Ex-Lover Who Loves Boxing Women For Love
By Cherish2004
@Cherish2004 (183)
United States
January 5, 2011 10:29am CST
I use to be with this guy who tells me that he love and only make love with me. And the bad thing about it I saw him once a week and on his own time. Even after making love he would tell me "Love Me" and leave me with his friends.
Ten months in the relationship he start to beat me. The frist time he did it, he beat while we make love, and then he would tell me would that he "Love Me". Then he leave me in the room with so much pain, and back to his friends.
The second and the last time he started to beat me again it was over money and I lie to him. He took to a place where nobody was around and he started to sreaching my pocket for money. Once he found my money on me, he kick me on the ground and kick in the face. He took my money, my phone, and my clothes. I felt that I didn't lie to him because I was to buy new clothes for my new job. Which I started a month ealier and got the job while he was in jail for a week.
My whole family was really upset about the situation and want me to call the calls the cop. But if I did, I going to end up get dropping the charges because "I Love Him So Much".
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9 responses
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
7 Jan 11
Forgive me but I don't think you're loving a man. You are loving a beast and you allowed him to abuse you because you love him? remember,loving is not hurting. love is giving inspirations, consoling, making you feel good. If you allow somebody to hurt you,then you're not loving either.Why don't you obey your parents, they are the ones who really love you because they don't want you to be hurt by your lover. Find another who could love you right!
@Cherish2004 (183)
• United States
13 Jan 11
I over him because I know I want better for myself from a guy. I'm try find a guy who is willing to have the heart to handle me as a "Turn On."
@Cherish2004 (183)
• United States
13 Jan 11
I know that how leave me alone and go way unless you have a real comment in mind for me
@Youreyes4Today (2356)
• United States
5 Jan 11
There is one simple thing you in my opinion is not seeing.. the words "love me" does he say "love you"? If not he doesn't love you, he is using you.
Hurting someone you love in that way is wrong. You can love and care for this person but there are horrible people out there that do not care how you feel. They only feel for themselves. You are the one that ends up getting hurt. MY opinion is file charges and love him from a great distance so that you will survive this.
With the increase of abuse, next time you may not be able to tell anyone about it.
Just being honest with you.. been in that kind of relationship and I put him in jail.
You are a person too!!! Remember that Please!!!
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
6 Jan 11
You would drop the charges because you love him so much?????? This is not love. When you really love someone, you do what is best for them. This guy needs help. There is NO EXCUSE for beating women. If you force the problem out in the open, he will have to start dealing with it. Do Not Ignore This Problem!!!!! Love him enough to really help him. Get him help. If you fear for yourself, there are local safe houses all over the country. Lots of people will help you help him.
@Cherish2004 (183)
• United States
13 Jan 11
I didn't start calling the cop because I know that I would drop the charges at the end. But that wouldn't do because he don't care he already has a recorded. Also was put jail so many time that it like a vacation for him. I just know that nothing will effect him execpt for may theripty by choose.
@voldrox (7191)
• India
6 Jan 11
Oh dear, i am sorry to hear that. That guy doesn't deserve you at all! I think you should really make up your mind to leave him Cherish. No one does that to his girlfriend! I guess he doesn't know what he wants either, and there is good chance he feels like you don't love him, for some reason. You really need to let go of him dear, there is very less you can do to make him feel comfortable. There a lot of guys who would love you for the person you are. Hope everything goes fine.
@Cherish2004 (183)
• United States
13 Jan 11
Thank you for comment and I will let him because I know that he do not care at all. For some odd reason he will call me or I see him by accient on the streets, but I will have the strength by ingornt him by doing my business and leave. I wish that we disolve our difference and be friends beacause I still love him. But I want be friends when the time it right in the future.
@annawen86 (545)
• Indonesia
6 Jan 11
i know love is something that you cant easily forget, even when your boyfriend turn to be a bad guy. but as a woman, we have to strugle for our happiness. why you still defend him after he beat you and you still continue your relation untill he really took what you have even your clothes.
it is not love, friend. it is only desire for him. if a man do love you, he will never ever beat you, and he will treat you like you are a fragile treasure.
i think you will find someone that will love you no matter what you are soon, dear.
@Cherish2004 (183)
• United States
13 Jan 11
I wish that he never have lie that he love me and while he was beating me. He got upset when I broke it off over the phone. I when I dating his old friend I told he just be glad I didn't put in jail when this happen because I love him so much. At time I wish he could get help before it too late.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
"Love is full of sacrifices" I always hear this quatation from other people especially for those people who are really in love.anyway,I'm sorry
to hear about your situation.But you have to wake up.You have to think of yourself.We do not know what he will do next if you continue loving him.He don't deserve your love.Look for a guy or a person who can love you back and will not hurt you.Do not waste your time to that person.Forget about him.you will never have a good future or good life if you stay with him.Remember:
"Destiny is not a matter of chance but a matter of choice"
to hear about your situation.But you have to wake up.You have to think of yourself.We do not know what he will do next if you continue loving him.He don't deserve your love.Look for a guy or a person who can love you back and will not hurt you.Do not waste your time to that person.Forget about him.you will never have a good future or good life if you stay with him.Remember:
"Destiny is not a matter of chance but a matter of choice"@Cherish2004 (183)
• United States
5 Jan 11
I love your comment so much and very pleasure to read this. I will remember for ever in life.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
"Love is full of sacrifices" I always hear this quatation from other people especially for those people who are really in love.anyway,I'm sorry to hear about your situation.But you have to wake up.You have to think of yourself.We do not know what he will do next if you continue loving him.He don't deserve your love.Look for a guy or a person who can love you back and will not hurt you.Do not waste your time to that person.Forget about him.you will never have a good future or good life if you stay with him.Remember:
"Destiny is not a matter of chance but a matter of choice"
to hear about your situation.But you have to wake up.You have to think of yourself.We do not know what he will do next if you continue loving him.He don't deserve your love.Look for a guy or a person who can love you back and will not hurt you.Do not waste your time to that person.Forget about him.you will never have a good future or good life if you stay with him.Remember:
"Destiny is not a matter of chance but a matter of choice"@Cherish2004 (183)
• United States
5 Jan 11
Thank you for comment and your words of passion. I will carry it on everywhere I go now. Also I won't waste my time anymore with him at all. Thank you
@piya84 (2581)
• India
6 Jan 11
I have one question for you?Do you love yourself or not?
I have deleted men from my life because they talked rude to me.It doesn't matter who's fault it was.You disrespect me and you are gone from my life.Thats it.
Honey i think you need to wake up.For some reason you have stopped completely loving and respecting your self.This is self destructive behavior.Wake up before he kills you.
You have job.Go away form him.Work on yourself .Have nice friends and nice people around who respect you.
