I am a coward
By koAebryant
@koAebryant (358)
China
7 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
8 Jan 11
Firstly try and think about it so much and always remember to be yourself. Do not pretend to be who you are not as that persona is difficult to maintain.
Go ahead and send a message, a simple hi and how are you. Do not despair if it is not answered right away as several reasons such as did not get the message, not sure who you are or maybe the girl is as shy as you.
So after sending the message give it a full day and then send another, and or if you see her around say hi, how are you and did you get my message. This opens room for furthering the discussion.
Good luck and wish you well.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
8 Jan 11
Thank you shgnsh, glad you like it.
Also I see you are new to myLot so a very warm welcome to you. 
@koAebryant (358)
• China
9 Jan 11
Thank you for your good idea!
I had sent messages yesterday evening.The message is that"long time no see,when are you going home?".But she have not replied me until now.I do know why,maybe you have predicted the answer.I only want to cry!!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
8 Jan 11
you are not a coward . You are just cautious. But if you Really want her , you have to go for it and write her.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
9 Jan 11
All that means is she was busy. The good news is that she replied!! I hope it was a positive response.
@koAebryant (358)
• China
9 Jan 11
Thank you two! I tell you that she have not reply me until now!the message was in her phone about 12 huors.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
8 Jan 11
Is this the same girl who told you that she has a boyfriend? Because, if that is the case, you need to just let her go. If this is a new girl, talk to her online and see what she is like, but don't be disappointed if she is like the last girl. My advice, you might want to stay away from girls for awhile, for mental health reasons.
The last girl made you depressed, it made you feel bad (if you know what I mean), and you were becoming more Emo than Anakin Skywalker.
I seriously think that you need to concentrate on school and social confidence and working on your personality before you get into any relationship.
You are by no means ready for any relationship right now because you can't handle it.
@koAebryant (358)
• China
9 Jan 11
Very thank you for noticing me!Yes,it is the girl who has a boyfriend(but her friend who know her said that she cheated you).I tell you that I send messages yesterday evening.But she have not replied me until now.What does she think of me and the messages?The messages is that "long time no see,when are you going home".I am very worried about it,but it happens.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
9 Jan 11
Like I have told you before. You need to focus on school and social confidence skills, and put this girl in the back of your mind for a while because now is not the right time.
When I wanted a boyfriend, I did not get one, and that was because I was not ready for one. Okay, your situation is no different. You are not ready for a relationship right now. You need to just worry about things that are in your control, and this girl is not someone that you want to worry about right now.
I lost my cat and my step-sister told me that she had stage 4 cancer. My mind should have been on my classes and it wasn't and it came to bite me in the butt. I got a C- in the class that I needed a B in that quarter. If my mind had been in the right place, that would not have happened, and I know this.
This quarter, my step-sister is still dying from Cancer, my step-father is also dying from Cancer, my grandmother is not doing well, and my cat, Goldie, with whom I refer to as a daughter since I raised her from the time she was three weeks old, is also not doing well. I have a lot on my plate, and I know this, but I have learn that I have no control over anything that is going on and that I have to put it all on the back burner, and focus on my classes because that is what I need to focus on.
Right now, all Hell is breaking lose on me, but all I can do is just do what I can and do what I have to do. Sadly, life stops for no one. You can only do what you can do.
@derek_a (10873)
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8 Jan 11
Life is about taking risks, and relationships are no different really. If we want to be with the person we are having feelings for, then we are going to have to take the risk and let her know about it. It is not easy, I know, because I had the problem when I was young and inexperienced. But one day I worked out, that all I would lose is a bit of pride and maybe get embarrassed. It it worth feeling embaranced and even getting knocked back if we can know where we stand and stop all the worrying and stress about it all. The answer it just do it, and feel whatever you feel. You may get lucky or not.. There are no guarantees other than you will grow from this one way or another. 
_Derek
_Derek@koAebryant (358)
• China
9 Jan 11
Yes,I yesterday do it! But she have not replyied me until now!
thank you!!
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
8 Jan 11
If i were you, i would send her the message,if you don't, you'll never really know if she feels the same way about you.Even if she doesn't respond back or, if she does, and tells you she doesn't feel the same way you do, at least you'll know and you can move on.Sometimes having a fear of rejection stops us from situations that just may turn out well for us, but we never know this unless we try taking that chance.
@shgnsh (79)
• Bangladesh
8 Jan 11
If you take no actions then time will not waits for you.So I think you can a message to her to see her response.If you are lucky then you will get good response because something is better than nothing.
