I don't want to feel desperate

..hi bianca.. problems are part of life that we can't just ignore. I'd say we are in the same position right now. Crying is fine because it is our way of releasing our emotions and it would be better like that because we can bring out what we feel inside. Being in the midst of these problems in life, I know that its hard to move on but we have to. What's best to do as to my personal experience is to determine what you really want in life and pursue that want. Try to think of things that will make you happy and focus on them, turning your problems into small steps towards the achievement of your goal of happiness. Don't let your problems rule over you. After all, happiness is a choice and if you let your problem rule over you, you will never learn how to stand up and move forward. Remember that in life, it is very hard to struggle and try to fight the storm, what we need is to learn how to dance with the rain and go with the flow. If it is because of someone that you are depressed right now, think of your personal happiness. Your happiness doesn't depend on somebody else, it depends on you. If you chose to be happy then you will be. believe me, I've been through a lot of pains and even those that I thought it is very impossible for me to surpass but thank God, He thought me what to do and how to ride with those challenges. Smile and think that you're beautiful after all..

You should handle this problems one at a time. It would probably do you more good to go ask help to the right people concerning your problems, maybe your parents, siblings or friends, or whoever you feel comfortable with. I also find praying and talking to God a lot of help in most cases and in times I do tend to burst into tears while praying heartily. I do wish I could be of help I do hope that things will turn out right for you soon. Whatever it is that you are dealing with right now, I find this saying very true "Behind dark clouds, there is a sun shining", hope it works for you, too. Godspeed my friend.

Go do something fun to take your mind of off things. Eat a candy bar, go to a movie, turn the music up and dance like a crazy person, go for a walk and really look at and appreciate our surroundings. Just take your self away from the worry for a little while and do something that is fun or crazy. You will feel a lot better if you do. Sometimes we just need to leave everything behind and just do something fun.

You know that was only emotion you need to be strong like Samson. That is very ordinary to all of us but if we are weak to carry everything around us we will not have a good decisions in life and determination. Being a superwoman is a trend now. And you need to practice that all the time. Be a determined woman you are a bright girl. You are like your mother very determined in spite of the problems. B like that. Life is not hard but it was easy.. Make your life happy don't think of the problem which is not yet happen. According to Fr Winston faith is the thing you never see means you don't know what will going to happen but still you are on hold to your faith. Relax and be happy life is easy!

hello Bianca, If you are facing problems,you really feels desperate esp if you don't know how to resolved it. The thing is,whether you keep thinking of it or not...will it resolved the problem? So,if you think you cannot resolved the problem yet,why not dismissed the thing first. Why not enjoy each day,go out and have fun. Sometimes going out and having fun with friends will give you solution. When you are not depressed/stressed you can think more ,and your mind works better as well. So,you need to relax to have your mind refreshed and be more active. Keep smiling,the world will smile at you

The title of this topic tells me you're going to be all right. Depressive people usually don't have the strength to even oppose their state of mind. They just wallow in their despair and do nothing about it. But apparently you can talk about it and you want to fight it. This means you have the resources inside you to do so. Good luck! I'm sure everything will work out fine.

Let yourself burst crying, let everything out so it will make you feel better in the end. I also would suggest you talking to your closest person, maybe your parent or your best friend. After you finished your cry you just sit there quietly and start reflecting yourself on what you have done in the past and probably you can think something better. Try to think something positive too. Watching movies or going out to shops will ease your sadness.

If you need to cry go ahead and do it. It will help you feel better and relieve some of the stress that you are under. Start on your problems one at a time. I cannot advise you where to start but for me when problem solving I try to solve the most important problem first. Make a list of your problems and decide which problem you need to devote more time to. Make this problem a priority. This does not mean that you cannot work on your problems all at once but this will give you a clear starting point. Good luck and keep us posted.

hi bianca_mergillano, I understand what you feel. I also feel same way especially before the New Year. I broke up with my boyfriend. We had been on our relationship for 3 years and God knows how much we love each other. Unfortunately, we need to broke up as we find that our relationship is going nowhere because of some problems too. We still have feelings for each other but I don't think so it is still right to be back with each other. I also almost cry every time I think of the past. However, I tried to forget the feelings no matter how hard it is. I give more time to my family and friends. They make me forget the pain I am feeling. I also keep myself busy in order not to have a chance to think of him or the sadness of what happened with us. I think one effective way is to pray also. I believe that time can heal our wounds. It might not be healed soon but I know that time will come, we can overcome this sadness.

Chill. You have to face thing with full patience. Also, do remember that you are not alone. You friends are around you, ask them for help yeah?

The important thing is that you don't stay down in the dumps like that. Consider your life problems as a challenge. Need to save money? Pick up a side-job or start another online site and just put that you make directly toward your savings! I'm starting to do that, and if you don't touch it and spend it, it actually adds up faster than you would think.

hello bianca! maybe you just don't have to start solving your problems right away. What you might need to do right now is to take a deep breath, relax and loosen up. Meditate and pray if you have to. Do whatever it is that will help you feel relax to clear your mind. If you have to cry, then cry your heart out, if only to express those bottled-up feelings inside you. The most important thing to achieve right now is to unclutter your mind, to free yourself of the burden so that you will be able to step back and take stock of the situation and decide on the most rational thing to do. Having problems and getting stressed out over it, will not help you solve your problems at all. You must first clear up your mind so you would be able to weigh and judge things clearly, so you will not commit any mistake and be able to solve your problems in the most possible time and with ease.

I think that the best thing to do is to become involved in something. This will help to distract your mind from thinking about all the negative stuff. I think that getting around some good,quality, positive people will help a lot as well. If you can find someone that will listen, maybe talking to someone and getting all the negative emotions off your chest will help to relieve some of the pressure that's building up inside.

burst it out...shout it all. make a day for you to separate alll the problems to make way to another days to solve whatever that barred you from being happy. chin up and be proud that you are strong and that the problem you are having know will eventually be solve soon. keep a high heel on possibilities

hi biana let go a nd cry then go to your mom or dad or whoever you feel the most comfortable with and talk it out,often you can get solutions from them and also a little comfort too from those who love you. a problem shared with someone who cares about you is a problem halved. now just tackle one thing at a time, relax listen to music and tv and stick the restof them in to a corner in your room and forget them .If you' have a boyfriend who you can trust let him help too bu only if he is mature and really cares for you. otherwise your family is your friend' Bianca so use them let us know how you come ou=t.

It's okay to cry. Just cry earnestly, and you will feel lighter on the problem. Just tackle one at a time, in priority order. You will solve it in no time.