Looking at the eyes when talking....

In certain cultures ladies are not supposed to make prolonged eye contact with a man who is not part of her family, and vice versa. As stated by one responder above there are people who can fake sincerity by being able to look straight into the speaker's eyes. What about a blond person? There are other ways to determine whether the listener is paying attention or not. They include the etone of voice when answering, and body posture. A talented person can hypnotise, or control the mind, of the person he or she is in contact with. As for me, in general I avoid I contact when talking to females. I have been accused of using a kind of hypnotising gaze several times in the past.

Dear Friend,This is a common Practice among human beings while talking Focusing straight into eyes,this helps you to realize the persons main intentions behind,even you can gaze weather the person is paying full attention to your words or he is bored of you. In case women,they hesitate directly to talk to you looking in your eyes as they feel in secured of getting into some relations..so its advised while talking to women you should keep changing your eye directions instead of focusing directly on them or their body.

i think that it matters 'cause i look at people's eyes when talking to them but there are times that i'm out of focus or am just not comfortable talking to them. but on the other way around, it distracts me if the person im talking is looking at me all the time. but i prefer that way..

I think eye contact is very important in meetings, seminars, presentation, interviews and even in general discussion. If I cant make a eye contact with the person infront of me, it proves that I am not confident about myself. In meetings, seminar or presentation, I generally look at everybody present in the room. Because thats prove that I am trying to give my message to everybody. In interviews also, I look at interviewer's eye and try to respond to all question. And I really think that if I cant make an eye contact with the person I am talking, it makes the other person also very very uncomfortable and he/she will try to finish up the discussion as soon as possible without caring about the result of the discussion.

i always look at the persons eyes to whom i am talking because i can judge the people by their eyes whether they are lying, in confident or not sincere and trying to escape. when someone is confident irrespective of male female he or she can look into eyes and talk confidently.but otherwise its impossible for a common person. and also i can judge people with their movement of eyes so i look at the their.and when i am taking an interview i always try to put him in a bad situation with my eyes to check her ability in tough situation.

When I talk to someone, I always look into their eyes because as you've mentioned, it shows sincerity. When someone look into my eyes while he's talking, I will feel more secured that what's he's telling me are all true.

i like to look in peoples eyes when i am talking to them because i think they also convey what the person isnt saying.

Good Day! I feel a bit shy when someone looks at me when talking. Well, it depends on the distance. If that person is too near I feel uncomfortable. I remember when \ever I talk to my crush, I can't look at his eyes! I'm shy! I feel like I'm, melting.~! But still its better to talk eye to eye when having a conversation.

I loike to focus on someone's eyes when i am talking to them. this assures them that I am listening to what they have to say. They say the eyes are the mirrors to the soul. I do believe that to be true.

I usually look at people in the eye when I talk to them. The only time when I don't look at someone in the eye is when I am uncomfortable with that person. I also tend to look at somewhere else when I am thinking hard of something while talking to someone. Maybe that person is just shy or uncomfortable talking to you.

I look people in the eye's when I'm talking to them, until i conciously become aware that I'm looking into thier eye's and then I struggle to keep eye contact and have to look away. I'm an honest guy and don't tell lies so it's not that i'm lying it's just a lack of self confidence I think.

Hello Yspmyl, that's a sign of uncertainty, nothing more for me. I've worked with people a lot, as a seller and i learned to "read" different kind of people, who i meet often. When someone is looking at your eyes when you are talking, it means that he is interested to know more and more and he listen to you carefully. If you don't look him at his eyes if you talk to him it means that you don't feel full confidence when you are talking about this topic. There can have only one more reason and it's if you are big team and she doesn't know not even one of you. She doesn't know how you accept her and he is trying to find signs of positivity from your side to the things she talk about and the way she talks about. I like to watch people in their eyes when i talk to them. I feel that i got power on their attention that way. My experience showed me that people who doesn't want to look at my eyes so much are bored with what i'm talking about or just are not interested and don't listen to me.

Sometimes when I speak to people, I do tend to look around because I think better when my eyes are not focused on the person. It's almost like our computer operating system showing the hourglass icon, saying "I am processing..." Then when I have gathered my thoughts, I may answer looking at the person. But since conversation is continuous, it may give an impression like what your supplier lady gives you. I am sure she meant nothing bad or that she is shy. And I don't think she is insincere because of that. Time will tell. In the meantime, give her the benefit of doubt? Cheers.

When you look into someones eyes you are communicating to them on a non-verbal level. Eye contact allows for trust to build and keeps people interested in what you say because you engage them into your world. I feel as though a lot of people do not understand why it is so important to look people in the eyes and you end up with situations like the one explained. When someone does not look me in the eye I feel uncomfortable, like they don't want to speak with me. When I go out into the world I non-verbally command people to look me in the eye by looking them in the eye. There is an energy that is transferred through only eye contact. I don't think you need to stare at each other and it is ok to look around a bit but to really engage in a conversation with anyone...look them in the eyes.

Hi yspmyl, I believe that we should talk on looking into the eyes of the other person. It shows the sincerity and honesty. The people who don’t look into the eyes may lack confidence. I prefer to look into the eyes of the other person but I have some exemptions too. If I am busy with works and some of my colleagues wanted to share their stories (unimportant) then I won’t look on their face or eyes. I just watch in my computer and continue my work. This is enough to realize the other person that I am not interested in such nonsense talks. If the issue is serious I won’t mind to stop my work and listen to the person. Simply I don’t have time for gossip.

The explanation is boring but I'll give it a shot. When a person looks at me in a conversation, I sense more the person's face than what the person has been saying to me if I look at him fixedly at the eye. It results to not understanding what's just been said and the next thing will be to say pardon me. Between understanding what's heard without maintaining eye contact and not understanding but good at keeping the eye contact, what wins?

Well it's a very good thing that you can maintain eye contact with the people you talk to. I cannot do as well as you do. Ladies are usually shy and their attention keeps shifting from one thing or person to another within seconds as they are shy or they have something they are hiding. It's very hard to maintain contact because when you move away it tells what sort of person you are to the person standing next to you. Maybe you should talk with her more and slowly she would realize that what you are doing is just free talking. I am sure she will understand.

Oh,this reminds me of one of the seminars I got in, eye contact is important in order to make a deal with a prospect. Eye contact is also a way to find out if the person is sincere or not. The eye is the window of the soul so I guess looking at the eyes of the person you're talking is the same as looking into his soul!

Perhaps that girl is a timid lady while you are a gentleman . Of course she will feel shy because she might be thinking you have a crush on her . LOL Anyways, it is imperative that when we talk to someone , we should be looking at each other to acknowledge our listening to what the other is discussing and vice versa. That's what we call etiquette. It is impolite to be looking somewhere else while talking to that person.

Yes I agree with you, looking straight at the eye or direct eye to eye contact to me conveys sincerity but do watch out also , there are dishonest people who can also look straight at you in order to convince you and this happens when they become callous, oh yes, "the eye is the window of the soul"