How could we saved scarred married life?

I do not think I could forgive the betrayal of one you love. I belong to the category of those who, if he cheated, no matter how great the deception, it emerges from the relationship forever. But I know plenty of women and men, although I know they have been deceived by their partners, are proud of their ability to be forgiven and to be walked on, thus saving his marriage. Most times, rely on just their immeasurable love for our partners, love in the name of which pass over the humiliation and betrayal laceration. But I think that when you really love, you can not forgive the infidelity near you. I think if you love the thought that the man whom I dedicate every thought of you and your body and soul was unveiled in front of another is absolutely unbearable. And, in my opinion, only if you no longer totally love to get over such a devastating accident. Proud that their husbands know wives, lovers of other women, they return, yet at home. In such women, apparently docile, I suspect of crass unlovable. I know husbands who said that while his wife put their horns, they will not leave because they feel sorry for children. There are those that I suspect him of cowardice, not deep love unfaithful to their partners. Because it's very hard to get their lives anew. But when you really love, the love story inevitably ends in betrayal day. I think it, feel it, I knew that I could never forgive or forget. Maybe because I love always too much to be possible to live beyond my imagining their embrace ...

Hi Brean-rhea, If his wife was unfaithful and he can't find it in his heart to work on re-building the marriage and the trust back up then he should just end the marriage. It sounds to me like he is either trying to even the score or is looking for sympathy from these other women which could lead to more. Are you even sure that she was really unfaithful? Some men come up with these stories as an excuse to cheat and sadly, women do fall for them. Hard to say what this man's deal is but it doesn't sound good.

As a husband, should find out the reason, why his wife was having an affair. No, glancing at another woman. Perhaps as a husband, he has been the cause of his wife's affair.

Hi there, I would like to say that two wrongs don't make a right but having been in a bad marriage myself, I would question whether or not the wife is really cheating on him, it may be something that he is just telling people so that he does not look like the bad person and to get sympathy so that he can go on his merry cheating ways. Also if they really loved each other they wouldn't be cheating in the first place, trust or no trust, having kids together does not necessarily mean that they still love each other like they should to make a marriage work and without trust there can be no real marriage.

Well I don't understand why he is telling everyone that his wife is unfaithful? Does he want women to sympathize with him on having a wife that is unfaithful? It just doesn't make sense. My husband and I were talking about this tonight. We know this man who was having problems in his marriage. He would always go to church alone with his kids. Ok on the outside this looks like it's a perfect man. He always came over to greet me, even sometimes ignored my husband. Well over the years he left his wife. She shows up to church crying saying that he has left her. Then she tells me that he left her for another lady at another church. I guess he must have been shopping for a lady friend who would console him because he had problems in his marriage. She told me that he likes to have female friends he can talk to or hug, get their sympathy. Looking back at the last few years it was definately what he was doing. I never really stayed talking to him because it would upset my husband. There was another man who did the same thing with his wife and they had been together for over 20 years.

I am not married. But what I believe regarding relationship is that, bonding is very important and another important thing is honesty. If one partner is doing a mistake, another should not do the same. If he is aware of the mistakes his wife is doing, then he has to discuss it properly with his wife. And is wife is really sory for whatever she has done, then its ok to proceed in their relationship. Because, I feel its very easy to break a relationship rather than to keep it. But if at all wife is not at all interested anymore in continuing in current relation, then I think its the time to come out of it.