What do you think about parents who put their kids to day care like 24/7?

Hi infatuatedbby! I have no kids yet but I'm a product of day care. When my mom and dad had separated, I was with my mom. So our scenario everyday was the same like what you'd said. We will wake up early, bring me to day care and she will go to work. Honestly, since I was really young at that time, I don't find any wrong about it. I enjoyed playing with other kids. And the thought of mum has something to me after work always made me so excited. So I guess, if the parents have to leave their children at day care it must be reasonable. If it is because they wanted to act like single mum or dad, then I see it irresponsible parenthood.

Nowaday, this is how many families are structured. It is sad that people have children that they don't give anytime to. They provide the necessary things that are material. Children need positive interaction with their parents unless they will grow up not knowing love or how to give it to another person. I think if people aren't ready to have children they should be more careful about the birth control methods that they use. Anyone can have children, but not everyone can or want to be parents.

If i will marry someday and that would be still far away from my list nowadays because of financial constraints, I definitely would want my wife to stay in our home and take care of my kids. Children needs their mothers care,love and guidance. they shouldn't be in the day care 24/7 that is really awful and not good for their morals and upbringing. However, if me and my wife is in financial tight situation I have no other choice but to let my wife work to help pay our bills and save money for the future of my children. It's a tough situation but needs to be done. I just wish I won't come in to this decision when I am already married.

Unfortunately in a world in economic recession like this one, it's important to work to survive, and if you want to rise kids you will need a lot of money for that. In that case I prefer parents to leave their kids in day care instead of leaving them alone at home, what can be dangerous. However, it's important that in their holiday they spend time with their kids, otherwise they will grow up not knowing their parents and not processing love for them.

There is nothing wrong with day care or an after school program. However, day care costs money. So that's a counterdictory issue in and of itself. Yes, parents have to make money to support themselves and their children, but you have to wonder how "bad" things are if you have to use a good portion of your earnings to place your children in day care. Those parents who place their children in the system and forget about them shouldn't even be considered human. If you aren't going to raise your child then why do you have them in the first place? Children need their parents especially in the early years for bonding and groth. I don't think the question should what do I think about children who pretty much live in day care, but how much is too much? How many hours does the parent spend with the child? Does the parent make aragments if daycare is closed for whatever reason? Those are the things I ask myself.

I think this is really horrible thing. Its bad for the kids. Because the parents are not looking after them. So the attachment is not at all there. Now when the kids will grow up they will never ever have the kind of respect for their parents. Because the parents are unable to give a good childhood to their kids, so these kids will always maintain a distance from these parents. Terrible shame about this!!!

I NEVER want to have to put my kids in day care but I might have to eventually. I was married and a stay at home to my kids. My children are 6 & 3. I split up with their father a year ago. I get welfare and so far have been able to stay home with my son and my daughter goes to school. I cherish this time. I dread if I have to take my son to day care if they make me start working. Some people do have to work because they have house payments and bills and everything else. Sometimes people need two incomes. My ex and I did not. I dont have to pay rent. I live in a house my parents own. They dont live here and so all I have to pay are the bills. They arent that expensive. Being low income I get a few other assistances like with telephone costs and heat. I would rather live off the $400 a month I get rather then go to work and hardly see my kids.

hi infatuated bby its a sad fact of life that here in California it has got so expensive that both mom and dad have to work just to rent an apartment to have a home to live in. rent is just ridiculous here and ' buying a house is only for the wealthy professionals.So yes a lot of people have to put their children in day care but in the evening and on weekends they do have family times together. My husband and I worked different shifts so one of us was with our son at all times.For me this was a long time back. I have been widowed for years and my son is now 51.

my partner and i talked about this that when we are ready to have children i will stay to take care of them and just have a business or work at home so that our kids will not grow up being taken care of by other people. we both want that the values our parents taught us will be passed to our children and that they will feel that we as their parents will always be there for them. i cannot see myself hiring a maid to look after my kids. i just can't let others to instill different views and knowledge to my kids without my knowing.

I think it is terrible. Some parents have to because of financial situations where they have to work many hours. My best memories are experiences with my parents and learning from my parents. Those are the foundations of my life. Family is first and especially in those early critical years, the parents should make an effort to be as involved in their childrens' lives as possible. Great topic, and I hope my answer helps. :) Happy holidays friends!!

Hi infatuatedbby! I feel that parents like this are causing their children to drift further away from them in terms of their relationship. In my country, i have seen cases where domestic helpers are more closer to their children rather then they themselves as parents. Children should feel loved by their parents from a young age as might indirectly cause their children to go astray when they are much older. The child might feel that his/her parents doesn't care about him/her and might look for other people to go to to feel loved and welcome. That's when they join bad companies.

I think it's not good. They do not have any bonding moments with their children everyday. Their children will be used to growing up in the daycare not with their parents. They should spend some time with their children everyday to create a nice bond between them. I would not put my kids in the daycare. I'll just hire a guardian to watch for my kids when I'm at work.

I never prefer my kid to be in the day care 24/7. We have one kid aged 2years. Both of us does't want to miss our kid's infant age and his moments. I feel when parents are along with the kids they can understand love and effection mutually. And these days can never come back. So we dosen't want to keep him in the day care. even Am intrested to work and help our family financially. But we prefer to be with our kid. My hubby is working n we are happy with our income. But still i prefer to help my family financially, so i joined mylot to earn the little i can.

It is not a good idea. may be the reason of generation gap

Well I dont have children thankfully im to selfish but if i did have kids I would try to have one parent stay home to look after them.Im wary with day cares i would be worried if they are going to properly taken care of.It also depends on the money I am making at the time.

hi, its not a good idea for me, about parents who put their kids to day care like 24/7, it seems like that those parents are irresponsible, maybe its be better to get a nanny or baby sitter, to look after their kids/child.

Hi infatuatedbby, I know some parents who belong to first and second both categories. The second category people are not there by choice but because they have to work but they usually take a lot of time and effort outised work hours to take care of their children and to spend quality time with them! But the first category types are really immature and should not have become parents in the first place. I know a couple who both work and leave their daughter with the wife's parents. Although it is a much better option than the day care center, the girl is still deprived of her own parents' company. The parents are so much in love with movies and roaming around mall, which they do on the weekends, that the girl is always crying out for attention. and when it really gets bad, they just take the girl along with them to watch movies - even the ones with a lot of action in them. It makes me wonder what effect that must have on the poor child. When I was faced with similar dilemma, me and my husband talked it over and I gave up my job! Initially for one year, even my husband worked part time so that we could both look after my son properly. We had some money saved up which tookcare of a lot of things then and now we just live simply, which is why I now work online. But given the choice between money and children, I will always choose the latter option!

I was a product of day care as well(like one of the respondents), and I feel that many parents, especially single parents need the service to take care of their family. There is a problem with the whole institution of family life that has been studied by historians and social scientists. Basically it goes like this: Working class people have always been working for the rich. In the past, the rich money makers were men, so their wives were capable of staying at home with their children. This was not so for the poor families- in poor families the mother had to work as well, usually as a maid for the rich families. Because of this, they were the ones in need of child care services. But society looked down on child care services because they had an idea that mothers need to take care of their kids. But you see it could never work out this way when mothers had to work. In such a way society has a really misconstrued concept of family. After spending most of my childhood years in day care, I agree with those who say a child doesn't need to spend that much time with the family once the child is past the age of 3 or 4. In Germany, young children are often left at home alone while the mother goes shopping, in order to be trained for independence and self-reliance. In America, people are often extremely protective of their children to the point where they are very spoiled.

Money matters too but having a child is a big responsibility not only giving all the things your child needs but also emotional. Just wait until their child grow up and they will see what will be the outcome of not having quality time with their kids.