what should I do?
By nakula2009
@nakula2009 (2325)
Indonesia
December 31, 2010 10:33pm CST
I am a man who has been married 3 times,the age of marriage with my wife who has been nearly a third this year, and I still live with my in-laws, in married life I was always confused and dizzy from my in-laws always interfere in the life my household, what should I do? because I was annoyed and confused at my in-laws
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4 responses
@najibdina29 (1309)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 11
Now it was just how you manage it, would be accepted well and relax or continue to exist contrary to the law. You do not need all events make a problem that makes you angry, resentful antipathy finally finished. Because this is also related to your husband, after all they are your husband's family who now are your family too.
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Happy New Year my friend! I am not married, but I think I just want to advise you what to do based on my personal opinion and observation. I am not suggesting though that you will follow it rather consider it as an option.
It is natural that in-laws do interfere with your family life because you are living with them. They will always see something in you and it is part of their being protective to their daughter. The only way to stop or at least lessen that meddling or interference is to move out and live with your own.
Live separately with your family away to your in-laws and only visit them during holiday season. Go to a place which transportation is not that financially accessible so that they have a reason not to come over. I think, independence is the best. Your privacy is paramount.
@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 11
congratulations to know new friends.it is true what you say that moving house is one of my settlement, but for now I am not likely to move due to financial reasons I
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
2 Jan 11
Hi there Nakula! That is the sad thing about it and finances or budget is always the most likely and possible reason that hinders and bars us to be independent from our parents. The only solution now is to have patience mingling with your in-laws. Just go with the flow.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 11
It is best to live is to show your independence, do not worry if you feel confused, because this is fair in marriage. try to restructure the future of your marriage from the start today. Because marriage without the vision and mission of only a garbage can,
Discussion with your wife is the best way for you.
@dayangsumbi2010 (1724)
• Indonesia
11 Jan 11
The most simple answer is do not live close-in-law,Both independent.if you hitch because the economy is more ready to accept the reality and be patient while the fatherly. Find time for your self & your partner.It's a fact that often occur. ok? sorry if there is no pleasure.