more in the future.

this is a hard one I had it as a young child up to my 15th 16th thereabouts. Kids are going to try us a parents all the time dont treat her as a sickly person or when talking to friends or any one. I hated that the more my parents said "you know how sick it makes you if you ...... and then go into great detail to my friends parents as they droped me off.. you probable are doing all the right things and my responce is not right for you or shold not have been infered. However the harder my parents pushed what I cant do shouldnt do or just dont do. the harder I tried to do.. I new if I had pillow fights and would be in reall bad shape from the dust etc and sometimes have to go home or hospital. kids know what their limitations are just get carried away at time and I know there was nothing that could be done to change the events. but I was more relaxed and in control of backing out of a pillow fight or run thru the grass fields late at nnight as we snuck out. Try backing off a bit and not harping on the negitive side of her health. Just had to say this way no offence ment.