Asking yourself "What if?"

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Posted this same discussion on my blog and I'm just wondering what kinds of reactions I'll get here at myLot. In most situations, we ask ourselves the question "What if?". What if I mess this up? What if I'm not good enough? What if, what if, what if.. This question is a frequent visitor in our heads during life-changing decisions, decisions that questions our moral values, tasks that require ultimately the best of us and answering it is the key to how our performance will end up. When I was in a band, the first experiences were rough. I used to ask myself, "What if I mess the song up?". What's more is I'm handling the bass guitar. If I mess up, it could easily be heard unlike when you're playing the rhythm guitar. Mess up the chords and it's barely noticeable, in some songs at least. I'm sure you've had your own experiences where you asked yourself this question. It could occur consciously or unconsciously. It's worse when you're asking it unconsciously coz you're not aware of it. You're just trembling without knowing what the problem is. The solution that always works for me (and I'm sure for you, too) is to answer it correctly. When I say correct, I mean considering how you want the whole decision to turn out. If, for instance, you're giving a public speech and you're asking yourself "What if I mispronounce a word? They'll laugh at me if it happens, for sure." then answer it with "I've been taking almost all my life. How can I mess this up?". Or, for instance, you're going out on a date with a lovely chick and you're asking yourself "What if I accidentally pour the drinks on her dress?" you can answer it with "Nah, how big is the glass in that restaurant for me to accidentally do that." Or, generally, you might be asking "What if I'm not meant to be successful in my life?" you can answer it with "I have talents and everyone is unique. I can be successful too if I just tried different ways." Yeah, it has some positive thinking included in it but I'm mainly focusing on how you "self-talk". This "self-talk" might seem like another psycho-babble but it's really important especially when you're handling difficult situations. I remember a phrase in a book that goes something like "Whatever you think about yourself, you're always right." This statement can never be more correct. If our minds are communicating with us, we have to answer it with the right answers, not just whatever. That would lead us to our own, custom-built, possibly social grave. It's a way of destroying ourselves mentally. So what do you think? I could use some point-of-views here. PS I'm not talking about a supposed situation that could happen, like for example you haven't paid your bills for 5 months and you're asking yourself "What if my electricity get cut?". In that case, "Good luck with that." is my best answer.