I Can't or I Won't so it will Never happen!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
December 26, 2010 11:53pm CST
How many times have you ever said this? Me? I say it all the time. Ever since I was little I have known what I will and will not do and most of it hasn't changed. So when someone says / " If you want a man to fall for you , you have to cook for him." I just say " Oh well I will never have a man fall for me." Or that marriage is the best way to prove how much you love someone. Then I say , he will Never know! So I don't even try. Why try? It is a form of At first you don't succeed , quit but better. Why waste your time trying to do something you Know will make you miserable? have you ever thought I can't or I won't so it will never happen?
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
27 Dec 10
Well...my biggest issue is that I don't know my limits. I am not really opposed to doing anything..well...almost anything.
I am fairly unpredictable and when I make up my mind..I do it. This can be quite sudden so you can imagine how the people around me are constantly on their toes.
Now..if it is something that is going to make me miserable..I'm out...I think that life is too short for misery and why bring it on myself. There is enough of that without me asking for it.
I am fairly unpredictable and when I make up my mind..I do it. This can be quite sudden so you can imagine how the people around me are constantly on their toes.
Now..if it is something that is going to make me miserable..I'm out...I think that life is too short for misery and why bring it on myself. There is enough of that without me asking for it. 1 person likes this
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Dec 10
I have always thought out things before I decided to do anything. I acted like a chess player Way before I learned chess. You know what I mean, thinking 5 moves ahead, If I do this that will happen... I'm a little better. It doesn't take two days to decide minor things but I Still have to think about it.But there have always things I will Never do.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
30 Dec 10
Broly, the plan is the thinking step. As long as I get to think before I act , I'm fine.
@broly1031 (1)
• United States
27 Dec 10
To avoid being too pensive before taking action on doing something, what I found that has helped me a lot is writing down a plan. For example paying those monthly bills.
If you need 25 bucks for personal use but the bills are coming you should have a plan would you pay the bill in a money order and thats it or would you use your credit/debit card to earn the points and get those 25 bucks back to your account?
See? having a plan could shorten the thinking process and it could eventually lead you to take action faster than just thinking a whole lot and then wondering why you didn't do it some other way.
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@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
29 Dec 10
There are a few things where I can say that. And that I have never relented. And I guess this is more or less what defines us as people.
But I can't say I have the strongest resolve...
After dinner, even if I say I can't or I won't eat any dessert, I always end up eating something sweet just before going to bed.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
30 Dec 10
It isn't against the law to change your mind, Especially when it comes to dessert! And besides dessert is suppose to be a treat. You Should treat yourself!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Dec 10
Guilty As Charged! The biggest thing I changed my mim over was.... The computer. 10 years ago if you told me that I would gooten more out of life by being online , I would have thought you were insane! But here I am! So there are a few things I do try after saying I will never. But there are a few core things that will never change.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Dec 10
Hi Sarah,
I was that way... long back. Yes, I never wanted to walk the path. But then one day, when I started to walk... I realized it is fun and a whole new experience. I know there are many paths that I would never walk - The ones I consider bad and evil - but for the ones that I think are ok, I might go ahead.
Unless you walk a path, how come you are so sure that you would be miserable? Standing away and watching others fail or succeed has nothing to do with your success or failure. So I prefer to test out and experiment on my own rather than wait and others to tell me.
Today, I believe more in - "If this can be done by anyone on the planet, it can be me too". Many a times it is good to have that fighting spirit within.
Cheers,
theSids.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Dec 10
How can I know I will be miserable , because I Know me. I will never marry because to be a good wife means I will have to cease being me. I wold never love my husband, in fact I will resent and then hate him over time. The same with having kids and cooking. I Know what will make me resentful and I will Never do it. I'm your polar opposite I Never think just because many people can do it means I can. I never get the connection! I'm me , and they are themselves . Why is is possible that I can do what another can? So I won't.In fact saying Everyone can do makes me say . I'm not Everyone!And then I don't ever do it.
@Tiana1323 (4)
• United States
27 Dec 10
I get that feeling every once in a while but I try not to feel this way. If I never took a risk I probably wouldn't have made it so far in life. I love to be different and express me and not care what anyone thinks. Being a teenager is hard due to all the peer pressure you try to fit in. I try to be me and wear what I like not the brands that everyone has. I guess that's why I try things even when I feel like I could never do it. When I do achieve that goal I feel so good inside it makes me wonder about all of the other possibilities I've passed up.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Dec 10
That is different. You have the desire to try something new. And I think that is great. I meant knowing that activity isn't for you and others are trying you to do it and you say no, like not bowing to peer pressure. all I can say is Brava! Keep being yourself! Do what you feel is right for you.
