My sister is acting all cranky
By kingatul
@kingatul (849)
India
January 10, 2011 8:17am CST
I had heard that when you are a teenager then you tend to live in your own world and others opinions don't matter to you that much. I too experienced this to an extent, but now I'm grown up 
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But that's not what I'll be talking about.
My sister who is currently in her teens is posing a lot of problems for my parents. She's acting all cranky nowadays and is difficult to handle for my mom and my dad. I now live in a different city away from my parents and not able to visit them more often. They told me about the situation and asked me to talk to her on this which I did.
I asked her the reason for her behaviour with mom and dad, to which she said that they are trying to curtail her freedom. She's not allowed to go partying with her friends (not even on New Year's eve).
She's always pestered for studying. and she listed many problems which actually make her feel as she doesn't have a life of her own.
I couldn't provide a solution to all this to my parents and just told them to be patient with her. I told her the same thing.
But I'm not convinced that its the only way to go.
Have anyone experienced similar problems with teenagers? If yes what did you do?
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But that's not what I'll be talking about.
My sister who is currently in her teens is posing a lot of problems for my parents. She's acting all cranky nowadays and is difficult to handle for my mom and my dad. I now live in a different city away from my parents and not able to visit them more often. They told me about the situation and asked me to talk to her on this which I did.
I asked her the reason for her behaviour with mom and dad, to which she said that they are trying to curtail her freedom. She's not allowed to go partying with her friends (not even on New Year's eve).
She's always pestered for studying. and she listed many problems which actually make her feel as she doesn't have a life of her own.
I couldn't provide a solution to all this to my parents and just told them to be patient with her. I told her the same thing.
But I'm not convinced that its the only way to go.
Have anyone experienced similar problems with teenagers? If yes what did you do?2 people like this
7 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
10 Jan 11
Unless there is something more serious wrong with her, most teens do experience rebellion and crankiness, especially girls. This might just be something she will eventually mature out of. As long as she has someone she can talk to, a friend or relative, because I remember that was something I craved as a teenage girl and never got..:(
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
10 Jan 11
Yes, as long as you know there isn't something really bothering her. If she is struggling, she needs help, not to "let her comer out of it" That was the mistake my fmaily did to me, I crying out for help, and all they said was, "Let her go" 
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
10 Jan 11
Parenting, the power of unconditional love. Yes patience is certainly a virtue. However, today there are many rebellious teens that cause so many heart aches and issues towards their parents that at times they do not even realize the severity of the issues.
Why is it that teens want so much in-dependency at such a young age, I can be contructive and say peer pressure. So basically if she is not a problem child, she will grow out of it, and or your parents basically have to continue consistency with the rules.
By this I mean that when they say no, it is always no, not maybe or okay later. Hopefully she understands that there are issues and simmer down a bit. You are right with parenting takes patience but a little tough love goes a long way. You sister may never directly tell your parents her appreciation but one day she will certainly look back and be grateful.
Good luck to your parents and family.
@kingatul (849)
• India
11 Jan 11
The point you presented is very interesting. My sister never has been the problem child, that's why her behavior was a surprise for all of us. The rules need to be implemented correctly. Along with that I feel that my parents should also have a timely chat with her and hear her out, so that she doesn't feel lonely.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
12 Jan 11
Well personally it could be a Freedom issue or a control issue, or just someone thinking they never are allowed to do anything. Personally I think it is time somehow everything be brought to light and see if there is not a better solution for this problem. If your parents are being a little too controlling and not wanting to Trust it could be problematic in the future, but maybe at the same time your sister is always doing things unpleasing is why they are this way as well? Either way it sounds as if a problem has arisen and somehow it needs to be resolved.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
10 Jan 11
When I was young, I was rebellious too, and it is the natural process for growing up. You learn from your mistakes, or you might make a right decision. As long as she knows, her parents and her brother want her make the right decision. That her family always stand behind her back, she got her love. I hope that your sister will do okay.
@BCRMike (355)
• Vanderhoof, British Columbia
21 Oct 11
Cranky girls is nothing new.
They have hormones that rage and they are unbearable till they turn about 20.
They only difference between a teenage girl and a rabid dog, is lipstick.
They become impossible to live with when they are about 12, and don't return to livable until about 20.
Boys are a different issue...
@picjim (3002)
• India
12 Jan 11
The best way is to be patient.If we want to get our view across,we have to wait for the moment when they are amenable to reason.No point nagging or ordering them as they'll rebel even more.But in your case i feel the parents have to be liberal to an extent,like they should allow her out on new year's eve and other occasions.But they should tell her when she is amenable to reason what is expected of her while she is out.Its best we give freedom to an extent with a rider that she shouldn't exceed her limits.
