adjustment with relations? LIMITATIONS of adjustment,,,, how can we decide it?

My advice. Be yourself. Do not do something, that does not fit with your self. And certainly, do something positive.

i am just trying to change that about myself. it is a hard one cos there are some people (like us) that just want to please others and we do this thinking (and hoping) that that person will treat us the same. but most of the time they dont. so you try harder, but i have now learnt that it doesnt work like that. so from now on i am not going to change the fact that i like to please others but that if i try with someone and they take advantage i will stand up for myself and not put up with it. if they cant/wont/or dont want to treat me the way i treat them then they are not someone i want in my life! i hope you are able to work out what is best for you to do.