5 Secrets To Make Him Love You.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
December 26, 2010 2:27am CST
I just read this Yahoo article and I was amazed! I naturally do All 5! Not only to my Love but to all my guy friends. What amazes me is that there wee women out there that weren't!They would with their girlfriends but not the guy they love! Here is the list:
1.Share an Activity.
2. Cheer him on.
3.Let him be himself.
4.Tell him what you think.
5. Give him space.
Let's take each one.#1.Maybe because we were friends Way before we fell for each other this one was easy. We had a few things in common.So we liked each other's company. #2.This is the easiest thing to do.if I like you I will naturally cheer you on! I want you to be happy.Why wouldn't a friend or a girlfriend Not cheer him on?#3.This is the second easiest. Why would I want a guy to change for me?Isn't his true self the reason I am attracted to him?Isn't it the real him that likes me? Either we mesh or we don't. either we can be great friends or not. Great lovers or not. If I Did get him to change , wouldn't he resent me?#4.In the article it said there are women who assume their guy can read their mind. Or that if they say one thing, the guy will hear what they need and automatically do it. At that point , all I could do was shake my head in complete disbelief! I am still a little shy with new people but as soon as we get to be friends, I Will tell you what I mean and what I need or I'll tell you if I need your help in Plain English. I never assume.#5 is a two way street. I Always thought a guy needed a "guy's night out", sometime away.And In return , I get to some me time too.That way when we are together, we are there because we Want to be there! Your thoughts.
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Regards,
theSids.@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
26 Dec 10
I can't cook. I never want to learn How to cook. Whenever Anyone would say this, I would say , Then let her have his heart and I'll have the rest!I think in the back of my mind , I thought this adage was really true so I never thought I would Ever win the heart of a guy.If I Have to c But now I have a guy who care less that I can't cook! I checked. He loves me for me , not food!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
26 Dec 10
Besides I just thought it is more safer that I don't Have to cook.I would cook , his love grows as my resentment grows. He wants more and I want to stop. the easiest thing to do is to make it stop, permanently. So it is wish that I don't cook.
@titchy1231 (732)
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28 Dec 10
well in the past i have done all 5 and those relationships never worked out, so if i find someone else i might just take it 1 day at a time
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Dec 10
Question,were all 5 done for you? I think it Has to be a two way street.I wish the best of luck.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
31 Dec 10
I assume you hoped he would change. And when you Finally found out he wasn't going to , you ditched the son of a b!tch! Good for you . I wish you luck the next time, if you Want a next time.
@titchy1231 (732)
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28 Dec 10
well no, he was useless and i dont know why i stayed with him so long
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
26 Dec 10
I read that too. Thing is, they don't tell you..its a two way street. A 50/50 thing. He has to do those same things back to you or it doesn't work. I did/do all those things to my husband and all it has done is pump up his self righteousness and arrogance!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
26 Dec 10
Being a shy little girl , I have always been a good listener.So I listen to what is said to me. Now being less shy I will ask if I hear it one way and they mean it another so I can really understand. It is so true, Knowing your love Hears you is key!
@julialynne (85)
• United States
27 Dec 10
My husband and I are very close and in all the time we have been married we have never fought we always talk things out so we get along great together as well as love each other very much, but you shouldn't expect someone to be something there not, you should always let you husband/bf be who they are and nothing more or nothing less.
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@pastorlamont (184)
• United States
27 Dec 10
The old saying is a way to a man's heart is through his stomach; not necessarily...the way to a man's heart, is through his ego! I've seen successful relationships and counseled enough marriages to know that a man whose ego is properly attended to, is a strong man with a wise wife. The good thing about men is that we are incredibly simple. Not stupid (as the media would interpret), but simple. I appreciate the post...some women out there could learn a valuable lesson here. Our nation is only as strong as our families. If husband and wife have ego and pride issues, we're in trouble.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
31 Dec 10
I have no desire to cook, period. I never Wanted to learn. I rather heat up a pizza.It is my fave.It would be a chore that would eventually tear us apart. I would be cooking something i wouldn't eat and the resentment would build and then soon the love would die.I told my guy I don't cook , he said ok. We can work it out. Don't get me wrong , I don't want him to cook for me either. This is why G-d created the microwave and take out. No One Has to cook!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Dec 10
Thanks for your response. I Never , Ever thought All men were stupid! There are some idiots out there but there are few and far between. I can and will cheer on my guy because I love him. Ego boosting and given support comes naturally to me. But cooking Never Will , lol!
@pastorlamont (184)
• United States
28 Dec 10
Well, look at your cooking like this...
If he's your 'god', you can give him 'burnt offerings'!!
Girly, work at it, you'll get it. You know, the first 2 years of our marriage, I did all the cooking - we're versatile!
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@julialynne (85)
• United States
27 Dec 10
I am new here what do the stars by the names mean?
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Dec 10
Welcome! The Stars are a rating system. Once you reach either 100 or 500, I can't remember which I'm afraid, you will see your star. My blue star is the highest. It means that other members have found my posts and comments well written. The best advice I can give you is write under you favorite interests and be as descriptive as you can.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
31 Dec 10
It is 500 posts . I have seen friends who have more than 100 and they still don't have a star.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
31 Dec 10
Oops. I am wrong , It is 100 ! I just saw a member with over 100 and a star. can you tell I have totally forgot the number
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
27 Dec 10
It really is stating what it seems would be obvious to everyone, isn't it? I kind of think if these things don't come naturally, it's not much of a relationship. Basically, I'd say if you want to change the man you're supposed to love, you don't really love HIM, so why not be with someone who is already what you'd like to change him into?
Annie
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Dec 10
Exactly! I read the article and thought, wow I do All of this naturally And I Knew this was the way to act Way back in the day when I was 13. At the time I would see soaps and t.v. dramas where women were trying to change their men! And I thought why?
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
26 Dec 10
This is great artcle Sarah, giving space and care for each other is the most I like and been doing that. Other are now in my list and hope to apply them as well. I love to be with my wife and need to make her happy most of the time. She does not complain about my work timings but I understand that she deserve more time than what I spend now.
Thank You for sharing.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
26 Dec 10
It is hard to find the time to be together these days.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
27 Dec 10
Yes, and that would be great thing to include.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
26 Dec 10
Try to do #2 more often. I know he will appreciate it.
@julialynne (85)
• United States
27 Dec 10
ok five ways to make him love you.
1. Be a good cook it the fastest way to a mans heart
2. Be loving
3. Be sweet
4 be loyal to him as his wife
5 Be yourself
always stand by your man no matter what he may do that makes you angry, but if the love is true in your heart you would want to do anything and everything that pleases
him.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Dec 10
I can't do #1 and be #5 at the same time.I don't cook and I will Never learn how to cook so If cooking is the Only way to a man's heart , I will Never have a man's love.Thankfully my guy doesn't care that I can't cook. Yes I am loving and my guy says I'm sweet. As for #4 I can be loyal Or a wife but not both so I choose to be loyal.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Dec 10
It is not the stone age! There are many men out there who are trying to make the one they love ,love them back. They just don't read this type of articles!What I like about this article is it could work on a woman too. It is just common sense , a natural way to treat the one you love. What I find sad is that many women Still want to change the guy they say they love. That is what is from the stone age. There are way too many different type of men out there . why would Have to change the one you are with? If he doesn't mesh with you , find a another!
