A true gift

Hi! When I give gifts, I usually try to imagine what the other needs or wants or try to assess the personality to match my gift. For me, the giving of gift is more the thought...like receiving a gift would mean the person thought of me. That is nice. That is why when a person I have given a gift to gives them away, I would be disppointed. I would even refrain from giving that person a gift in the future knowing the person would just give it to another. Though how many and how much would not matter to me...it is the thought. A happy new year, savvypat.

When I was married my husband was like your family and it really sucked all the joy out of Christmas. I remember him being insulted because I got my mother in law something that didn't cost much but that I was certain she would love. My family was never like that, we didn't have much money and had to think carefully and plan well for Christmas but it was never about the gifts. I like it better that way because although I no longer get gifts for Christmas as I am alone now, there is still joy there for me.

Hi savypat, I buy something that I feel the recipient will enjoy but I don't spend a lot of money. It's the same with receiving, I never think that the cost of an item really matters but it feels good to receive as well as give gifts to family and friends. Blessings.

A true gift is the gift which you give out of your heart without expecting anything back.I never used to receive gifts for Christmas but now this Christmas i have given eight boxes of basic things for the prison children and i have given three sets of clothes to the needy children.We always get the things we want in life but there are people who cannot afford these basic things.When they see the gifts,a smile of joy appears on their face and they feel happy. Christmas is not just about enjoying but it is about spreading the message of love to everyone.

For me it is not at all about how much I spend on the gifts that I give. I will admit, however, that I find a lot of joy myself in finding things that I think are perfect for the intended recipient. However, I don't really have my feelings hurt if the person that I give a gift to does not appreciate the gift. I also don't think that it is important to give bigger and better gifts the next time around. Instead, I want to stay within my budget but to give something to everyone where they will know that I do think about them.

to me its the thought that counts

Once you give an item, your hands must come off of it. It is the property of the receiver. I do try to make sure that what I give you is something you really want. My family is all that way. I used to feel guilty if I did not just love what someone gave me, now I am free to give it away or do whatever with it. It is funny, though. My sister in law was given a set of party type dishes. They were purchased at an auction by a friend. When she received them, they were dirty from storage. The friend thought they had chili peppers on them, a favorite motif for my brother and sister in law. Well, they are not chili peppers, they are clusters of bird of paradise flowers, and the dishes do not appeal to my sil. Her friend gets offended when her gifts are not appreciated, and they usually are just slightly WRONG. Her solution is to use them at a friendly get together tomorrow night. Then she will pass them on to me and I will sell them for her or get rid of them some way. She will then tell her friend she gave them to me.

I was raised in a very religious family but there was still the gift giving contest going on. My grandparents did the best that they could for me and I remember that once they bought me a color TV for my bedroom on a payment plan. They had a black and white TV in the livingroom. I actually wanted them to just use it in the livingroom but they insisted it was for my room. My family hated that and thought me spoiled. I really did want it in the livingroom for them too. I watched TV in there as much as I did in my room for a longtime. I have throughout the years tried to teach my children about money and feeling and how sometimes times are very tough. I have also brought to light that the present they have got from people they know may have very well taken extras from them for a while so that they could give it to them. I do try to buy alot for my girls on their birthdays and at Christmas but that is because I am sometimes not able to do alot throughout the year. Our bust season at work is during the winter months so there is a lot of overtime to make up for the expenses. I have never really regifted anything but my girls have given some of their stuffed animals as gifts before.

hello pat, i think my small gifts were not appreciated except for one niece who came clinging and hugging me. i had very less time to choose them and i was being so frugal because i had something which is my priority to buy and am still saving for it. my other siblings went for those toys with remote control. children nowadays like those modern type toys. the kids were my priority. i know the older once will understand because they know. have a nice day. ann

As a child, I didn't pay attention much about the gifts that I received if they are expensive or not as long as they are a gift and they are for me. I am happy with that already. :) As an adult, I don't give gifts that I don't really intend to. I mean, if I am to give a gift it must be coming from my heart and not forced or obliged. I took time in finding the gifts. I made sure that the gifts are going to be useful to the receiver ,since regifting is not a custom in the family. At least, when that person receives a gift from me, he knows that I took an effort to find something that he wants/ needs. So it has really a valu more than just the price itself.:)

Sadly, my mum still emotionally hangs onto a gift. She makes me promise not to pass it on. With me though, like you, once it's gone it's gone. I can't always afford to buy gifts, so choose to make them. Or I'll do a kindness as a gift, or I'll bake something. But I never expect anything in return, and I don't care if what I gift to someone, they decide to pass on to someone else. The only time it really upsets me is when they throw a gift into the bin. I'd rather it be passed on and recycled.

Giving is also one of the principles of friendship. Being friends first, then obtain a friend. Give themselves to become friends first, then we get the companionship of others. But indeed, maintain the friendship of these is more difficult than looking for friends themselves. Trying to be a good friend requires great patience and energy. At least, we must always be ready when our friends in need, willing to listen to his grievances but we are also trouble. Outside the context of friendship, turned out to give the concept remains valid for me. In the past, I never get close to young children. Every time I approach a child, she always ran away, or at least, show the attitude of a very frightened. I got to feel desperate, questioning "the sister". However, after I tried to eliminate the bad feelings in me, now with a little smile, though still a bit stiff, I started to be close to that humorous creatures ^ ^. In Musashi, I've read (unfortunately could not complete write here, I forgot it in the volumes of how many) that "a child will understand the pure beauty. " It turned out to give sorry, I can get a "newer life. "

Sometimes, we want to receive or even to give gift which are nice,expensive and memorable to the person where about to give.And there are times,it is matter we really expect of something we really wanted and would be nice gift.If we able to received a gift which we didn't like at all.We just have an answered face "frown face" and just say it's okay but some really complain secretly to the giver.We get disappointed and some are get insulted just because of the gift received.Especially if it's your coworkers,classmate or should I say other people.It's the fact,some are quarrel just in the gift.We can't avoid it, especially when they have an agreement about gift giving. They forget the essence of christmas,which to give,share,forgive and love.It's nice to give or even received gift because it will make us happy.But, what important is it came from the bottom of our heart and what it is shouldn't matter.The expensiveness,nice and how it looks and of course if we want it or not. It's traditional to have exchange gift or just gift giving.There are really expecting and wants that we want to get.And we can't avoid it,to get quarrel or being sulk. It's christmas and it's God's day.this day is for him and not our.We celebrate it rejoicing and just not after of gift we received.This days is precious and the essence of it was so wonderful and amazing.Why were so selfish?we just think of our own happiness and satisfactory and just for a gift?Will really make us happy? No!!! it's the christmas itself to celebrate. That is the visible but were blinded because of our selfishness the true gift that,God's given us.Is to celebrate rejoicing and be happy.Value the family,share,love,forgive and give. That's how simple but genuine gift Go'd given for all of us.

A true gift is somthing that you have find to be what the person would want

All Year round I listen out for what my Children would like and if they have not got it by the time Christmas I start buying or putting the Money away so closer to the time I shall get them it I have always done this and still do That way it is very rare I go wrong with both of mine, with Friends I know what they like so go as close as I can to get them something to what they like

I always enjoy giving gifts to people especially to children who do not care about the contents inside the wrapped up gifts as long as it is nicely wrapped. I love to see the sparkle in their eyes when I give these kids presents during christmas. I used to get lots of christmas presents when I was a kid but it becomes lesser now as I grow older and only get presents from my working children. I treasure every gifts that I received and never recylced them to be regifted to others. After all it is the thoughts that counts and gifts carry sentimental value which I treasure most.

We used to give each other a list of things we would like to have for Christmas.The rule was simple: pick one thing from the list and buy it.Maybe it's not so exiting to receive a gift this way, but we had less disappointments.There were times when our family budget was very tight and we spent several Christmas without gifts.There was even more fun I have to say.Gifts matter only when you have nothing else to give, I think.

a true gift a true gift is something that means emotionaly very much to the person who recieves it if it is a true gift for them too they wont bother checking for price or the quality a true gift means something given from your heart a true gift isnt neceseary an expensive one if you recieve something that doesnt mean much to you but it has a big value for the gift-giver you shouldnt make him feel sad or anything but you should accept every gift you get with great pleasure but thats just my idea

the best gift one could ever offer is the gift of quality time, sincere friendship and love. ;)

Hi. For me, true gifts are fleeting. They are not remembered. They are easily forgotten. Was there a time when you were lonely, suddenly saw a butterfly with its perfect pattern? The stress is lessen, right? Have you ever experienced being tired, then after seeing a baby's smile, feel extremely lighted up? Truest gifts are only given by God. Oftentimes through people. Sometimes through nature. Thanks.