You cannot please everybody
By mommitz8
@mommitz8 (8)
January 13, 2011 2:03am CST
I have had an experience where an old friend felt I would be perfect if I had changed a few things about me that was very much apart of who I am. A good example would be my sensitivity. I would say that it's starnge that the qualities a person once loved about you when they 1st met you, some would try to change over time to tailor their own needs. I feel that if I change for someone else, I won't be the same person he or she 1st met and liked so much. It took me a long time to be okay with myself, enough to defend who I am. I was raised to be a submissive person to make people happy. I love it when people like me and it is so depressing when people talk behind me and tend to criticize me knowing that I haven't done anything that might annoy them or hurt their feelings.
Well, we are all individuals with unique qualities. We cannot really please everyone! we must remember that "He who tries to please everybody pleases nobody"
11 responses
@sorsbilerty (5)
• China
21 Jan 11
Act according to your own judgement,be your self,then youwill get some true friends.
@calpro (930)
• India
14 Jan 11
hi mommitz8,
In life it is really impossible to please everybody, I agree to you 100% undoubtedly. If we want to please everybody we can't please ourselves and we will lose our individuality. If we are losing our individuality means we are traveling in a wrong direction which will not help us in anyway.
I learned this lesson after bitter experiences I had in my life. I was so concerned about people around me and used to help them financially without thinking, finally landed into deep financial crisis.Then I learned the lesson to help what we can afford.
In the same way if we try to please everybody we can't please ourselves.
Happy Living
Calpro
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
17 Jan 11
Hi calpro, It may be true that we cannot please and change ourselves for the sake of others all the time.However, there are times when an individual changes for the sake of another person, does things happily and voluntarily .But this has to come automatically and not out of compulsion...after all in life it is nice to make some changes if they are positive and brings happiness to yourself and also those you love..
@Bianca_mergillano (1067)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Greetings! Yes. You're right. Its okay. Just be yourself. You can be whoever or whatever you want to be as long as you're not hurting others, its okay. We don't live in this world just to please all the people around us. Of course there are some who gets annoyed no matter how kind we are. We just have to accept the fact that there are people who likes us. There are also people who don't and we don't know their reason. We just have to ignore them for our own good. It depends. If they get annoyed because we're doing wrong, its okay because its wrong but if they get annoyed without doing anything, they're the one who are wrong. Not us so we should have patience. Just be happy and live life the way you want it to be. Happy mylotting! :)
@astreadido (608)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
No, we cannot please everybody. All of us have an individuality that sets us apart from the others. Our standards and views may differ from others. And nobody is perfect because everyone has our own idea of perfection. What matter most is that we respect each others individuality and appreciate each and everyone for himself/herself.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Yes you are right, "you cannot please everybody " and for that last liner of yours.
When your friend talks behind your back about you, then maybe there's something wrong. Nobody wants a backbiter for a friend. So, to make things clear, you can talk to her heart to heart.
Ask what annoys her in you. Open up and say your piece. Now, if you know that what she don't like in you is incorrigible, then tell her to just like it because it's what you are. But if the backbiting persist, then leave your friend and avoid her. Make friends with others who will love you as you are.
However again, if what she says about you is a constructive criticism, perhaps you could have a go for it, if it will make you a better person. Doing so, would keep your friend and improve yourself also.
@badwes (406)
• United States
1 Mar 11
We can change to be a better persons and to give our best ..To connect with people is not a game and you'll never please them all ! If any ., but some times you need to make adjustments to make your partener happy . As long as it does no harm ..At the end give and take is what is between all of us with love
@koalatbs (2229)
• United States
13 Jan 11
I agree with your quote about "He who tries to please everybody pleases nobody" mommitz8. It is very true. I think I was kind of like you growing up, being submissive and wanting to please everybody. I speak my mind now if need be. I am not a loud or opinionated person to say the least but if something irks me and I think it is important to speak up about it, I will.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Yes definitely we cannot please everybody and there is nobody's perfect in this world. We wanted to have more friends and be happy with them but sometimes they are the cause of our sadness and they are really do mad at us. They have also their expectation and we had too but sometimes this expectations ruin us. Like for example one of my friend expected that i will give to him what he wanted and i rejected him so we result in break up and misunderstanding and at the end we parted ways. And another time i really wanted to please one of my best friend because she got angry to me and you know what i did everything that i know she likes almost all just please her but at the end no result. I also pretend to most of the times to please some people but it hurts me at the end. Well this is just a true experienced of pleasing just to make myself good in their eyes. But sometimes result was good not all the times are negative.
@lizmik143 (137)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
I agree with you. The best thing to do is to be yourself. You can never be wrong with being you as you.
@juvani (4)
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13 Jan 11
We really can't please everybody, this is because every people have different thinking. But, as long as you are doing good and doing the best that you can that is the important one. As long as you know by yourself your only purpose is to be at your best without hurting others.
@spicyburrito (3)
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13 Jan 11
True! If a person is trying to tailor your personality, that person doesn't need you. He/she doesn't need a friend but he/she wanted a pet that will please them. They just have to accept you for who you really are. That is what true friendship is all about. It's about accepting the person for who they are and being there for them in times of need... God Bless!
