Is a best friend always a real friend?
By asumaagasaki
@asumaagasaki (24)
Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
December 28, 2010 7:21pm CST
Hi everyone,
you see, I have a best friend, or should I say I had one. We were inseperable, always together... But when he found a girlfriend, and she was the first girlfriend he ever had, he stopped communicating with me and our other friends. I have a girlfriend too, but i never neglected my friends over her. Is a best friend always a real friend?
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4 responses
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
29 Dec 10
As you grow older your will learn that the only friend you can count on to be there for you, every day, in every way, is yourself.
" To thine own self be true!"
Most of us are familiar with the above quote taking from Shakespeare's Hamlet, but how many of us know this verse:
And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou can not then be false to any man. Unless we can be true to ourselves first, we cannot be true to others.
Be true to yourself first, and you will never be let down by a "Best Friend!"
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@asumaagasaki (24)
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
29 Dec 10
You are right, "Nosce te ipsum" and one would be happy with oneself. But really, are people actually born to know themselves, because most people never figure out who they are. Does that mean that people like that heve no friends?
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
29 Dec 10
Hi asuma agasaki: I think it really depends on the persons. In my case I think that my best friend is my real friend. From me I won't do this. However, people change and it's normal. It must be a horrible experience to know that the person you think you know wasn't really what he/ she suppose to be. Hopw you have recover and find a real best friend in your life.
ALVARO
@asumaagasaki (24)
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
30 Dec 10
Yeah I agree. I just think that his girlfriend is a real problem. I am sad cuz' he wasn't like that. Well i won't ruin his happiness, I am glad if he is happy. I only want my friend back, but hey, it ain't such a big deal, i really do have many friends :)
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
29 Dec 10
There are people who act a little gaga over their gfs. You mentioned that she's her first, so he's probably in 7th heaven right now. It'll be hard to pull him back. Best thing you can do is to just let him know that you're still there.
As for the definition of a real friend, it takes a lot of problems for you to find them, so yes, sometimes there are best friends that are not real friends.
For your situation with your best friend, think of it this way, this is also a test for you, are you a real friend to him? You know that he's a little over the edge over his gf, will you leave him just because he doesn't have time for you anymore?
Are you a real friend?
@asumaagasaki (24)
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
29 Dec 10
This was very philosophical. I really like things the way you presented them. It is not actually about him being a real friend, but me... Wow :)
Thank you very much :)
@asumaagasaki (24)
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
29 Dec 10
Your answer is rather gloomy, but you are honest and i appreciate that :) Thank you
