I/We "Fell" In Love - Can you explain the "Fell" here please

By saying fall/fell, its implied that the person feels a helplessness with his or her feelings toward their object of affection. While it is true that it is often difficult to determine what exactly determines the affection, the person doesn't have to be completely helpless. Falling in love is different from maintaining a love relationship. Falling in love can be pretty easy to do, while remaining in love with that person can be somewhat more difficult. The surge of emotion when falling in love with someone can make it difficult to say whether a relationship with that person would work. Getting to know someone after that emotional high is one way to find whether a relationship between the two will work.

hello sids! i see your point and its actually confusing when you start to interpret the phrase "fell or fall in love" with the actual definition of "fell". So, i don't really blame you if you find it difficult to understand the use of the term. I don't know who actually thought of this phrase when describing a person who suddenly finds himself in love with someone and don't know either how and why he used such word. Anyway, in my opinion, love here is viewed as a state of being, a pit where it's kind of hard for you to get out of once you fell into such pit. Thus, the use of the word "fell" because when you analyze it, it's kind of more weird to use the words "i get inside love, get in love, i jumped in love, i fly in love, i walk in love, i dropped in love" to name just a few. Fell here does not connote a negative meaning, such as the meaning given in the dictionary for such a word. i guess it's the most appropriate word to use with the word "in love" for lack of other appropriate term.

In Western Coulture Love is somethin that takes you over as if you had fallen in a ditch or hole. To many here in the States and Europe, we go along with our lives. Just walking a set path when love happens and we fall into another path. Like we are walking down the sidewalk and fall into a puddle or a large dip in the road. That's why we say we fell in love with him/her. Usually it is sudden and unexpectd like falling down when you are walking. I hope this helps.

in 'indonesian dictionary' fell means 'down'. like you are from up and fell down. it fells hurt. it is kind ridiculous if i translate it one by one into Indonesian i fall in love become- i down in love-

I do not get it either as I have never fallen/fell/almost or possibly in love. I am one that is in love or not. Take it or leave either we are "in love" or not. I do not get it either to refer to is as fall/fell. As I certainly can't say fall as fall to me refers to drop. So would it be logical to say I dropped in love. Doesn't make sense. as here is verbatim the thesaurus of Fall in love: [i]fall in love - begin to experience feelings of love towards; "She fell in love with her former student" fall - pass suddenly and passively into a state of body or mind; "fall into a trap"; "She fell ill"; "They fell out of favor"; "Fall in love"; "fall asleep"; "fall prey to an imposter"; "fall into a strange way of thinking"; "she fell to pieces after she lost her work"[/i] So you see how can I drop into love. hmmm.. leaves room for questioning.

How about fly in love ... Yeah i have hear this one too.. Love must be great experience.. But yet i haven't experience.. so i can't tell whether fell/fall is true or fly is true..

I am no expert on love matters , but I'd say falling in love might have something to do with surrendering yourself to your lover. On another note it can also be that when in love a person lets go his ego and pride and hence falls from the position in which he'll perceive himself to be in a normal situation. But comes to a more mellowed, more receptive form when with his/her lover.

Even I have heard about fell in love words very often. The person whoever says is with a positive intention. Its a common usage and no offence against the word fell. The words used are good enough to be understood. The words singly and used with other words have different meanings.

As an native Englishman, perhaps I can explain this usage; when we fall, say over a cliff, we loose control of our actions, we move but that movement is beyond our volition. To fall in love is a metaphor, we feel such motivation that it seems our actions are beyond our control all the best urban

hey Sid...if u ask some teen-ager, he/she will explain clearly.... there are so many losses when u are in love...u lose your sleep, your breath, ur sleeps, ur hunger, ur jeart-beats, even ur heart...so so many losses...so its called falling ...just kidding.... another funny way i can think the meaning of fall may be- After loving each other for enough time and being committed to each other the couple FALL on the earth of reality...else they fly in the skies of their dreams when they are singles... the serious point may be the fall in the 'ego' or 'pride'...as after falling in love...we leave thinking of self (ME) and start thinking of WE...so that means we become committed to each other...(now u can relate the word fall to anything according to your thoughts)...the reality is the person always becomes stronger and rises when he gets true love

mmmm are you suggesting that you have never had that feeling? Surely you have fallen hook line and sinker in love and spent hours on end doing nothing but thinking about the other person? It's a bit like 'falling into a trap' ... somtimes

hello thesids, Why feel love was define that way? Well,simply because it is a feeling that give us no definite definition (love with certain people...family and friends not included in this topic) We wonder why a pretty girl choose a not so handsome guy,or old men,disabled one.(vice versa) We had so much question in mind when sees one (couples) It is because love knows no boundaries.(love is free) Fell in love is the term used because we feel helpless. No one can understand why we choose that someone (bad guy/girl,10 yrs older,miserable person ...name all the bad/ugly characters and personality) yet you loved that person against all the odds. I remember was it AISHWARYA in her movie says that "i rose in love" Rise/rose term used by other people,because after a bad experience with love (breaking from previous love/bad experiences from previous relationship) Still...it is LOVE that rose them from "falling apart". What fix a broken heart then?...isn't LOVE? (LOVE breaks a heart and only LOVE can mend/fix a broken heart) LOVE -is happiness that makes one life complete.

Are you kidding? You're talking about the English language. How we describe stuff comes from who knows where! People also say "We fell hopelessly in love, meaning we succumbed to the power of love without any conscious effort on our part. This is why there are so many songs about love alone cannot pay the bills, etc. Now I wana know why we use the same word pronounced two different ways depending on whether it's past or present tense! " I would like to read now." "I've read that book."

If you try to look at the dictionary then you would see the meaning of fall as what you have mentioned. But then in English there's what you call an idiom which the words are not literally defined but the whole expression forms a different meaning in itself. But I know that this is not the answer that you are looking for, but as an English instructor i just cannot avoid but explaining it in this way. It's a phrase that functions as a verb. Why do we use the expression " i fell asleep at 9 last night?" Fell here doesn't actually mean what it does literally taken as a single word. But the meaning of "fall" here is to begin. So when you fall in love it means you begin to feel love towards the other person or the feelings that you have is intensifying. So to fall in love is to pass suddenly and passively into a state of body or mind. Something that is uncontrollable. I don't like to use rise instead of fall, because when we love it happens unexpectedly, never planned, it happens. When we fall, it's also an accident! Who wants to fall intentionally (unless you want to hurt yourself)? But when we rise, we do it only when we want to! We can never control the feeling of being in love or falling in love, but we can always deny it.

For some people, when they fall in love (or infatuation) it is like they are falling. They have lost their balance with respect to everything that had been normal in their life, and now they are consumed with the thrill and excitement of this new person. Some also say they have fallen 'madly' in love, which hints at craziness. I would not deny anyone the experience, but for some the whole thing puts them on an unreasonably high plateau of joy. (I'm talking really high like the value of a high tech stock a few years ago.) Because of their joy and exhuberance they will be quite surprised and crushed if things do not go well. Love should be exciting. Even so, people need to keep their heads on reasonably straight as they try to get to know another person and consider making them a special life partner.

it is the act of surrendering. like ruining your everything to anyone so once you've loved somebody, you felt, as like that was not easy to do.....

well for me, fall/fell in love is actually a an idiomatic expression, it is a figuratively way of saying that you love a person, like you fall hard for that person means that you love that person so much...dictionary's meaning for fell is negative Id say but since its an idiomatic word its positive. Hope I was able to help a bit.Thank you...