Surprise, suprise!

Dear Lore Yes, my eldest daughter organised a joint birthday party for myself and my twin, which was a great surprise in theory, but in reality was a hell of a shock. The main problem was that I thought a small group of us ( plus partners) were going out for a curry, so I hadn't eaten anything much , so I could do the curry (booked for the evening) justice. Also the zip on one of my long black boots had given out, just as I was going out of the front dooor and so (under my trousers), the given-out zip was held together with a large rubber-band - neither elegant, comfortable, nor easy to dance/walk in. Imagine my surprise when walking downtown to the curry-house, the small group I was with suddenly veered left (instead of right), into the conference room of a hotel and, heck, "Surprise" - about 60 of our friends (some from a long distance away)shouted out that welcome and shepherded myself and my sister into a large room, bedecked with balloons, banners, finger-food, flashing lights and a disco. "Sh - t, I said to myself...... and uttered "What a lovely surprise," to everyone else,(between gritted teeth). Yes, it was fabulous, touchingly thoughtful of our respective families to arrange it all and fun, but have you ever tried to dance with a flapping boot? It's not easy, I can tell you!!! I would rather have had a bit of a warning, so I could have worn different footwear.....and I was as hungry as a Christmas turkey.....but then, the party wouldn't have beeen a surprise, would it?

I've never had any surprise party in my life. Actually, I'm the one who plans parties I want to have. In your case, your friend should have considered the people you would most probably want to invite on your special day. Still, it's the thought that counts right? I would love to have a surprise birthday party someday. Hopefully, someone would think of it. haha

Not really....an engagement party would be something different though then a birthday party.....well to me it would be. I would like to know if someone was going to do that....but an engagement is something very special and its fun to know people are thinking of you...at my age birthdays are not much fun anymore! LOL

Lore- I've been thrown surprise parties several times in my life, all baby showers, and I absolutely adored them. The last one my husband threw for me for the birth of our daughter. He mailed out all the invites, catered the food, and picked out a precious cake. It was very sweet. I just felt bad because only two people that he invited showed up after all his hard work. It was the thought that I loved most. The fact he'd go through so much work for me. You can't replace that even if you are not expecting the party. I think all too often people find something to critique in these situations and they never stop to think that the person who did it for them did it because they love and care for them. Namaste-Anora

That was awkward. I had a party thrown at me once. It was also a surprise. The party went fine. The ones who organized it was my friends and they know me very well that's why the party wasn't a waste.

Two years ago, on my birthday, one student of mine invited me to go to a hotel for an early breakfast and coffee. I brought one student along with me and when i was there he suddenly disappeared and left me with the other student. I waited for like 5 minutes and was a bit worried that he got lost, but to my surprise he appeared with a cake on his hand with a candle on it, singing happy birthday as he was walking towards me. I was very happy at that time coz i saw the sincerity in his eyes.

I rather give surprise parties more than receive them. No matter how many times people have tried to surprise me I have found out before it happened. I just know something is going on and then I have to act surprised and I really hate that. If I know someone doesn't like surprise parties I won't do one for them because I wouldn't want it done to me.