Do u agree think 2 much will hinder u make a decision?
By longsdogin
@longsdogin (454)
China
December 30, 2010 9:33pm CST
HI,my lotters,I'm in a awkward situation now,I need to make a decision but I think 2 much about the result of the decision will lead to.When I think more about it I find it is harder for me to make my decision.There's a old saying,Look before u leap.Now I wonder it is not always right.Look ,now I'm make myself in a dilemma.Do u have such experience?Do u agree with me?Any good suggestion?Thanks for ur reply.
6 responses
@dogsnme (1264)
• United States
2 Jan 11
I agree. I tend to do that sometimes. It's good to think through things before we act but sometimes we think on them too much. It's easy to think too much and rationalize all the reasons why we shouldn't do something. Often, those rationalizations become unrealistic and we talk, or think, ourselves out of a choice that would be good for us.
@mahto1000 (51)
• India
31 Dec 10
Ya thinking too much always confuses us. In fact anything beyond the limit is not good. So don't think too much, JUST DO IT!!!
@billzehua (573)
• China
31 Dec 10
I've been there before, worrying too much each option ahead. I struggled for nearly half a month, going back and forth, back and forth, and then finally I went deep into my soul and found the answer. I cooled down for a while, but on and off I would think what if I went for the other option, the untaken road, what would be the reality now.I still believe thinking much but taking no action makes no point. Looks like you have to think about which elements you can offload, then you may be clearer of which you think should stay.Best luck!
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
31 Dec 10
Thinking too much isn't the problem. The real problem is wanting to never make a mistake. More is learned through mistakes than anything else. If you allow fear of failure to freeze your actions, you are freezing yourself from life and learning. So decide!!!! Write down the plus and minus about it. If you really want to do it and can live with the minus, do it. If it doesn't work out and you fall flat on your face, you will not only learn what not to do, you might even see the new direction you can take to get what you really want. Listen to the advice of others but WALK YOUR OWN PATH!!! Never allow others to choose for you or talk you into living life their way. This is your life. CHOOSE!!! Remember, the most successful people all made plenty of mistakes along the way. It was more important for them to reach their goal than anything else. I think you already know the right choice. Do it YOUR WAY!!!!
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
31 Dec 10
For me yes if you are not thinking the things involve your work it must be fast to decide.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
31 Dec 10
I have always been a heavy thinker and a way over one at that. As my thoughts always rely on the what if's. This has been the wrong approach and sometimes I cannot help but think this way.
So the only thing I can suggest is that when you are thinking about a decision you mentally weigh out the pros and cons and if you make a decision you do not go back to the what if, this way even if it was the wrong decision at least you made it yourself and were at the time satisfied when you did so.
Good luck to you and Happy New Years to you.