How do you be YOU and BE HAPPY with everything about youself?
By jacklintan
@jacklintan (1302)
Malaysia
January 11, 2011 11:06am CST
I have learnt throughout the process of growing up, many friends, siblings and parents will be teling me, that I should change some attitudes, habits and even going to the extend of being trained by parents (some spanks and yells...LOL) to be 'good' and to do 'right from wrong'.
Looking at what I am today, I have to say, I'm happy with what I have achieved so far, I'm pretty grateful to my parents that their efforts have not been effortless.
These days, (as a 33 years old mature woman today), I am still being told to CHANGE the way I dress up, either to cut my hair shorter or to get some curls on the fringe,or I should wear skirts more instead or long pants, I should put the spatula in the bowls instead of on the table, it hits me HARD, when one day, my fuse just blow off and I'm telling this friend off, that this is the way I am and I like the way i dresses myself and even with a hole on my shirt, I'm still lovin' it!
Can I be happy with myself and still be MYSELF???
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10 responses
@jacklintan (1302)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 11
hi jillhill,
Thank you for your response. I have people like "that" around me but well, probably they seemed to care too much.
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@johnyang1992 (86)
• China
12 Jan 11
I have always been a person.Live in company dormitories,every day is get up,work,eat,sleep.I am currently living awful.
@jacklintan (1302)
• Malaysia
12 Jan 11
Hi johnyang1992,
Living a routine life can be automative and life isn't about get up, work,eat,sleep.
Probably you can search for some long lost hobbies and things you have always wanted to do in life.
Dare to be different and dream about it.
Good luck
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@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
good thing i spent my younger years with good people especially my parents. they guided me in a superb way. that's why i can do whatever i want but still following their rules. nobody told me to wear this and that unless i ask their opinion. i still ask their permission if i wanna do something big but of course they understand that it's all up to me. they support what i wanted to do that's why i couldnt complain.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
For me yes if you worship the only true God Jehovah you will be happy if you are in the sad life over to the neighbor around.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
Sometimes, our friends or our family members will tell us something to do with ourselves, but in the end it is only you who have a final say about what you should do, what fits you etc.
However, when they do the meddling , perhaps they are just suggesting for some things that would be done or look better for yourself. But you yourself could judge if what they say is good or not fit you.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Jan 11
Well, those things are being just said to you in order that you more or less conform to what they want you to be.
But it is still you who will decide of whether to follow them or not. Don't fret about it, because they are just their way of reminding you that you are loved and they have their full attention in you.
Be happy they are attentive to you still, despite reaching that wonderful age!
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
11 Jan 11
Just be yourself. The world will want to control you if it can. Which of us (Asians) doesn't have "nagging" parents and friends? As for parents, we are always the young ones and I trust they mean well to ensure you keep to the tradition and culture. But you are grown up and you have a right to make your own mind. I trust you know right from wrong, and small wrongs won't make any impact. It could be the big wrongs that we should be wary of. I won't mind seeing you in skirt...hehe..if pants is your norm. Nah, just kidding. Your friend is not you, but his/her mouth is not yours. You cannot please the world, so just please yourself without hurting the world, and without hurting yourself. You can be you, if you choose to be you. It's your choice, and you are even free not to read this post if you choose to. I won't insist.....but maybe it's a tweet too late? Love ya, girl.
@mysticalecstasy (472)
• Pakistan
11 Jan 11
The honest answer NO! Unfortunately, we live in a world where everybody is concerned with what you wanna do with your life. As Paulo says we have all been given our gardens and your neighbors' sole mission in life is to instruct you in planting yours. So next time when someone comes up and passes a suggestion, i suggest you consider whether their opinion matters or not. IF NOT , then let it pass. No point analyzing and wasting all your brain cells on it. Everyone has an opinion and regrettably everybody has freedom of speech but very few endeavored to learn the etiquette of that freedom!
