Have you ever thought about having an affair?

The problem that you experienced, it makes very desperate. I am also very desperate, because I also experienced the same thing. I am very disappointed, with what my husband has done, to me. I tried to face, with hold on to religion. So, I was not wrong in making decisions, and willing to face this ordeal. You must be closer, with religion.

I have the same experience two years ago. My was working in Nigeria for three years and he was having an affair with another woman. I remembered one time he told me that he is never coming back for us but he never told me anything about the other woman..though I have a strong feeling that my husband is really doing it, I tried to tell myself that everything is the same until he confess about it. Four months before he came home, I was surprised one night when we chatted on the internet, he asked for forgiveness and he told me everything...he said they already planned of getting married but he couldn't do it. At that moment, I was so hurt and all I said was "if you love her, just stay because you're happiness is important to me" . Then, he came home and we talked. As a wife, I tried to understand the reasons why he did that and now, we're still living together happily. So, if I were you, give him the freedom to talk, and listen to his reasons...if you could still make your relationship work in spite of everything, then do what you have to do. Understand your husband more, love him more and give your best. Your husband knew your worth.

Hello Miss... I feel extremely sorry for you.. Having an affair is not an answer.. He made a mistake and its improper to answer it with another mistake... Better get seperated... Find a man, who is true and loves you. And then, contact a divorce lawyer.. Getting away from him is the best solution. Tell him that you want divorce...

It would be wrong for me to tell you what you should do and or not do based on my own experiences. As I understand from your comments that this perhaps is part of your culture with polygamy. So it would be wrong for me who lives in USA and not within this culture to dictate and say it is wrong or right for you. All I can add is that you as a woman needs to be stronger and happier. The only way you are going to obtain that is either with acceptance and or letting go. It sounds like your religion and or culture will not allow that either. So please pray for a stronger you to make conscious and righteous decisions. I wish you well.

You don't do thing just to have revenge on others. Having an affair is a serious thing about marriage. If your husband is having one, don't let this break your spirit as a righteous woman. You can't punish him by doing the same mistakes.Why not love him more, make him love you more and make him regret what he had done to you!

Do not think that you are a lesser person, for the infidelity of your husband. He is the one in the wrong and you are better than that. Tell him how you are feeling, and see what he says. Do you still love him? Does he know, that you know? Explain this to him, but please do not lower yourself to his level, you are better than that.

I also had betrayed my wife. I feel guilty, but I am responsible, for what I have done. Indeed I am very selfish, but I have a reason, why I do this. Better you ask your husband, why your husband has another woman. Revenge does not solve the problem.

You don't do thing just to have revenge on others. Having an affair is a serious thing about marriage. If your husband is having one, don't let this break your spirit as a righteous woman. You can't punish him by doing the same mistakes.Why not love him more, make him love you more and make him regret what he had done to you!

When he cheated on you, did you forgive him? Its unclear if this is a ongoing process, or if it is something that happened and you still cant get over his infidelity, thus giving you the urge to cheat on him as well.....IF it happened, and you forgave him, GET OVER IT...YOU ASKED FOR IT... you chose to stick around, so dont keep on making him feel bad about it. Im sorry if i seem a little bit blunt, but it is the truth. If someone cheats on you, may it be a a man or woman, if you want to forgive them....fine...do so, but do not rub it in their face every chance you get...that relationship is destined to fail, if you cant move past it...another thing you have to realize, is there is a chance that he may do it again. But if you feel the need seek revenge, the more reason you should have moved on in the first place. Looking for another man, just makes you as bad as he is, you would be no different. Dont do things that are out of your character for the sake of proving a point to your husband. Instead, have some pride and make him understand that you are not going to take it, and do the neccesary to prove that stand. I know it is easier said than done saying that you leave, but rarely will you ever hear that a marriage is a happy one when there has been infidelity from either spouse. You will be suspicious of him, even when he is not cheating. However, i do not know all the facts, it is only you who can come to a conclusion as to how you want to live in this marriage. I wish you all the best.

when my husband started caring less of me due to his distant job, he himself advised me to find another partner in the mean time he returned and he suggested his friend who had admitted to him about having a crush on me..so I do have this guy Mick now whenever my husband goes leaving me alone..as it was with his permission it is ok but I never decreased my attention to my husband in any ways..never..it always increased and for his trust in me to allow to have another partner stengthned it quite a lot..