When your parents smoked and you do too, are they to blame?
By katie0
@katie0 (5203)
Japan
December 23, 2010 8:54am CST
I just answered an intersting discussion here in MyLot and i answered how i started to smoke early but actually i wanted even before that, as my mom would smoke near me all the time and i remember being 7 and inhalating that smoke and loving it, i actually was about 8 or 9 when i wanted to really hold a cigarette!!
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@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
24 Dec 10
Well, they could be part of the problem. But I wouldn't say that they are always to blame. My dad has been a smoker for the longest time, and my mother used to be a smoker, but quit before I was born. However, I don't smoke. And I have no interest in being one. It is true that kids do learn from their parents, and this is perhaps why some do become smokers, as they saw their parents do it. In some sense, they might be partly to blame, but I wouldn't say that they are the cause.
@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
Of course,our parents is the first teacher and must be a good role model for us.They should teach us first, of our good manner and do to good things and correct our mistake deeds.Family or should I say the parents is the background of being yours.If how they will raises you,it will really shown.If your parents,let their children sees them smoking they just like telling to them that, if their children will smoke too when grow up it's fine with them.If you want to become a good parents,then be a good example to them.Teach them what is right and wrong.If you planted a bad seed then it will fruit bad.And it's true,it's like you doesn't care what your children would become.Your letting them to cross in wrong path.Parents,are responsible for guiding and teaching them a good manner.And also, to be able for providing the needs and necessities of their siblings. If what children learned from their parents,that's they will apply everyday and used of it.If you really love yours siblings,work hard and teach hard to make them a better and respectful person.Everything will be start in family.And if other will criticize of your bad deeds,the blame will be in your parents.That's why the parents has a huge factor and how will you shown does matter.Because as the sayings say "In the eye child,what they seen is right!".So, if they seen you doing bad things and etc. For them, it's right it's because they seen it in their own parents.And they didn't even restraint by their parents,that why.And when they used, to grow up in that kind of environment then what they saw became natural and okay.They inhabit on it,and they could probably make it worst.That's just a simple and not so alarming behavior, how about doing more than that thing?It's that still okay?If situation get so worst ,what would be so difficult to stop on it.The neglectful near in disaster.And nothing to blame but the parents to just let it to happen.For they thought it's just a nothing and couldn't harm.Things can be avoid earlier,so teach only the right and be the first a role model.Because there's no regretting in beginning.And I will leave a last saying "If damaged has been done,you can do nothing but to regret".
@ParaTed2k (22940)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
23 Dec 10
They are to blame for the influence, but not for our decisions. People seem to think that kids grow up to be carbon copies of their parents, but those people also never seem to be carbon copies of their own.
We have a lot of influences in our lives, but none of them are responsible for our decisions.