Me, My, Mine, I

I hate people who never give other people a chance to talk and always have to have control over the conversation. It gets old real quick and so I don't try to spend a lot of time with these types of people. The most ironic thing is that those who always feel the need to talk, don't really have anything all that interesting to say. If someone is unable to listen, they are unable to learn; and if someone is unable to learn, they just aren't going to have anything all that brilliant to say, now are they? Of course, it's okay to want to be the center of attention sometimes, but when you are steam-rolling people, it's just not cool and people don't appreciate it.

Good Evening from Europe. Sometimes i'm like that, like the person who you described, because i see other people rare, i talk with other people rare and sometimes i want nothing more but to talk with someone about what happens with me. I was not that way before, it happened last one year, when i moved to one city and i don't have friends here. I live modest, without a lot of money and don't have chance to go out so much. I totally miss my social life.

I like to have my turn at talking like every body else, but I can also be a good listener and listen to other people's stories as well. I think a good conversation is one where every body contributes and everyone is laughing and obviously enjoying their selves. I am always polite and let others talk, and then it when it is my time to talk, I do.

Hi sweetie. I'm not much of a talker and don't like any attention focused on me. I'm not that important so i would rather listen to people blabbering than trying to get my way in any conversation. TATA.

It feels good to be the apple of everyone's eye but then it is much better to focus the attention on helping others and giving praises to others than be an arrogant proud person. When a praise is directed to me, it makes me embarrassed so i hide behind a facade! I pretend that i am a different person, a courageous brave one and a little arrogant. But that's not the real me! I am a person who cares to listen to others when they have a story to tell or a problem to share. As i want someone who would listen to me too when i am in need!

My you know i know someone that acts exactly in this manner. I guess its best way to treat someone of this character is to just ignore them, this reaction actually frustrates them and most times they end up sulking. It is really very annoying and complicated being around self centered people like this. Maybe the reason they act this way is because they have no confidence in their self and so they fear not being recognized at all. Another reason should be that they just love controlling people.

HI! I love to be a listner and would rather listen to others rather than talking about myself. I love it when they talk about their joys and sorrows and problems, this way I help them to vent out and make them feel better. Wherever, I feel, I offer my advice also on their problems. You see everybody loves to talk and talk and wants to be a speaker not a listener, so am fulfilling the shortage of listeners.............lol! (on the serious Note, I feel good at heart that I could be of help to someone, if s/he tells me about him/her).

Eurekafemme- You bring up an interesting point and it is funny because one cannot truly answer your question without speaking about themselves because you have asked for their personal experience. It is difficult for some to not speak about their own lives because they have fallen into the pattern of always relating every single experience to their own path and have not trained themselves to get rid of the personal pronouns. The truth is one can speak about a topic without once relating the topic to their own life. One need only focus, and as you mentioned listen to what the writer/speaker is saying/writing. When one can focus on this information one can then provide a clear answer without once involving their own life. So, as you have asked for my own personal experience I shall relate your topic to myself and make this response about me. Two years ago when I first started on Mylot one of the articles I posted was on this very topic of the use of personal pronoun, and not just the use of the "I, Me, You, It" and so forth. It was focused on the person's needs to insert themselves into everyone else story. For example, someone tells the story of their recent shopping experience and instead of writing just about the facts the responder feels the need to relate their own experience. Typically what occurs is what we refer to as a "one upper", meaning that the person responding tries to tell a bigger and better tale. If the first person said they had to wait ten minutes in line, the responder will make it three hours. This can be a dangerous path because it leads to people now inventing their reality instead of living in the actuality. It also prevents the responder from truly listening and analyzing what the speaker is relating because they are busy thinking of their response while the person is speaking. Unless I am asked for my personal experience I try very hard to not relate them when making a response. I try to focus on the other person. I can offer advise without saying one thing about what I may have experienced in my life. As you say, the types who have to always speak about their own problems when another person is relating their problems aren't really listening. They aren't really showing they care, and they probably will have nothing to offer to the person once that person does ask for advice or help. Great discussion. Namaste-Anora

It's me. Yes, it's me. Why not? I do. I have. I like.