Should a woman hide her past relationship to her future husband?

Hi EdnaReyes. Well lets put it this way if she don't tell him then her past could come back to bite her in the bottom. Some of my husbands I told all about my past and some of them I didn't. I found it better when I let them know. The man that I am married to now knows all about my past and I know about his past and we don't dwell on the past. Besides if you can't tell him the whole truth about your past this shows some distrust you have with him. He has a past too no matter who you are we all have a past to our lives. And what went on before we met our mates in this life it is your past and nothing can be said about what you did in the past. If you are going to be judged about your past then this isn't a good person. Be judged by God not by man! Ask God for forgiveness and move on to the rest of your life. Don't forget the past keep it in mind so you won't do what ever was bad again. Bless God and HE will bless you!

There should be nothing hidden from our partners as it will lead to a destructive and broken marriage. Especially if it is something that will perhaps be discovered after marriage. During the dating period it is best to discuss past relationships. No gory details are necessary but I believe both partners should discuss certain things so that this way one another understands and fully appreciate each others honesty. Thereafter they are both informed and it should not be discussed thereafter marriage as the past is certainly the past. Also so as long as that past does not impact the current and or future.

If I were your friend, I would make it clear to my future spouse that, although I do have a past, it is all in the past, and I am starting clean and fresh with him. Then, I'd never mention subject again. If he asks a specific question, I'd answer it truthfully but offer no details. I wouldn't pry into his past, either.

I think it's okay to mention who your ex is, but stay away from all the details. Her future husband doesn't really need to know, and he probably has details in his past that he's not sharing. Honesty is good, but it should be tempered with common sense. Men want to be the centre of their wive's universe. Let them think they are.

I think one should be 100% transparent, no hiding at all, because truth will come out one day, at that time it may cause more harm, she must realize this truth, advise her accordingly.. thanks for this post kalyani

If I were her husband, I would not care what she did before I made her into a woman from the wild young lady she was before. That is what Genesis meant by 'leave their father and their mother'; they leave the blame for their pasts in the past, and become responsible instead for one another.

I think there are a lot of things we keep to ourselves and that it's fair enough...but there are other things in our past that perhaps should be said before we marry...I know we leave the past behind...but the past got a way to show up at the most unexpected time and place...so if there is something to say? just come clear before getting marry!

For me not because they are accuse of hes husband that whole life they are lied so it is worse if the husband don't accept the truth.

would it ruin her relationship? is it really important for the other person to know? would that person understand what she's gone through? does he love her that much? i guess those are the questions that should be dealt with by your friend. though it is good to be honest to your partner, she should take the consequence as well if she'll tell her secrets. does it really matter if she tells it or not?

Whether you hide something or not depends on your future husband's views,if he cares much what should be a secret,you'd better not tell him the whole thing

better if we are honest to a new partner, because we keep confidential certain sepandainya also uncovered and the Lord has a thousand different ways to unpack everything, although it has been shaped wind

As what I understand, the lying can be for good intention and bad intention. To maintain a good relationship with your partner, we should lie. This is for a good intention. In her case, she is hiding the past to her fiance. I am not sure if she is considered as lying or not. Lying is a very serious moral problem to us. We should be honest to our partner. In fact, I suggest her to tell everything to her fiance about her past and ask for the excuse if she was wrong. Everyone should has the past. The relationship might be blown off if her fiance find out later. If it is really happened, the fiance might angry because of her dishonest to hide the past to him.

well i think she should tell him and let him make the decision.

Its insane to hide anything(almost)from your husband, and specialy if its about your past , hes so keen on knowing it , but there are things your are better off telling him, because what i have experienced and read that when you tel your husbands about your past they find it very faithful of you to do so, but later on , when the time is not right , they are pisst at you for something , then these things become a major part of your quarrel, you know what i mean right , so its better to hide some issues which will only creatr problems in the future.

I don't feel that it is necessary for my wife to tell me of her past relationships nor hide it. It is really nothing to do with me, because the past is gone and can never be revisited except in the imagination, and then that can cause a whole lot of problems if you try to solve things that cannot be solved! Also I don't mind if my wife wants to tell me about past relationships and how she feels about them. Nobody can stop feeling what they feel, they can only bury it, and that is not good practice as it causes stress that leads to other complications. My philosophy of life is that it's best for a couple to be free with each other. So free that they can openly talk about anything and be accepted exactly how they are. _Derek

It would be better to not have past relationships at all. Stay pure until marriage, and then this isn't an issue. But since it is, it is better to not hide anything. What if he does blow up and leave her when he finds out? Wouldn't it be better to end it now, rather than spend years and have kids, only to have him leave?

No man wants a woman with a past. Every man thinks that the woman he is going to marry should have a past as clean as a clean slate. Now this friend of yours had a past. The best thing for her to do is to push her past under the carpet in a way that her husband never ever knows about it. If her past surfaces ever again in future then it would simply be too bad for her. Not all husbands are forgiving. She should be prepared to face the music in that case.

I think they should reveal all their past to their future husband...., because sometimes it can be a problem later if its not revealed, especially if your future husband find it out himself

I think, if the past relation was as deeper that a woman hard to forget it so it is good to share with future husband, but if the relation is not for many years and not so deep and it may be forget after some time so it is better to avoid such sharing, because these sharing may be effect aal the life and give negative, so why we lose our future relation for those persons who leave us and make us sad.

It depends what relationship. you can tell him something and something does not need to tell