My ex already not being responsible again.

First off let me say I understand your feelings. He should be responsible when he knows he's getting the kids and not make stupid excuses like he didn't have time to clean. I do have to say though, that the first thing that popped into my mind while reading this is you said you had to switch days with him for doctor's appointments and parties. Granted your reasons may be better than his, still it strikes me as odd that it's okay for you to ask for a switch and not him. You have set days where he takes the kids.. so why not make your appointments for those days so you don't have to switch? I'm not trying to be judgemental or anything.. I'm sure you have good reasons that you just didn't have the time to fully explain here, and I understand your basic point is just that you want to rant about his irresponsibility and yes I agree he is appearing to be irresponsible. It's just that from my point of view.. perhaps he thought since it was okay for you to switch days on him for personal reasons, maybe he thinks it's okay for him too. Also I have to add.. unless there are safety reasons, it's really not fair to say he can't take the kids for the rest of the week. If he's unable to take them today, fine, he doesn't take them today and he doesn't switch days.. that's enough of a punishment.. he looses a day. He can still take them Thursday if he man's up and gets his place clean. If you're worried about the cleanliness, drop them off instead of letting him pick them up, then you can see how his house looks and if it's not safe for children, don't leave them there. By not letting him take the kids all week, you're not teaching him any lessons, but you are punishing your children. He's still their dad, and they're still going to love him no matter what he does to them. Trust me, I had a mom like that.. who was too irresponsible to properly care for me most of the time, and my foster mom hated my real mom.. but I still loved her no matter what. Even after she let her boyfriend beat me when I was 12 and had the choice to boot the boyfriend or I'd leave for good, she chose the boyfriend.. and I still loved her. Your ex can disappoint your kids a million times and they'll still love him.. so keeping them away from him when there's not a really good reason, is just hurting them!

That is very disapponting situation, your ex should undestand the feelings of how kids are growing, He should act as a father to them atleast once a in a while, but it doesnt looks like it,If you really think that he was not doing whats good for the kids then you can actually fight for it in the court and get a full custody of your kids maybe he will change his mind and do the right thing..

Hi. That is an upsetting situation, not for you but more on for the kids.The separation , I believe, has put their little hearts and mind in a hurtful and stressful situation and here again your ex's broken promises. The kids will feel that somehow they are being unwanted by him which will leave a really deep mark in their life. You better talk to him and ask him what is his clear plans , if any. It is better indeed to let the kids stay with you all the time than be given false promises.

There is one thing that your ex should realize. That your kids is already in a tough situation. To have parents separated, and having to shuttle back and forth. There is no need to add broken-promises on top of that. If you feel the same, and think your kids need not go through this added suffering, then you should go on with your threat of not letting him have the kids anymore.

hi,you should calm down and infuse responsibility to your ex.you should let him know that he is not only a man but also a father.but i want to mention that in this incident, the kids is always play a innocent role.This incident maybe made a bad and deep impression in their memory. So you must communicate with your ex.Otherwise your children will think they are isolated by parents.

Hi shaggin, I feel sorry for you and the kids. The ex you have, (if he is mine) he will either ended up in the court/prison or worse still in the dung! Marriage is a holy matrimony for every woman out there. We want to make marriage works and it's a fairy tale to all women out there. WHO is the culprit who spoilt this fantasy? The stupid, egoistic, never grow up man! My heart goes out to you. Be strong. DO not believe he will change and expected him to be responsible and be a good father to your kids. It's a waste of time. Chances of him changing to be a better person OR he will makes you into believing he will be more responsible, it just won't happened. Move on with your life. Lead a good example for your kids. Try to spend more time making more money, for yourself and your kids. You too, a daughter to your parents. Don't suffer the consequences of others. Good luck to you.

Take it easy, maybe your exhusband is really busy. You can believe him this time,and said him if it happened the twice, i will not understand u and i will refuse you and take some action to you.