which answer would you like to hear?
@xiaoanorincess (237)
China
January 13, 2011 8:53am CST
dear my lotters,as a famale,we all want a perfect man who loves me very much? we always ask them "do you love me?" again and again,so what's the perfect answer you want to get?it's just the one as simple as 'I love you" or you do have some other answers in your mind which can prove that he looooves you.
16 responses
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
14 Jan 11
Hey, my dear LAO LV. The relationship between man and woman are complicated. I believe love but don't believe long last relationships. Anyway, women should not keep asking such stupid questions like that coz men would get fed up with us. If he does loves you he would do something really makes you touched . We need trust. ANYWAY, i expect his actions more than his sweet words.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
17 Jan 11
I'm with jricky1 on this one. Constantly saying "I love you" Or asking "do you love me?" is a sign of immaturity and gets incredibly irritating. If you wish to drive your partner away...do this.
Besides, not "all females" want or expect this. Trust, loyalty, respect...these things are of much greater importance in a relationship. People who constantly dwell on the word "love" are merely in love with the idea of being in love. It's how a guy treats you and how you treat him, it's the things you each do to enrich the life of your "other half". Insisting on asking for the words or saying the words with the expectation of hearing them back is really, really silly. It would drive me up the wall.
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
15 Jan 11
you surprized me!I agree with jacklintan,I like sincerely sweet words!
@jacklintan (1302)
• Malaysia
14 Jan 11
hi jricky1
I have to say, men saying sweet words is NOT stupid. It's not stupid action for woman to ask from their men.
Both actions and words are equally important!
@lady_di1210 (263)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
I really don't need to hear a lot of "I love you" coming from the one I love. Saying I love your very often sounds more of a cliché for me which makes me think if he really means what he says. I'd like to hear him utter those three words for once in a while especially when we just reconciled from a certain misunderstanding. But I like it best when he proves to me that those three words aren't just a legend, especially when he acts out at times I least expect.
@lady_di1210 (263)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
you bet ^_~
either by actions or by words, as long as your love meant it, that's all that matters..
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
13 Jan 11
hi,thanks for sharing your opinions!yeah ,sometimes the quantity isn't equal to the quality!the point is you do say it with your heart!
good luck!
@housechaos7 (609)
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14 Jan 11
I think we all just say "I LOVE YOU"and are partners respond as habit eventually but now I often prompt for further proof lol like saying "How much do you love me"I know it sounds silly as then we try and compete like we are 5 years old but its helpful in bringing back the fun and opening up for discussions.
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
15 Jan 11
yeah,communication is very important in love!have a good day!
@pollytoast (195)
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14 Jan 11
my husband tells me everyday that he loves me and i always respond with "i love you too" but it is always him that says it first, I think it is the way our parents are, his always say "i love you" to each other and to all of the children but my family don't do that. It doesn't mean we love each other any less but just the way I am. x
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
15 Jan 11
yeah ,every person has its way to express their love!it has nothing to do with words or actions!just feel it by heart!you can sense it!
@sameer786 (832)
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15 Jan 11
If i ask him that do you love me, and if he say yes i love you that means something wrong but when he says that no, i hate you then i satisfy that he loves me, reason is that after asking for love is not the expression of love, the real feeling of love comes when it is either untold or tell without asking from anyone.
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
15 Jan 11
haha,you are so interesting!but wahtever,you do know you love each other!best woshes to you!
@arvind_mangal2002 (124)
• India
14 Jan 11
Hey this is arvind here, i would like to tell that if my lover loves me, then she need not to say even that she love me a lot. I think love is not a thing to say, but this is the only thing to feel. So feel the love with your lover not think that you have a right lover or not ..............
Thanks & Regards
Arvind
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 11
I don't ask but by his actions I can get the answer whether he loves me or otherwise. Asking everyday whether your partner/spouse love you is not only irritating but would reduce the true meaning of 'true love'. Saying 'I love you' does not move me as much as saying 'You mean so much to me.'
@blessing2u (496)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
I didn't know that it's normal for many women to always ask the question do you love me. I don't know either what they want to hear when they ask such a question often. It may be that they just want to hear the re-assurance that their man still loves them and hearing the same will make their spirit feel good. When I am asked often, sometimes it's irritating when the answer is always the same. Anyway, we just understand how women feel and just ride on to their question.
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
15 Jan 11
yeah ,as women ,we should love and trust ourselves first!have a good day!
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
14 Jan 11
I don't know about the perfect man thing but, I prefer he shows he loves me rather than state it. Words can be meaningless. I saw it happen too often as a kid. He'd say he loved her but cheated on her. He'd buy expensive presents for her and brag about it, yet cheat on her. So no I don't expect to hear it. It's very nice when it comes on its own.
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
15 Jan 11
yeah ,no one likes to be cheated on!so ,we should be honest first!have a good day!
@rainbowink (296)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
LOL, of course it's these three words that we want to hear the most. Saying I love you should be sacred and should only be said when your guy means it. If he says it more often because he knows you want to hear it, then it's time to think twice. As you get more mature (not that I don't think you're immature as of this moment), your relationship will too and your relationship will be stronger as ever that you don't need to hear I love you more often and it's the action that you're loving the most.
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
13 Jan 11
yeah exactly,as time goes by,you two has developed the greater understanding about each other and you konw you love each other in your deep heart!it's just like a there is an unwritten agreement between you two
good luck
@henkiprananda (2729)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 11
hi
if you ask man like that, of course you only get regular answer, lik " i love you", " i always love you", and etc. no body's perfect, you can see how much they love from what they do, i think.
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
13 Jan 11
yeah,ecactly,seeing from his act is the beat way!but sometimes we do need some sweet words!
@jacklintan (1302)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 11
Hi xiaoanorincess,
First, all women are like tofu. Soft, slippery and fragile.
When comes to love, they need to be constantly be reminded that they're to be loved everyday of their life. They need LOVE in order to bloom beautifully and most of all, to be happy and be cherished by their husband/partner.
Frankly speaking, women need to be reminded that they're loved by their spouse/husband.
This IS A FORM OF ASSURANCE and a reflection of appreciation by their spouse.
It's just the man who forgets to say it out and to show their love to their woman.
SO, MEN OUT THERE, If you want to get "it" from your wife tonight, Dont forget to SAY, "I love you, dear"
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
15 Jan 11
haha,you have a vivid matephor!I hope those men could accept your advices!have a good day!
@suguwillu (113)
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13 Jan 11
ya i remember when i was in love with my husband before marriage i used to tell him so many i love you the answer was only one he used to say i love you infinity. that was so much for me. enjoy the days.
@awgoat06 (36)
• United States
14 Jan 11
Hey! Dont be so paranoid about it. i used to be the same way for a few year's after i was married but i learned that a man may not allway's say the "L word" but he probably will let you know he love's you in other way's. it's the little thing's he does that will tell you how he feel's...such as holding a door for you or a compliment on your appearance. Trust your feeling's. women usually know if there man really love's them or not. If he treat's you like garbage it's obvious he dosen't care and it's time to kick him to the curb!!
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
15 Jan 11
yeah,exactly!there is no point of forgiving a whole forest just for a tree!have a good day!
@angelsmummy (1696)
•
13 Jan 11
I dont need to ask my husband if he loves me anymore, I know he does, he tells me everyday... I used to ask him alot even when he told me, Yes I do love you, Id ask why do you love me, he used to give me a big long list...
Its so sweet when you find the man that loves you as much as you love them and to be honest I dont need the reasons anymore! I know he loves me for me :)
@xiaoanorincess (237)
• China
13 Jan 11
wow,it's so lucky for you do have such a wonderful husband!you are right,every women want a husband who loves them !good wish for you!
@Bianca_mergillano (1067)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Greetings!
For me actions speaks louder than words.No matter how many he he'll tell me that he loves me, if he's not putting it into action, I won't be happy. To answer your question well, I want him to say, "I love you, Always and forever!" WOW. I really want to hear that. It makes me feel really happy and thankful that I have him but as of now, I won't hear those words because I'm single. Huhu. Anyway, Have a nice day! Happy mylotting! :)
