How do you cope the fear of giving birth?

Hi,rosethorns,if you are going to be a mother very soon.First, congratulations to you!And i know you made this post 3 weeks ago,so i think you must have got your new member of the family now or still waiting. No matter which state you are in now,i hope you can't see my post now. Because it is really not good for pregnant woman to use computer. Don't worry and nervous,just remember to be a mother is the great job in the world.To see your kid grow up from a very small baby to a useful citizen of your country is a big pleasure. I do wish you can see my post after your daughter is born.Best wishes to you and your baby!

firstly may I say congratulations, I remember being so, so scared of giving birth when my waters broke 4 weeks early with my first child, I had to labour he whole time in hospital because my baby was premature and that was hard not being at home like I had imagined, also I was not allowed a water birth because of risk of infection, again due to going into labour early. I was in labour for a whopping 41 hours!!! my second child, a girl who is now 8 months old, came 5 weeks early, I thought my waters broke but when I got to the toilet I saw blood running down my legs, after a night in observation in hospital I had an emergency c section, please don't be scared of a c section, it was very easy to recover from, infact it was only really sore for four days then it just felt like I had done too many sit ups! Everyones body is different though and remember you will hear so, so many horror stories about giving birth and hardly any nice ones, do you why? Because lets face it the nice bits are boring!!! I have so many memories from both births that will stay with me forever, like the long kiss my husband and I shared between contractions with my son and talking about wanting to eat a chinese takeaway while I was getting my c section! I have a free website with my pregnancy and birth diaries if you want a more detailed version, http://www.pregnancypilesandsaggyboobs.weebly.com

I will tell you about the birth of my disabled son. He is now three years old. At 39 weeks pregnancy I was in bed in the night with light contractions these were coming two minutes apart. I was using breathing techniques. This made the pain feel much less. I wasn't even sure I was in labor because it felt like practice contractions. I went to the bathroom and saw a little show of blood in my knickers. I came downstairs and with medium contractions happening I began to know I was in labor. I phoned the hospital and asked to have a midwife come to my home birth. I asked my mom to come over and my birthing pool was filling up. I got painful contractions for just ten minutes and then the two midwifes arrived. I laid down on my sofa and it felt like I was wet. Yes, my waters had gone. The midwifes asked me to sit up I felt as though I was sitting on a pine cone. The midwifes were so surprised when my baby son came shooting out with no pushing needed. He was 7lb, 11ozs. So my labor had been just two and a half hours. For my first labor I used gas and air. I also labored in a birthing pool. I took 20 minutes of pushing to get my baby son out. That first labor has been a total of 8 hours. I didn't have any pain relief for my second and third labors. My baby daughter was born last year. My recommendations are breathing techniques, water to relax in during your contractions and putting lots of energy into pushing. Good luck with the birth of your baby daughter. I am a home birthing mummy to three wonderful children.

Giving birth is nothing to be scared of...there are many pain reliefs to be given and you can also use your own mind to rid the pain, seriously! Labor usually lasts about 12 hours for a first time child, but, of course, that varies widely...it may seem like a long time, and like the pain is too much at times, but keep your beautiful daughter in your thoughts and you will soon be holding her in your arms.

I never coped it It is NORMAL to be afraid because it's a true struggle. I had a difficult labour, but I recovered in a short time. It hurts, I know, but they will help you through the labour and you shouldn't be afraid anymore. The statistic is only 15% of pregnancy are the C-sect candidate Make sure your loved one is there beside you!

Its natural to be scared your first time. I think everyone is. My first pergnancy was awesome I didnt have any bad symptoms, but my second pregnancy was horrible! As it got closer to delivery time I got scared and was worried about becoming a candidate for C-section, as well! I don't think you can really relax when its time to deliver, because everyone thinks you should be alone. So therefore its like someone babysitting you. You may fell huge, you'll be comfortable, and can't sleep at all. My friend told me not to eat before you deliver. It's true DONT EAT BEFORE GIVING BIRTH!!! For both of my deliveries I held out on getting a epidural. I just figure the longer I wait the faster this will be over. It worked!

To be a brave mother who your child will be proud of you!~It is normal that you may fear but evrything will be ok with today's technological development.What you should do now just do according to doctor' suggetions and you will have a healthy baby.

the best thing is a natural birth and holding your baby for the first time. i will say that i was scared too as i didnt know what to expect, but i think i was one of the lucky ones and had an easy birth. yes it did hurt alot but as soon as you are holding the little little one you forget

Check out some resources on mediation and hypnosis. Having a relaxed mind that accepts pain as energy waves rather than something to be feared is key to overcoming the pain of childbirth. The best thing you can do is to not let the pain tense you up and make you afraid or panic because then it will only get worse. Picture the pain as something you control with your mind and heart. Think of it as energy rather than an enemy.