I can solve people's problems, but my problem alone .....?

Having a solution and actually solving a problem in life are not the same. The former is more common than the latter. Most of the time a person in need only wants to feel that he/she is not alone with the problem he/she is facing. More often than not, we only go to friends to rant (and vice-versa), not because we don't know the solution to our own problems. Sometimes we need to look at ourselves and sort out if are we actually good at solving problems of others or are we good at listening. Most of us are good listeners, that's why we have troubles dealing with our own problems. To me, it makes a lot of sense... Listening and problem solving are two different things. The same with between soothing others and helping others. But like I said before, there's no problem in this world that we don't know the solution to. It's the strength to overcome the problem is the one that we normally look for. Fortunately, there's strength in numbers. :)

Problems are part of life. I dont see a single human being who does not have problems in their life. Either its a big one or a small one. Everyone has been given so much of power to resolve their own problems. We must be happy seeing others problem whose problem are more than ours. Otherwise we will never be happy in life. Face the problem and you get a satisfaction with it. Problem makes man stronger.

hello gen, That's happens when close friend trusted you that much. I experienced same thing like that. My friend knows that i am also facing problems in my life,but since she trusted me and knows that i am always willing to listen,she can open her mind and heart on me without any hesitation. So,the thing is...just listen to your friend. Sometimes friends who has problem just want someone to vent out and release what she feels inside and after that feels some relief that someone listens. you don't need to give exact advise for the solution. All you need to do is listen and empathize with the situation. You can also do the same thing with closefriends. I always did that. When i feel like i am drowning,i go to my closest friend and just talk the matter with her,not necessarily asking for a solution. Just letting go of our emotion and what we feel inside is a big help already. We need to release each emotions,never kept it inside. It will give us depression and stress and it's bad for our health. Crying alone is not good either,because after that,you are still having same thoughts. It is better to have someone to cry on,someone who listens and share our feelings. HAPPY HOLIDAY

Hehehe .... same .. So I'm always looking for new friends to me vent . That's proof that we are humans ... need someone else to help us Try the following points: 1. Look for a lot of friends ... and select one among them to become friends who can you make as a garbage can, where the throw all the fatigue that is in you. 2. Try to solve problems that vent to your friends with you into your own self rather than acting as a psychiatrist, if indeed the problem you have never experienced friend or a novelty for you, try to keep clear is that you can not give an opinion on the matter. 3. If it is felt there is no more place for you to vent, make God as a place to vent the best ever you have .... okey .... keep ur faith

One thing that is interesting from this discussion is the philosophy of a sea captain who said the following: I always live by the philosophy, if the sea calm, the sea will be bumpy. If wavy sea, the sea will be calm again. But with the best ship, you can overcome it. The message was clear, if there are storms in our lives, remember a moment bright, with the meaning, look at the life of a large scale.