fantasies of adoration and love and beautiful relations

indeed. in my culture, love means to be selfless=to deny the self. in denying the self, and ego, one will strive to be in harmony with all creatures. of course it is not so easy to strive to be at harmony with human beings as it is with the other natural creatures of the world, still, that is the expression and growth of love. to say, if one cant respect a small ant which is only doing its duty in this world, that practice of disrespect carries over to human beings as well. if one purposely murders an ant for their own selfish reasons, that practice will carry over into their dealings with human beings. however, if one can respect the small ant, and have compassion for it, and base their actions so as not to cause harm to such a small creature, then surely this practice will pass to their treatment of human beings as well. and this is one of the main things in dealing with relationships that people suppose are loving. because they dont know how to love on a small scale, when the smallest matters enter their relationships, they dont know how to deal with that either. true love is beautiful, and it is respectful to all creatures. unfortunately people say they "fall" in love, but from what i know of love...it wont make one fall, it will lift them up and allow them to walk and move, and progress...not fall and stand still. love may even be shared with an enemy or a person who ill treats...now if love is so beautiful that it may even treat an enemy properly, how much more beautiful is love to the object of its affection!!!! (sigh) overall, if people practiced love with all creatures, a relationship between male and female is not needed at all. however, if a person practices love with all creatures, it will make a relationship between male and female that much more beautiful.

indeed. true love makes a person become the best they may be. it inspires to be better, to do better to think better and to act better. it shows the natural creation to be loving, and it shares in the mysteries of the universe. by this i know, there is no greater than for all mankind...but love. and when i hear that god is love...i know without a doubt that god must be such a beautiful and well rounded being. actually greater..because if love is such a beautiful thing...the one who created love would have to be even greater than beautiful to create such a beautiful thing