Being forced to start a new life...

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I have been through a majorly traumatic time over the last ten years of my life, thanks to my unloving fiancee who I have three children with. She is covertly narcissistic and has basically completely destroyed my reputation with her malicious lies, turned all of her own family against and made them think that I am paranoid and even turned my own family against me to try to cover up the fact that she was sleeping with another member of her family for several years. We have a six year old daughter together though I have always had doubts as to whether she really is my biological daughter or not. Many of my family also have the same doubts and it seems it's a possibility that the family member she was sleeping with may be her true biological father which would mean that they were sleeping together for five years at least. When I tried to reveal the truth she completely twisted everything back around on me and had people believing that I was cheating on her when in fact the opposite was the case. I have never got around to getting a paternity test as the woman has never let me have any money or financial control within the relationship. Every time I tried to leave she would do everything within her power to stop me and would even use other people who I considered to be my closest family and friends to manipulate me back into the relationship. Although she lies and cheats she tells me that she's had it done to her and knows what it feels like and that she could never do that to me despite the fact that she was lying through her teeth all along. She was willing to let me get beaten up by someone who I accused her of sleeping with, rather than admit the truth. She had the people closest to me stealing my thoughts and going back and telling her and the guy she was sleeping with exactly what I was thinking so that they could manipulate me even further, a kind of mental rape if you will. I'm amazed at how deceitful, filthy, manipulative and disgusting this woman is capable of being. Not only that but she gets other people to do just the same which I now find quite disturbing. I have nearly died twice becasue of her and I have suffered some pretty serious stress-related illnesses since I met her. I now feel that I have no choice but to get away from these people and start a new life and any words of advice are more than welcome. People keep telling me to get over it but they do not realize the extent as to how disturbing this relationship is, I had already been through hell with her before all of this started. The guy who she was sleeping with is everywhere, I seem him every day and I am unable to attend family occassion's and parties, etc because he always seems to be there, the guy has basically ruined my life. To know that all her family knew what was going on and that they were helping them to get away with it is even more disturbing which I think was done to stop other family members from finding out the truth. However, they were all laughing at me behind my back and one of them was even spiking my coffee and trying to convince me that everything was all in my head. I have only ever met the guy four or five times and every time he has taken the pure micky out of me. Anyway, after ten years of pathological hell I need to break free from this woman and her family and start over anew with someone else. I am 32 now and I really thought she was the woman I wanted to settle down with. However it turned out that her innocent sweet angel front that she put on was just to cover up the fact that she's evil and demonic underneath. Has anyone else been a through a similar experience and come out the other side? I'd love to hear your words of advice.