How do you consider those who ask questions and answer themselves..?
By chayapathys
@chayapathys (2111)
India
January 12, 2011 8:18pm CST
Many times we come across people who ask us some questions and before we think and answer they themselves sugest some answers and expect one of the answers suggested by them from us.Such people know the answers for their questions by themselves but still pose their questions to others.I wonder why should they ask us at all when they themselves know the answers.When I thought over the matter two ideas struck in my mind..one is that they are testing our knowledge and two whether their answers are correct or not.One thing I noticed is they do not also take our answer seriously and they adopt their own method.However such situations are very embarasing for us.What do you think about their real intention...?
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5 responses
@JackRabbit (71)
• New Zealand
13 Jan 11
I would think people who do this intentionally may want the assurance about their own answers. By questioning others they would be able to receive different answers, thoughts or views(ideas). Then they would be able to compare all the accumulated answers with their own and come up with an logical explanation for their own answer. It is a process to assist themselves to better express their own answers. This could be a well intention easily misunderstood by those who don't understand why they are questioned. Often explaining to them might help. But only question those who are interested in providing answers or it would be perceived negatively as an annoyance.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
14 Jan 11
What you say may be correct but how to know their real intention.But when they themselves suggest answers beforre we reply it irritates us and looks as if they are hecking at us.Best way appears to be to agree with them and avoid further discussion or try to switch over to some other topic.What do you think?.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
16 Jan 11
At times it is difficult to say that we are not prepared to continue the conversation.I all depen upon the person with whom we are conversing.With a boss we cannot say that we are not interested to continue conversation.Alternatively we can shift the topic of conversation, keep mum smiling or agree to their suggested answer saying it as the best..
@JackRabbit (71)
• New Zealand
14 Jan 11
You are right with the fact that people's real intention can never be fully known by another individual. From the prospective of the person who is questioning. They might believe that they are asking rhetorical questions. This may not be easily understood by everyone, but if you feel there is no need to continue any further discussion or wish to switch topics... you may do so. You could reply and state that you do not wish to continue the conversation and if they fail to understand you could even try to ignore. If my suggestions fail then go with your option of agreeing with them for the purpose ending what appears to be a pointless conversation for you. (Warning this can be quite difficult if you are in a position of authority and wish to maintain a positive image within community. Feel sorry for only some authority figures...)
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
I think they just wanna be noticed and recognized as smart. I've encountered people like that. The moment I started thinking about the answer they blurt out their own set of answers like saying "You're too dumb enough to think. Here's what I suggest. Blah blah blah.." During those situations, I just smile and think "What an @sshole." then I say "What do you think is best?" When they've finally picked their answer I'll say "There you go."
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
13 Jan 11
Your way of approach to the problem seems to correct.Any way they do not heed our advice and why should we bother .Better agree with them and avoid further irritating discussion.I had enough of these people and I am also trying to follow the method you have suggested.By that we can prevent blood pressure for us....
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
14 Jan 11
What ever may be the motive behind their asking questions we should be on guard and comeover the situation.We cannot rectigy them but we can adopt some method to avoid embarrasing situation and be happy and make the other person also happy..
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
13 Jan 11
What kinds of questions are you talking about? I'd say that if the question is asking for advice or asking what something is, or anything along those lines, I'd say that it would be strange of them to answer their own question.
However, if they are asking an opinion of something and give their opinion, I don't see why this should offend you.
So which kinds of questions, so I can fully understand and answer your question.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
16 Jan 11
Asking for our opinion is different than seeking advice or posing a question.If they ask for our opinion there is no controversy.But only when they pose a question as af seeking an answer then the problem arises.It is not a question of getting offended but is irritation that matters when they start answering their own question without waiting for our reply...
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
13 Jan 11
When you have a question, you need an honest answer. It should not be one you have found for yourself. If you can answer your own question, you may already have made the decision you were looking for.@chayapathys (2111)
• India
16 Jan 11
Yes you are right. when you know the answer and still ask the question it means you don't bother about another man's answer.If one asks a question it idea behind is sincerity and not hyprocacy.In case even when one knows the answer he or she should keep it for himself or herself so that the other man does not get hurt...
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
13 Jan 11
Well if you ask me they are too smart or too dumb. I mean what's the point in asking the question then. I think they just want to show to others that they are smart. I get that sort of stuff all the time mostly. Most of my friends post silly questions and then they answer it themselves. I don't even know why they do that. And recently i have seen that they are doing in front of girls...
Please.... As if that were enough to prove girls that you are smart!
Cheers!
Cheers!
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
14 Jan 11
Ok.But that sort of attitude appears be irritating.How to know their real intention.Are they testing our kowledge and experience if not why should they ask question and suggest answer before we open our mouth.Some how I do not like it and I try to avoid such people..
