staying together for the children

My mom did stay with my dad for us girls because she said she had no way of supporting us and my dad was not the kind of dad that you could get close to so in my opnion I don't think anyone should stay where she/he is happy there are ways of getting help to support your kids there are state funding's or living with a relative till you get on your feet there is a lot you can do to get out of a unhappy marriage and my family would help me if I ever need a place to go, but I am not in an unhappy marriage my husband is a great man.

If I'm in this situation, I'll be very tempted to leave if I'm not able to resolve the issue. However, I think, ultimately I will stay together for the time being at least, for the sake of the children , especially if they are still young and needs me to be around. It's really up to the parents to try to work things out so as to give their kids a complete and happy family environment to grow up in.

there should be no other reason for couples to stay together than love, and respect for each other. when people think of their children alone so they stay together... i think that will do more harm in the chld than good. seeing the parents not as they were before... that would be as traumatic as it is for them to separate.

One of my friends split up from her husband. They have two daughters. My friend is single and pleased that she will soon be divorced. Her husband dated another lady and then got her pregnant. He moved in with the lady, her three children and then their baby boy was born. I think that his original children are upset greatly by the divorce. If I was married and had problems I would choose to go to marriage guidance. Then would organize a vacation to Mauritius for me and him to get feeling romantic again. I would make sure that the hotel would have kids activity clubs for our children. If we still didn't get on well we might move home and then have separate bedrooms. We would stay in the same house for my children's benefit.

I know it's hard to stay together for the kids but the parents are the only hope of those children into having a better future. They could be sent to a foster home but a parent's guidance is still different from those that foster homes provide. If it was me in that situation, i would've tried my best to patch it up with the wife and take care of the children.

depends...but then if he or she has someone might as will have some one for me too

Hello Swissheart..it depends on you and how much you are able to handle ..in such a situation you want to think of the children but also of your own mental health.. Would your staying there pose a problem for the extra marital situation .. for you .. for her?

You have to live your life for yourself, not your children. You deserve to be happy. My friend tried to stay in an unhappy marriage for her children. She was just so miserable. She and her husband didn't even talk. He just went out every night and left her with the kids. Everyone except him was miserable. Better to make a clean break and have everyone have the chance to be happy.

If she is having an ongoing extra marital affair, then I would say no. I think that if you have children that is a reason to try very hard before you give up and make sure you have explored all solutions. If after trying all you could to make it work it still isn't working out then it is better for all to split up. I don't think though that you should stay together and have people on the side. Unless I guess that is something you both want to do so the children are happy and you both are happy. Though I think eventually that situation wouldn't end well.

I am not sure as I feel that I may be doing that right now. I am in a relationship that I am not sure if I still am in love with the person or not and yet for the kids I know I need to stay.

Well my sister experience same situation you picture until now. They have two children both boys but her husband has another girl. They stay in one house but they never talk to each other anymore. I don't know what will be the reaction of their children if their children will group up. The reason why my sister is still staying with her husband is because of the children. As for us, as long as her husband will not hurt my sister physically we will interrupt with their problem. If there is physical involve, it is another story.

If it was just for the children, I don't think that I would. I think that there would have to be more and other reasons for me to stay, other than the children. I wouldn't want my kids to see me miserable or anything like that.

all marriages have problems, not all of them are worth leaving - many can be worked through. However, if it is abusive then I say get out - that's not staying for the kids at all. Plus one day the kids will grow up and then you'll be stuck with your partner!

I know it's hard to stay together for the kids but the parents are the only hope of those children into having a better future. They could be sent to a foster home but a parent's guidance is still different from those that foster homes provide. If it was me in that situation, i would've tried my best to patch it up with the wife and take care of the children.

No, that would not be a good choice for anyone. It's bad to stay in an unhappy, unhealthy relationships (bad for the parents and the kids). It's better that the kids see their parents seperate and happy than seeing them together and unhappy. And both parents could meet people that are better for them, and the children will see what a good relationship is about.

No. I wouldn't. Some people think that that is the right thing to do for the children, but I disagree. Children shouldn't have to be around that sort of atmosphere. I think they should definitely try to work it out, maybe even go to marriage counseling or something like that, but if it just isn't going to work out, then the parents need to let go. They need to go find happiness. That is the right thing to do for the children. Divorce is hard for the kids, but in the long run it's much easier on them. Children can feel the tension in a house, even as babies. Also, divorce is becoming more and more common and so the kids won't feel so weird about it. I think that that's one of the hardest things, that other people look at them differently.