To forget him or not?
@Bianca_mergillano (1067)
Philippines
January 1, 2011 10:25pm CST
I'm having a hard time right now because whenever I open my facebook account, I feel like there's something there I don't want to see. I mean I don't want to see someone's facebook and that is the guy that caused me to act such a desperate girl over him. It all started here. A guy sent me a message on facebook (that is him), and the message goes like this "You look familiar? Have we met before?". I know it sounds typical because most of the guys do say those things whenever they want a girl. Then I replied, "Really? You're just like those guys saying that phrase. Its not new to me. Hehe but why did you say so?". He said that I looked like his friend. By the way he's a model and he thought that I'm his friend in MODELO. I was flattered but he still insists that I'm his friend and I was only pretending that I'm someone else. Hahahaha! After so many explanations, he's convinced then he wants me to share his business. That time I really need money and work or something to make me busy. He always sends messages on my facebook and texts me. Then we decided to meet because of the business. I was late on our meet up. We supposed to meet at exactly 1:30pm but I came late. Really late, 4:00pm. He did his part he present his presentation and etc. then (I hope my mom wouldn't be mad if she read this!) he hold my hand like we're in a relationship. I told him "why are you doing this?" he said, "because we're attracted to each other." The thing that's on my mind that time is this "Oh really? Its only you who's attracted to me. I don't like you." OOOHHH I'm so bad! To make it short. I DON'T LIKE HIM. I really don't but that was at first. We met again because he's going to give me something. That day we we're supposed to go somewhere to have fun then suddenly he had an appointment! I feel disappointed because we we're supposed to have fun. Okay, I went with him in his business appointment that was around 1:00pm. I thought their business talk will only last for an hour so I patiently wait for him. Wait and wait until its almost 6:00pm. I was disappointed but I can't interrupt their conversation just to tell him I want to go home and I also can't because I don't know where I am and how to get back in our place. At last! After that I thought he's not busy anymore but another text message came that he has an appointment at exactly 7:00pm. WOW! I'm really lucky! I wanna burst! I'm mad! I only got 1 hour to talk with him. Another reason why I met him that day is I want to spend some time with him. That 1 hour we ate for a while then he brought me home. That say when I got home I realized that I miss him. I don't know the reason why. Days passed I'm missing him more. Before, whenever he's texts me, I just feel nothing but now, wow! I'm always excited to check my phone and wait for his message BUT BUT BUT, I don't know what's on his mind. I don't know if he likes me because he's busy in his business and I know he meets a lot of girls better than me. OH, I don't want to be in a situation like this! Now, I feel that I love him. I'm such a crazy girl reading his 2 text messages over and over again! First text is "Merry Christmas blah blah..." then the second one is "Happy New Year blah blah...". I want to see him right now but I can't because he's too busy so I want be involved in his business too. So that's another reason why I came back here in mylot to earn again and to share my feelings. I want to be with him always through his business. Another thing, we we're supposed to have a date this December but it didn't happen because he didn't tell me so. I waited for his text or call but he's so busy. Whenever I call him, he's busy. He's always busy but I got excited when he told me that we are going to our province for the business and of course, with me. Hahaha I'm so happy but for now, I can't. I must have money for investment in his business first so I would have a reason to be with him. Oh, I look so desperate. Now, I'm in a situation wherein I don't know if I should hope for him or not. Should I?
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10 responses
@PDBME2 (1014)
• United States
2 Jan 11
Well the whole thing sounds fishy to me. First of all you should be thankful that he wasn't a psycho that could have raped or killed you on that meeting. Second, I think he is slowly making you feel special and wanting him so he ignores you so you could think of him more and more. I think you should block him or delete him as a friend. If he is really interested in you let him find a way to reach you at home or via phone. Even then still be careful, you don't want to be what they say a "booty call".
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@jaspey (24)
• Philippines
2 Jan 11
i do respect your opinion and idea but
ignoring is not agood form of showing that you love a person
if you love that person he/she should show it...
love is acted upon not said...
remember this quote
"actions speak louder than words"
it is really an old saying but its TRUE :)
@jhartana (1084)
• Australia
3 Jan 11
Well the best course for avoiding this is to move on. I know it must be hard for you but you need to have willingness to do it. Find an activity or anything that makes you busy so it will help you to bury your past memory. Don't give him any hope because it would be hurtful for both of you. Once finished then it is finished and time to move on. I trust you can do it. All the best for you.
@amirev777 (4117)
• India
8 Mar 11
Hi
Its really a tough decision to make no doubt, so here it is better if you use your brain and not your heart. think there is nothing wrong in being friendly with him first, once you personally interact with him, you will know his true nature.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
Wow that was a lengthy one. Anyway in my opinion, you will be in hot water if you fall for him because you don't really know him that much. Perhaps it will be better if do a little investigation, such as try to know if he is single or is not engaged to any girl yet. For me, this is the first thing that a woman should try to discover first in a man they like, because you don't wanna be a wrecker of a relationship right?
@Tyler198961 (148)
• China
3 Jan 11
It is really a long story. I think you should light up and forget that guy.
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
2 Jan 11
One of the first questions I would ask is how much money does he want from you to join his business? The second question would be...what are you getting out of this relationship?
Something is very wrong with this. If I were you I would run for the hills. You need someone who will at least attempt to put you first but he is not it.
One thing you need to ask yourself and that is why, with so little attention from him, do you feel this way? Why, when you get so little of his time, do you find yourself attracted so strongly. These are very serious questions that you need to answer because there is a reason behind it.
He is a text book example of advice that some men get on attracting women. In short that is to be mysterious, direct, and always...ALWAYS....keep them guessing. Never let them know too much about you. This causes the kind of attraction you are feeling. It is a challenge to you and many women cannot resist it.
I would ask you this. Have you ever known another man that was very open...told you everything about himself....was always on time and never kept you waiting...and was always very thoughtful of you? Took you out, gave you gifts? If so how did you feel about him? To easy right? No challenge and you never had to guess about anything and you just didn't have the same attraction you feel now.
If you answered yes to that then you have your answer as to why you feel this way about this guy. Regardless you must know this....he places himself and his business way above you. That will never change because right now...when you have first met...should be when he is going out of his way to make you part of his life. Once you are really together or even married you will see even less of him.
Be very careful with this relationship and keep your head on straight.
If he truly valued you as a girl friend you would not have to hope for him.
Continue this relationship and you will one day be very sorry you wasted your time.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
2 Jan 11
OMG! i feel dizzy when i saw your discussion it was too long and I can't almost finished to read it..:) i feel sleepy (joke!) nice one Bianca. It is in your own decision if you want to forget him or still not. That is belong to your memory. For me if he was good person welcome but if not and if you think he wasn't "goodbye" that is my answer! Be happy!
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
2 Jan 11
Have you eaten orange or banana? Must have. How do you do it? Take the fruit and peel out the orange or banana and peel out and eat the fruit and throw the the skin. Do the same here. Whatever you don't require, just throw away.
I think you are a matured person and you should have the knowledge to know what is good and what not. If you find something which is a nuisance, how you feel them to entertain such fellows. The best way is ignore. Ignore such non sense. They are the plagues. When you people are entertain or follow such people, they will get more energy and enthusiasm to deal more comfortably. Identify those buffoons and pluck out from the place, and walk freely.
As you know, facebook is one common place and there may be so much of intruders. If you find not fine, ignore. Just ignore is the best medicine for them, and they will not try any more attempts. If you follow, then you will be in trouble. They will try new and different way of approach but your sense of humor is the main object here and act wisely, this will help atlest in future.
Thank-s
@adewalestephenade (30)
• Nigeria
2 Jan 11
NO, No, NO... first u guys only met on the net and u were so sure u didn't know him when he said he did... then he's asking u to invest in him( or is it his business), a business u probably know next to nothing about... and now there's problem from my own viewpoint since you're already having a crush on him and then u've managed to let him know ur house. Be wise!!!
