he is wise to argue with a fool?
By loveworld360
@loveworld360 (49)
Malaysia
January 10, 2011 7:16am CST
I have this good friend of mine and we always argue,i have tried several times to stop arguing with him because he thinks he knows it all yet he doesn't know a thing.What annoys me most is the fact that each time we talk,he will call people fools but when you look at his point of view, he seems to be the worst fool.He makes the loudest noise even when he wants to stress out a point.I am pissed at the moment after todays argument hence i rushed home to discuss the issue with my fellow mylotters to reason with me and if its wise to argue with a fool
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8 responses
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
10 Jan 11
Hi there,
When you know the person you are talking is mere a fool and what he argues over is all irrelevant no point I see you keep on arguing.
First thing however you might not be wise to make people understand your points it is just like shouting to a tree.
Besides you would lose your power of thinking when your though do not get a proper Chanel.
If you are sort of counseling him/her this is a different matter.
@loveworld360 (49)
• Malaysia
10 Jan 11
He believes he knows it all and will never listen to counselling.Making him understand the point truly is like shouting to the tree.And this guy when he argues he is as loud speaker
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
10 Jan 11
If his physical composure is good he should be taken to a psychiatrist and they know better way to treat such people.
@polaris77 (2039)
• Bacau, Romania
10 Jan 11
If the person you argue with is a fool,there's no point in arguing anymore,it's just wasted time and energy.The best thing to do about a fool is not to talk to him or let him say whatever he wants and ignore him,but if you say he's a good friend,then things are a little more complicated.Maybe he's not that fool and maybe he is right sometimes.
@loveworld360 (49)
• Malaysia
10 Jan 11
He has some good traits though and that is why i take him as my friend.But his problem is that he believes he knows it all and all fields.A friends advices his friend and he doesnt listen when you advice him.He brag alot and he has nothing...
@angelic123 (1108)
• United States
11 Jan 11
I encountered this problem before,You know what?there is no way he will believe in anything that you will say. When he had his mind set he will believe on what he wants to believe. It is like you are talking to the wind. The wind will ignore you and will just continue to howl for as long as it like. The best way to do if I were you is to move out of the discussion.Ignore him.Later on if no one is listening or arguing with him maybe he will realize that he is wrong. But I doubt that he will accept his mistake. Those who are fool do not admit their foolishness. Do not argue, because if you argue with a fool you are more fool than that fool.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
11 Jan 11
This is the main lesson of Buddhism, for me. The way I interpret Nichiren Buddhism main chant--Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo--is this: "No matter what happens in the world (Renge), I'm 'listening for the sound I love' (Nam) within the Sound of the Universe (Kyo) which is the combination of the sound made by Renge and the sound made by those who 'obey the sound I love' (Myoho)."
That's a long way to say, "Fools who think they are right will remain fools; your 'trying to prove them wrong' will encourage them."
@jaya777 (19)
• India
11 Jan 11
hi
everybody has their own opinions. From their point of view, they feel they are right even if it's wrong. Some people have ego problems. Even if they realise they are wrong from their side, they won't apologise. I feel you should not fall in any kind of argument with such people if you feel they are surely wrong and they are arguing for the wrong reason. This is the best way to avoid an argument and it avoids a relationship getting bitter.
@sghfuller (1)
• United States
11 Jan 11
If he is a good friend who loves to argue, you are being a good friend when you argue good-naturedly. When you can no longer abide the discussion, you might have a pre-arranged code that could be used to extricate yourself from the argument. This code should be decided upon when you are both calm and rational, after you explain your feelings about unresolvable disagreements and your distaste for unrelenting rants, or whatever it is that upsets you about the arguments.
If the code is ignored, and he won't stop talking, either cover your ears or leave. He should know that your action is not showing disrespect for him, but is a reaction to his disrespect for your code.
This doesn't always work to stop the arguments, but can make you feel better about refusing to continue with an uncomfortable discussion without actually calling him a fool.
My know-it-all friend said to say "thank you very much" when I have heard enough on a subject. I will say "thank you very much" maybe 3 or 4 times before I leave or cover my ears. It does help our relationship, I think...