Would you want to know?

I am possessive and (feel insecure) for sure. I want her love around me everywhere and everytime. If i dont come to know of it no issues, but if I come to know, and feel that my share of time is not being given from heart.... I am not sure what will I do then but that would never be good

I would definately want to know reguardless of if i was treated like a queen love and trust are so important in a relationship and it is important for a relationship if things are going to work.

How about if you didnt know and suddenly you find out you have a STD. You didnt sleep around. Now suppose the STD was crippling or deadly and there is no cure. Do you still want to not know even if he treats you good? First of all if he is cheating he would not be treating you good. It would mean he really does not want you. Otherwise he would not be playing in the field. Something he should have been done with when he got married.

I would like to know for sure, need to know about the guy who proved to be better than me. Even If I do not have any complain from my partner and she is in another relationship, than also I need to know as to why is she doing this? What is with the Guy that I should have? I do not expect this to happen in my life . Thank you for sharing.

I'd want to know so that I can dump him pronto! how can I be happy when I am sharing the person that I love to someone else?

I would by all means necessary want to know if my partner is having an affair no matter if he treats me big time or even our love has not decelerated. Cheating is a super no no to me and I could not take it knowing that he is sleeping or seeing someone else. He is just playing with our raltionship if he does that. It would make me paranoid not to know what he'd been doing of if he's into something suspicious, I would do necessary steps to ascertain myself and comfirm his actions. If ever he has an affair, end of the realtionship totally, can't help imagining that he is seeing another woman.

Hi! I think if my spouse is having an affair, she will not keep it a secret (means she cannot keep it as a secret) she will divulge directly or indirectly.. And when your partner takes you in confidence for doing something beyond the purview, you tendency towards her/him will change.

Yes, I would definitely want to know because I feel it is important to be honest with each other. I wouldn't say I would leave my partner right away and would forgive a mistake, but she would have to choose whether it was me or the other man that she wanted. It would be quite an unhappy event anyway, and I am not sure whether we would ever be the same again. I do my utmost to live with truth, and I don't think I would be that prepared to live a lie. But it is easy enough to talk hypothetically and reality it entirely different. _Derek

Hm, if I was in an open relationship, I'd want to know in advance. But if I found out otherwise, I suppose it would depend on how I felt about him and how I was being treated. I'd have a problem with the dishonesty though.

Well, everything should be in good particularly marriage relationship. Because this is the core of being happy with both partners. Life with full of cheat and misunderstanding should not be on the floor...We need not to know the past and strive the future for better relationship

Yes, I would need to know so, when I go to the Dr.'s I DON'T GET ANY SURPRISES! B/c if I'm surprised... then ALL HELI IS GONNA BREAK LOOSE IN MY HOUSE!!lol BELIEVE THAT!

I would not want to know the affairs he's having. I don't want to hurt myself. But women had this special traits so called woman's intuition. We can tell if something fishy is going behind our backs, we can't help it, discovering or knowing the affair surely would break my heart. I will make some demands and explanations . If the affair is serious then I'll make him decides, its me or her!

it depends on how he treats me. I mean if he gives me no idea that he is cheating on me than I would probably not want to know. but if he starts ating all weird of course I would strat aking myself what's going on with him and I would like to know the reason of his behaviour

Yes, but not by her (or anyone else) telling me. As my wife, she would be with me when I need her (one reason for the invention of the cellular phone). When the affair interfered with that faithfulness, I would have to cut her off like a cancerous growth.

A few years back, my answer would have been different. But now...with the experiences that I have been through, I feel I think the same as you do. I wouldn't want to know if my partner was treating me well....but would want to know (coz I would have a genuine reason to leave) if he wasn't treating me right.

Even if an affair of my spouse was painful to me, i would still want to know about. I would rather have the unhappiness than to live a lie. Not knowing about an affair can be as disastrous as knowing about it.

oh my god! you don't mind if your partner cheats you, if he treats you well?? that is not very comfortable for me! his love and care should be only for me. i can't let him share that with another girl. for me, loyalty, honesty, respect and being understanding is very important in a relationship.

Of course.. I really don't want to be cheated, and it's good to know as early as possible if he can be trusted or not.. I don't like secrets, and the truth always comes out anyway...so I would like to know.

As for me, i would like to know if my partner is having an affair. That's very hurtful if you are the last one to know. It's so much better when he tells you than to expect that you're still the one, the only one he love. I won't tolerate his actions though, it's not a rightful thing.

I would definitely want to know. I am engaged, so it would be a great thing for me to know lol, especially since we have a child together. Luckily for me, however, I know that he won't do that to me and to our daughter. We love each other soo much and would never hurt each other in such a way...