I am threatened by my girlfriend's ex-boyfriend who is a police, how to handle?
By meenneixz
@meenneixz (668)
Philippines
January 8, 2011 12:55am CST
hi to all, I just want to ask for you personal views regarding my recent problem that bothers me so much and even put my life in danger. I have a girlfriend as of now, I courted here without the knowledge that she have a boyfriend who is a police who just passed the police training recently. She told me about him when we are lovers already, with a promise that she will break up with him when they will have time to see each other, since she is no longer in love with him. This guy resist with her proposed breakup and instead pleaded to give him more time, another chance. But I don't want to lost this girl too, I love her that I don't know on what to do if she will be gone.
There was a time when i fetch her from school and the police was around to look out or watch over the busy street. He was following us that day and the next few days, he really knows about our whereabouts. He confronted my girlfriend, talking with her seriously with a tears in eye and told her that if he will see us again together, he might do something against us, And that I should be alarmed and look my behind always.
What can you say about this?what am I going to do? I am a bit scared.
Hope to hear brilliant ideas from here.
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7 responses
@warrior89 (1)
• India
8 Jan 11
You make friends who are in army as army is more powerful than police dnt get threatened he wil not do anything to u.I did the same and won it. All police are threaten by army peoople.Go and get it buddy.
@meenneixz (668)
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
hi buddy, its a nice idea I have friends and a classmate who are army but they are assign in far places, I don't think they can help me with this. But anyway I think that that police guy will not take it seriously, maybe he is just scaring me and makes my girlfriend feel that I'm not in love with her if ill give way because I'm scared of his threats. I am a bit scared of what he might do but of course i should fight for her.
@meenneixz (668)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
hi buddy thanks for your reply, I agree with you, I should not be scared, I should fight for her no matter what.
Happy posting!
@urbandekay (18278)
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8 Jan 11
Firstly, your GF should make it clear to her ex that any contact from him is unacceptable, if she does not do this then she is taking advantage of you.
Secondly, her ex appears to have threatened you with violence, here that constitutes assault and you could report him for this criminal act.
all the best urban
@meenneixz (668)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
hi, for the meantime he is accepting sms and calls from him but i know every message of him since she will forward it to me, it is her gradual move towards break up.
Hope it works! see you around
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
9 Jan 11
Hi Meenneixz,
Your girlfriend should have made sure things were completelty over between him and her before seeing you. I understand she "tried" to in a phone call and he "didn't allow" it. He doesn't own her so there is no "allowing it" involved unless she allows it to be. It's also a pretty lame way to break up with someone...over the phone. Ok so she finally did it in person and he is still giving her a hard time? She needs to stop taking his calls and texts etc. He threatened you? That is good cause to report him. You are only seeing each other a couple of times per week because of this guy? You guys are letting him control you. Stalking is a crime so she should get a restraining order on him. You both need to step up and not let this guy walk all over you and control your relationship.
@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
Hello! 
If you really love your girl, fight for her. All is fair in love and in war so don't let others put your relationship to an end even he's the ex boyfriend of your girlfriend. You didn't interrupt their relationship in the first place, their old relationship ended before you enter so you committed no fault.
Talk to your girlfriend, ask her if he still love his ex because if he does, you put yourself into trouble really. If he doesn't love him anymore, then both of you should fight for your love. There's so many people who could help you if you're afraid for your security, just give all your reports if this police do bad things towards you. He didn't have the right to your girlfriend anymore, you have all the right however to nourish your new found love so don't be afraid to fight for it. God bless and good luck! 
If you really love your girl, fight for her. All is fair in love and in war so don't let others put your relationship to an end even he's the ex boyfriend of your girlfriend. You didn't interrupt their relationship in the first place, their old relationship ended before you enter so you committed no fault.
Talk to your girlfriend, ask her if he still love his ex because if he does, you put yourself into trouble really. If he doesn't love him anymore, then both of you should fight for your love. There's so many people who could help you if you're afraid for your security, just give all your reports if this police do bad things towards you. He didn't have the right to your girlfriend anymore, you have all the right however to nourish your new found love so don't be afraid to fight for it. God bless and good luck! @bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
hi meenneixz,
As i understand the situation your girlfriend was not formally broke up with his Ex police boyfriend there was a little bit dishonesty on her part if she doesn't love the guy anymore then she should break up first before entering to a new relationship.
This is scary in your part if he is beginning to give you threat and even stalking both of you (we know what a police man can do) you should be more careful and it is better if you are going to blotter this guy you should open this situation to someone who is very close to you.
I hope you will resolve this problem very soon.
@meenneixz (668)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
hi thanks for your reply, at first my girlfriend told him about it in a phone call even before, at that time he is not allowed to go out from the training camp so that's the only way i think that she can say it to him, the guy did not allow it and instead told her that they need to talk about it first.That's why recently they meet to resolve that matter but the guy resist again.
@jonnie7 (51)
• United States
9 Jan 11
what i would do is not to be scared and be tough for you and your girlfriend and
you might train to be a police officer just like him and you might even be friends
with him.And if that dose not work out would i would do is take your girlfriend
and go somewhere safe so one day he wont find you and your girlfriend that will probably work out if it dose not will good look for you and your girlfriend.
