so, if you're my friend....
By rjblueyes
@rjblueyes (215)
United States
January 11, 2011 10:57pm CST
If you are truely my friend and I was on a diet, and I thought I was starting to loose weight, would you tell me otherwise if you thought so? Or would you just say something nasty and mean because you're jealous? Would you tell me I was fat to my face and that it doesn't look like I lost any weight at all? Would you tell me that you don't know how I walked out the door this morning without obviously looking in the mirror first because my clothes don't look right and my butt looks huge? Or would you kindly look at me, smile over your cup of coffee, and say you think I am loosing weight too, and that I look absolutely amazing? I know everyone "gets brave" on the internet, so imagine I am a very close relative or friend. What would you REALLY say to me? Just thought of this for fun...
10 responses
@yumcookie (146)
• United States
12 Jan 11
There are people who are at a healthy weight and think they need to lose weight, if this person was close to me I would simply tell them they don't need to lose the weight. If they had said they were on a diet and they didn't look like they lost weight I would tell them I don't see anything but keep trying. I'm not the kind of person that will over sugar coat things but I'm not a straight forward moron. I know how to tell a person something politely, if they don't like the truth than that is there own downfall but they did ask for my opinion than I gave it.
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@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
12 Jan 11
YAY! wtg yumcookie :) I like the way you responded to that question. i was in a sarcastic type mood writing it, lol, just wanted to see what everyone would say for fun. Great answer!
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
13 Jan 11
Friends or family should support those they love. As far as i am concerned, just the fact that you are trying to diet and change your eating behavior is a positive thing and i would do what i should to encourage you. Even if it does mean saying a little white lie that your losing when your not if i see you are trying. If someone is mean, ignore, they are probably jealous that you have the desire to change. Good luck and don't let anyone distract you from your goals.
@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
18 Jan 11
Thanks! what a minute.... how did you know I was dieting? lol, I guess you guessed huh? lol, well I have been and lost 5 pounds so far. WOOT for me! lol, look, i'm self WOOTing...
@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
30 Jan 11
Oh I sure am! I'm keeping it up, and am loving the results. I love the more energetic I am and the difference from not eating right or exercising is like night and day. it's great! Thanks so much for your kind words :)
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
18 Jan 11
Congradulations on those five pounds. Wasn't so difficult after all was it? lol. To answer your question a how i knew you were dieting, I didn't I just assumed since you started your discussion with "if." lol. Keep it up and pat yourself on the shoulder with every pound you loose.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
12 Jan 11
If I were your real friend, then I would say the nasty things too (I think)! But not because I'm jealous or anything. It would be so I can motivate you to lose wait some more (I think). I would say, to take every painful thing I have to say and use it as motivation (I think).
And then of course before we go our separate ways, for the day, I'd say that I still love him/her as a friend (I think).
@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
18 Jan 11
ROFL! You sound exactly like me! I would do this exact same thing! oh, we are just awful... lol. I get really sacrastic and it comes across in a bad way, then the next thing you know my friend is going "I'll show her" and loses 20 pounds. Isn't that funny how that works? ROFL!
@Rite17 (773)
• United Kingdom
12 Jan 11
My friends love my honesty... I do like to tell the truth but also show the other side to the negitive comment.. Encouragment and praise is always needed within a friendship and relationship!
Hearing something negitive is not a ncie thing, if the person is quick to get it out but get onto the positives also, it covers up the negitivness and eases the blow really. My Friends always value this and have found that they always love my views, always ask me as well others but knwo they get what is true..
If you are losing weight great! If you are losing but then gain a bit... not good. But, we all get to that and can always carry on losing as before. There is another day to tackle it so keep going! hee hee xx
Happy MyLotting xx
@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
18 Jan 11
Well put Rite17. Although I'm probably not as nice as you because words just seem to leap out of my mouth. I just say things before thinking sometimes, and, well to be frank (lol, i'm frank) I don't think. I just say. In some cases it comes in handy because I speak my mind when it matters, but other times it really hurts others. I really have to start watching it.
@hushi22 (4928)
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16 Jan 11
if i am your friend i will wish what is best for you and comment on the real thing that is happening. if it is bad like not losing weight then i will find a way to say it subtly, but if it's the other way around i might use your way of saying that you are amazing. =)
@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
18 Jan 11
Great response hushi22! You also sound like a great friend and your friends should consider themselves extremely fortunate to know you and have you as such a wonderful friend. Happy mylotting! :D
@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
18 Jan 11
That's why I'm not calling it a diet! I'm calling it "the scale better show weight loss or it's getting beat up office space style with a ball bat"! I'm telling you, it really works! lol, I've been doing it everyday. ;)
@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
18 Jan 11
I wish most people would speak frankly to these people who try out for American Idol! my goodness! how could you let your family member/friend go up on national tv and totally make fun of themselves. The problem is, they actually THINK they are good too! OMGosh! I wish more people could be frank....
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
I usually don't make comment on people's look to avoid confrontation and misunderstanding. If my friend is on the edge of losing weight I'll just let it pass me and gibe her a hug or a pat on the shoulder to make her feel good. I think that's the way of good friends, isn't it?
@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
18 Jan 11
Everyone is different. So if that's how you want to support your friends, go for it! You sound like a great friend EdnaReyes. :)
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
I am a frank person and a true friend to a friend.
I myself would like friends who tells me the truth about myself but of course they have to do it in a nice manner. Hence, as a friend, i would be honest with you too.
I would tell you the truth in a nice manner so you won't get offended and when we are by ourselves only. That way, you could change for the better and ask me what would you better do. I call it constructive criticism.
@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
18 Jan 11
AWESOME! I love the way you answered! I'm sarcastic though, so I'd joke with you a little. something like "yeah! you look like a beached whale! You are just sooo fat, I mean, you're thinner than I am and I can't fit in your jeans, but yeah, you are taking fat to the EXTREME." lol, i really would say something like that. I have to watch my sarcasm, it gets me into trouble. ;)
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
most of my friends, as I am too... are frank to the point of rudeness (but only to each other), I think it depends what your friends are and what you are...none of us would be polite in saying the truth, I guess because we are all confident about ourselves that we don't really give weight to what other people say, even if it's our friends...
, I think it depends what your friends are and what you are...none of us would be polite in saying the truth, I guess because we are all confident about ourselves that we don't really give weight to what other people say, even if it's our friends...@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
18 Jan 11
I definately know what you're talking about. It sounds like I'm being REALLY rude sometimes, and I make hubby mad, but I was just goofing off and being EXTREMELY sarcastic. Sometimes to the point where I make others cry or get VERY angry with me without really meaning to do so. yeah, I gotta stop doing that...
