Harsh words from parents
By billzehua
@billzehua (573)
China
January 9, 2011 2:39am CST
Most of us have warm love from our parents
being it your family may not be what you desire
and in retrospect, we love our parents as well
But there are sometimes when our parents could be harsh
the words they come up may not be prepared
which make you think it's bit of unfair
hard to bear
and then we got that acid feeling stocked upthere
I got my little sister calling me the other day
she said dad looked like he was not in his day
like he's got lots of unfinished debt to pay
and gave her the words that made her suffocated
she asked why dad said those words to me
our dad should not be supposed to be mean
So I answer my little sister
Dear sister,don't get upset
Daddy's day must be pretty bad
His love for you is still deep inside
But you've grown up and should realize
Daddy's not perfect, he's still in a man's size
He's got his own defects
So dear mylotters, have you been there?
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11 responses
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
9 Jan 11
what you said to your sister is just so right...
I remember when I was young till the day I was leaving with my mom.. gosh words she will use when shes angry is just so foul.. but I dont really keep it inside well before I used too but maybe I just get used to it..
Everything turns good after I live by myself.. and she also told me that she was just full of stress before evrytime she has to use unpleasant words to me and my bro n sis..
Anyway whatever happens we only have one parents.. and we should not give up to them as they are to us:)
@billzehua (573)
• China
16 Jan 11
Hi Princess8881, A Ni ao Ha Se Yo, I can relate to you coz I grow up getting used to harsh words from my dad, he even slapped me before, well, he was a very rigid man and requested full obedience.But now he changed quite a lot, especially when I started my university, we just don't much time together, which makes both of us to realize we should cool down and communicate, listen to each other. as you said, whatever it is, we only got one mom and one dad.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
I hate to have any argument with my mother. I do not know but every word she utters when she's angry (especially at me) makes me lose my control and wishes me to strangle her (sorry). Though I know that what she shouts (at the expense of the whole neighborhood) is for my good , I hate that she has to use some negative words that makes me think and feel less of myself. I try to diffuse my anger by not having her in the same room, lest I say something more bad and make the argument worse than it already is.
@billzehua (573)
• China
16 Jan 11
Hi Jeanneyvonne,it's very likely we say ugly things about each other when we are in huge anger, it's time when our intelligence and IQ mostly drop to zero.It hurts if that happens between us and our parents, so now whenever my dad is gaining anger, I would go along with him and just stamp a yes to everything he 's gonna say, I know he'll cool down later.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Jan 11
It depends on whether he had a bad day or rather had an excuse for that bad day. You did not tell us what your father had said to your sister. If he had called her stupid, or wished she was never born or called her ugly, that is inexcusable. If he had said that he was busy, and wait later, or he had these bills to pay, or we might lose the house, that is another thing.
By the way, my dad called me stupid, said I eat too much, etc. and he was not having a bad day then so he had no excuse. So have not been where you are.
@billzehua (573)
• China
16 Jan 11
No,Suspenseful, not that mean, my father just raised his voice at my sister, also my sister herself also got this big self esteem, she's not quite getting along with my father.well, I am, hehe
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
You are right in saying that to your sister.
Your dad will not be lying to you if he said he has lots of debts to settle.
Any parent will not say that, but simply just give their children what they are asking if they think it's for their own good and if they are financially capable.
I myself and my husband will also refuse our daughter if we really are so financially hard-up in her schooling.
To be honest, we told our daughter that we cannot cope with the schooling for Medicine because she wants to pursue that, after she graduates from BS Biology this year.
in her desire to pursue medicine she will be applying for scholarships on Medicine this end of january. For us, all we could do is help her by praying to God to allow her to pass those scholarships. She herself told us that she will pass of because she met all their requirements. But she still has to pass the others so she could choose the best.
Those were not harsh words from parents, but a simple advise just delivered in a harsh tone. Believe me, because i have been there.
@billzehua (573)
• China
16 Jan 11
Ye, we can't put a sword down our parents' necks forcing them to deliver more than they are capable of.rather we got to appreciate what our parents have given to us, it's God who decides which family we land into.
@billzehua (573)
• China
16 Jan 11
When next time that happens again, think about how hard they 've raised you, maybe you can even that unfairness out, lol, best luck/.
@ysao02 (5)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
hi! this is actually my first response here in mylot.
yeey! i just signed up today. :)
n'weiy. i think eveyone has been there.
wen i was younger, there wasn't a day i do not hear harsh words from both of my parents.(i have my own family now. btwat first, i thought i will always have grudge for my parents.
to my suprise, i do not have any.
yea~ they're imperfect and i always know they love me. :)
I LOVE THEM A LOT, too.
especially, now that i have my own and i know how hard it is.. ?
@billzehua (573)
• China
16 Jan 11
Well,then welcome aboard, and have fun here, thanks for ur response
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
Well I never heard anything harsh words like bad words from my parents. Although I have been in the same situation that I still get hurt when we don't agree on ideas and opinions. Sometimes, I do like to set things and prepare things that I thought they would like but not.
I do have expectations that I cannot meet since theirs is higher in standard and I felt belittled and rejected by my ideas as they disagree to it. But so far as what I can say, I do take it as a motivator for me to get things going and focus on what I wanted. Its true, no one is perfect so we do have flaws and that includes our parents. So we just have to cheer up and move on with life. The respect for our parents should always be there.
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
1 Feb 11
of course i love my family very much.my world like zero without my family.i love my ma so much.i don't think a second with out her.my ma is my life,my world.please pray for my mom.
thank you so much
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
9 Jan 11
I experienced the same sometimes, and you just have to suck it up. You can talk back to your parents with harsh words too, because they are your parents nonetheless. I am a grown up man, sometimes I just need to take those words. And I have to learn to forget and forgive. That is the best I can do about it.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
Oh, yes I've been there so many times specially when I'm still younger. Many times I've asked my self if my parents really love me. Many times, I've disobeyed them, argued with them but always in the end there will be forgiveness and the love is not lost at all. Now that I am a parent, too, the more I've learned to love my parents and understood what had been there when I still young.
@billzehua (573)
• China
16 Jan 11
Ye, it's not easy to be a parent. Mom and dad also got their own expectations.
@HealerMike (70)
• Sweden
9 Jan 11
Everybody wants the same things.
Not to be alone to be ahappy and free.
The world is sometimes upside down.