What would be the breaking point
@showmesumoney (206)
United States
November 18, 2006 5:53pm CST
in placing your child in military boot camp, for attitude problems which no counsler no preacher no teacher no other man nor woman can get through to especially not me. I try to be a good role model by getting what she ask for after she earns it, keeping food in the house, clothes on her back up to date,letting her become a cheerleader which is expensive. Giving big B-day parties, I go off with her by myself one on one, I try to keep my time open just for my kids meaning I choose not to have a man in my life being that I do have girls and I have had problems with two of my ex-boyfriends eye balling my girls. Which I will not tolerate at all. So I say when there 18 I'll date again my youngest is 5,so you know that's a very long wait, but with CHRIST on my side I will get through it all, I have always provided for them on my own, but when her DEAD DEAD ALCOHOLIC FATHER CALLS HER ONCE A YEAR OR NOT AT ALL AND SAYS ONE THING, SHE BOUGH DOWN LIKE A DUMMIE WITH NO TALK BACK UNLIKE SHE DO WITH ME. I am putting this on here because I like releasing my feelings instead of keeping them all in and getting stressed all over again.
Thanks for reading
1 response
@Juliephine (286)
• United States
19 Nov 06
showme,
I think that military boot camp can be very beneficial, yes. Ultimately, it is your child and you have to decide whether or not it would be beneficial for her. Sometimes it's the "getting what she ask for after she earns it and clothes up to date" that is a contributing factor for your frustration. Being kids with hormones is the biggest reason. But, if you have been unable to get through any other way, boot camp might be a solution. A book that helped me in my own personal experience is by Lisa Whelchel called 'Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours'. May I add you as a friend on my lot? Please let me know if I can help, I wil pray for you. I must say, I respect your decision NOT to date until your kids are grown. However, if along the way you change your mind, don't feel guilt over it.
God Bless.
@showmesumoney (206)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Yes you may, and thanks your support. She is 15 and she just tells me she hates me and her 14 yr old sister so many times, and calling me so many disrespectful names it hurts, but I have two other kids to think about as well and now my 5 yr goes up to them saying what she hear the 15 saying to me the words,b**ch,f*** u,dumb A, and it's just not acceptable at all. Like this past weekend I told her she say one more bad word to me because I called the cops on her so-called boyfriend for calling my house after 9pm up until 3am thru 5am and 6am, when I came in the house she was like you dumb B****,you always doing something I told warn her about her mouth I said I'd break this cell phone that boy gave you, being that I told her I wasn't going to buy her one that's how she is she'll say well I'll get him to do this or do that for me, so on the floor it went shattered into little pieces. She continued worst calling me extra B's and such, asking for the broken cell phone I said NO AND THREW THE REST IN THE WOODS. I know it could have something to do with her not having a father in her life at all ever, now the men that I tried to date she'd flirt or go against me for them by betraying my personal business being from the past or present, to being more happy acting when their around. I started back going to church along with my kids now and will continue to figure out something because I know I am not perfect, nor was my childhood but I knew how far to go and what not to do.
God Bless, hope I didn't take up
to much of your time
