Do you have a relative that constantly does not attend social events?

I myself dont attend social events around me. I know its quite wrong morally but the main thing is that family politics, on social events mostly relatives are discussing family politics and i dont like this. I just want to live my own life and i never objected on other but peoples always trying to object others and giving an impression like they are the most wise in world. Now regarding your issue i think you need to talk to her in detail that m why she is avoiding all these events, maybe she have some issues and complaints regarding your or your family attitude.

When I was younger my mother's family was always having some sort of get-together. I never wanted to go because I didn't feel comfortably around them. My parents were the only ones that were divorced and my cousins made it clear that I was different from them. My mother of course didn't understand. She would say that if I didn't go to their parties, then none of them would come to my wedding or whatever. I really didn't care! There is probably reason she doesn't go to family events. However, she should try not to hurt the children.

Some people dont do well in group situations. soemtimes its a case of the spouse or the person doesnt get along with someone whose always attending... I have a family member who doesnt come when a certain other family member is going to be there. Other family members have lied and said oh so and so isnt going to be there so they both show up..and it always results in the one leaving....i understand why and im not going to go into it but....i'd probably leave rather than say something too.

Hi, I think this neighbor thing issue is everywhere around the globe. I have some neighbors who have never visited any others house the reason best known to them. Even if my house is on fire and the whole city is around he/they would be like playing piano like by Nero. These people are not amendable and die as they are.

hhmm perhaps maybe we should always look every possible reason she doesnt wanna go..its maybe becuase of the budget, or maybe she feel intimidated with others..something like that.. HHMM honestly in my case when I know I just have a bad feeling or insecurity during the family gathering I just chose not to go... so maybe you can talk to her..and tell her what you really feel maybe she will give you a very good explanation.. remeber good communication is very important:) hope everything is gonna be fine:)

That would be hurtful, but perhaps this person has issues that she has chosen to keep private. She may suffer from social anxiety, and feel frightened and shaky in a big group of people. It sounds like she does like you and your children if she is able to come over when there is not a large group of people involved. I do know how you feel though. I have made special efforts to travel to my cousin, who lives two hours away with bad traffic, for her events. But when I ask her to come to my events she can't be bothered. Yet she can travel just fine to her mom's house which is about two hours from her also.

Oh yes, my sister is constantly not attending other family members functions. It is really seriously starting to tick some people off. They come once in a while when it suits them but they miss more than they attend and often without and reason for it. Her and my brother do not get a long so she tries to avoid him, but they are brother and sister and should find someway to work it out and get along or at least learn how to peacefully co-exist in the same place together on occasion.

I don't really have this problem. But, mostly it is because I live pretty far away from my family. I would be hurt if somebody continually did this to me. You're right - she is their aunt and should want to spend birthday's with her nieces and nephews. I would give anything to do that. Of course, my aunt's and uncles all pretty much deserted me. I don't even really feel like I have any aunt's or uncle's. I always vowed never to let my nieces and nephews feel that way. They are important to me and I will always do my best to make them feel that way.

I was one of those people. We did used to attend some, but for the most part, missed many events my family had. Mainly due to my husbands work. My family seemed to understand, but I know they might have been a little annoyed by it. I was always upfront when the plans were discussed, explaining how I did not think we would be able to attend, but that we would try. Sometimes, they even would not mention something planned, as they knew we would probably not attend anyhow. We live about an hour away, now. Then, comes our son. After having a child, and becoming a little older, I have been making sure we attend every event possible. I want my son to know the family and for them to know him. It was one thing for us to miss out and be missed, quite another for a child. I will get back to the person planning, ask details, I try to get the information as soon as possible so I can get my husband to plan around it. There have even been times when my family has changed the plans a little so that we could attend, something I would of never asked them to do before, and something they had never offered. Maybe it is a phase with your family members.

Well, I am that person, my friend. I avoid going to party and other occassions. Because I don't like crowd of people

Me. If she comes over to hang out sometimes then it is the party she has a problem with and not the people in the family. There could be a number of reasons why she doesn't like parties - bad memories, worried how kids might behave, religious reasons, etc. I know it can hurt feelings but if she and/or her family are not comfortable it would only make for a bad situation sooner or later.

we invite many peoples whenever there is any function at home for some reason and keep a watch as to who has come and who is missing. That way we make a list in the next event and exclude the ones who had not come last time. If we know there was a valid reason of not coming and knew it in advance, we do not exclude them from the coming event invitees. There is no point inviting everyone and when they do not come we feel disappointed. better not to invite if they are not willing to joun us. I try to attend all the invitations and if not able to do so, will let them know in advance so that they do not have to waste some money. Thank You for sharing.

Hey, me is part of that person, and I didn't intend to participate any of those events. Not that I have grudge toward the children. It is that their parents aren't so closed to me, and trying everything and every opportunity to stab my back behind me. What is the point to participate such parties, right? Maybe she got a reason not to come.

no i have not but you can solve this problem by invite her with her closest friend and tell her to come with her not alone the resone of that she feel alone because nobody in the party will be from her type try what i told you and i am sure she will come except if there are some problems between you and her before

Hahaha. Your post made me laugh. Why? Because I am that... Most of the time, i dont go to our family's gathering. Even if they are insisting me to go. Even if they pay me just to attend i dont go. They asked me why I dont join family's social events.. I just answer them a smile.. maybe because im a loner

Few people are of the categories who do not like to mix with crowd very much. They enjoy alone in their family. For them social event and mixing is a boring thing. Most of us are excited about shopping but few people really find it difficult to shop. Seeing the crowd.

I think there may be a break-down in communication with this person somewhere. Partying may not be her thing, but she needs to sit down with the family and let them know. Then there's no need for them to be hurt. I am not really a party-goer myself, but my family knows this and is OK about it. I do go to weddings and other occasions, but I often leave before the partying starts. It could be because I spent my early life as a professional musicians and every night was party night with me as part of the entertainment and quite frankly doing that every night really got me fed up of it all. The main thing is that I love my family and they know this. _Derek

I have a Sister-in-law who is that way upon occasion. Though she lives out of state my other Sister-in-law being the favorite of my in-laws will plan a party every so many years and invite everyone under the sun to go. The other Sister will not come, she does not want to get involved in the other sister's plans. I can under stand as airfare is not cheap. Me though, I do avoid such things w/ people other than family. My big hang up is affording a gift or dish to pass. Sometimes kids are not invited or the event is not kid friendly & we have no child care so that will leave us out of things as well.

For me yes because I'm the one of it my decision is not good to attend because it is social life effect then the life is full of lack of money then better to not socialize of.

Count me in. I am also a person who don't like social events. I find most people in there pretentious, and I also hate to pretend. Well maybe you got me wrong but, I really don't like meeting people even my relatives. I am a loner so I really am no a people person.