Self Loathing Question?

I do know a hand pick of women who self loath all day, every day for as long as I have known them. It gets really irritating sometimes as I see they simply like to be in this sort of situation. I try hard to simply listen and apply advice if I can, but they never listen. They simply want to loath all the time. I have tried pointing out the tidiness in their situations, but it seems that when the truth be told they stop calling for a while and then it is the same yo-yo effect.

I think many people like that are suffering from depression. I personally do not believe they can be talked out of it. I think the best thing in that situation is for the person to do something they are good at -- which makes them realize that they can succeed at things and will raise their self-esteem. It can be tricky to pull a depressed person out of their spiral of negative thoughts, especially when they are so convinced of their own worthlessness that they refuse to try anything. Any way you can get them to participate in something they will have a success at (physical activity is best because it will release endorphins and combat the negativity) is good. If they will not do anything, tell them about a problem you have a seek advice. Praise them for their help and clear thinking, and try to raise the mood a little that way. Everyone is good at something!

I have met a few like that, even on here. You cannot talk them out of their opinion. The truth has to dawn on them from the inside. It can be linked to depression caused by a chemical imbalance, or it can be from how they are raised, or their experiences in the world. If they want to quit being that way, they can be helped and supported and encouraged to form the new habit of being kind to themselves, but it they do not want to change, your efforts will be useless.