What would you do if someone else mastering your child without your permission?

hi arunmails nobody has a right to scold my children but me lol I meant when mine were young. the only living one is now 51 but when he was little I was furious if someone else took over my job of parenting'as that was my child and my responsibility. If my child did something wrong in the presence of someone else, that person should come to me for my discipling not him or her.I would really have to have a serious talk with anyone who took it on himself or herself to discipline or scold my child. I would say I am sorry if my child did not behave but I am his parent and all you have to do is come to me his mom, and tell me about it.I will take over from there. even my parents I forbade to do more than gently tell him not to do this or that,no scolding or striking. I made my dad angry but I did not spank I used other methods of discipline afte all discipline means teaching and not beating a child. Time outs meant just that and taking away privleges also worled well.

Now, I can see some situations where I think it is acceptable for any adult to correct a child. These situations being where the child is putting themselves or others in immediate danger. However, for the most part, I don't like the fact that there are some adults that correct children when you don't even know the other person. I do have some friends that I have given permission to so that they are able to correct my children when they are doing wrong, but for the most part I don't want people outside of my family to discipline my children.

Hi Arunmails, It all would actually depend on the situation. If my child does something that I miss then I would rather the person say something to me and let me deal with it. I have had another adult speak to one of my children when acting out in public. I really don't have a problem with it because sometimes a strangers voice is all it takes to bring them around. Like I said, so much depends on the situation.

Hi arun, Since my kids are small I have to take care of them for not doing any mistakes when we are out for anything. I just can’t tolerate if anybody scold my kids, so better to control them myself for not doing any wrong actions. Of course it is a tedious task as they are very curious on watching something especially on toys; they want to touch it, and look how it works etc.

My reaction would be totally based on the curcumstances. For instance if I hear the neighbor yelling at my kid and I look out and see damaaged property, then I would watch, listen and not interfear unless things got physical. Children have to learn to cope with the results of their actions. However if I know my child is not guilty of the damage then I would intervene. The same thing if my child is being scolded in public, again I would try to put the facts together and then respond. If I am too protective my child will never learn responsibilty for his actions. But if any physical contact was made, I be on them like a tiger.

An outsider can not scold your child unless your child has done some harm to him and that will not be mastering. If the person you are referring is one of your close relatives that may be O.K. because he may be scolding your child for his own good. Many times we ignore the bad habits in our children because of our blind love towards them and it is not good for the future of your child. If it is not like that and if you are convinced that other person is doing that out of jealousy or some bad intention than you should tell him coolly and privately that he should refrain from scolding your child without spoiling your relation with him.

I think that scolding other children without the permission of the concerned parent is unethical. We should first talk to the guardian of the child especially if they are underage children.