Thinking of my dad...

I have told my side of the story to my dad but he says my mom is the one who doesn't want us around. She gets mean when she is mad. She will threaten him that she'll leave, ask for money, maybe sometimes throw things at him. She will tell him that she doesn't love him or never did, that he owes it to her. My dad really loves my mom.

Well I thought about getting the number to a neighbour to call if an emergency arose but my parents don't really know the neighbors that surround both of them. Sending domestic help is hard. My parents are very picky about who is inside their home although my mom has friends over that have swindled her out of money. She likes people who compliment her that she gets blinded in knowing who is safe or not. My dad he's a good person but he will go along with my mom's whims. I think my dad would see it as an attack if I got any kind of authorities involved in the whole thing. I thought about that today maybe getting a court order to force them to some help. My dad's mom was put in a mental institute when she lived with my parents. My dad blames himself for having married my mom. My mom is good at making stories up, even when she was younger so I wonder if my grandmother got instituted because of my mom. Long story but no one talks about the whole subject. I recently reconnected with my aunt, my mom's sister, and she has been shunned by my mom as well. She doesn't even know why, no one does. She told me that my dad will go along with my mom so to try to just give her time. She said my mom's mom got severe dementia before she got Alzheimer's and became mean towards people at the end. I would leave them alone but my dad's last email got me thinking when he said his blood pressure is high. My mom won't even let my kids talk to my dad. What keeps me back right now is creating problems for my dad by bringing more heartache to him. At the end of whatever visit, he is the one that will have to deal with my mom if nothing gets accomplished. He loves my mom so much that he would get mad if we even said that she's getting Alzheimer's.

PDBME2, I am really sorry to hear that the situation has reached this stage between your parents and your family. I just pray that you will be patient and tact since all of you have arrived at the most crucial and sensitive stage of this rather strained relationship. I hope that your parents will realize your sincerity and love. Most of all, arrive to understand all that you had done. My prayers and thoughts are with your parents.