Being single or to be married...? advice the youth

The trick that everyone should learn early, particularly the males, is to be self sufficient. That is, you should be able to look after yourself entirely, without your parent's help. This includes the boring household chores of cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Then when a suitable spouse appears, they will be impressed to say the least, and will have no second thoughts about your abilities and sense of responsibility. The choice of marriage then comes down to love and feelings only, without the 'slavery' part which deters many people from marriage. An added advantage is that, should the marriage fail, you are still able to live reasonably. Again, for the males, a clean house and the ability to cook good food will attract the girls more than anything else!

I think religion and society make people including myself think that we are not whole or complete without marriage or a relationship, and we make ourselves feel inadequate for not being married or having that relationship its been ingrained in us to think this way but as I've grown up and grown older and watched people in my close circle go through the ups and extreme downs of being in a relationship, I realize that having a relationship doesn't make life better, in fact it make life so much harder because feelings can get hurt children can get hurt and some people get so involved with there lover or mate that if something happens and that mate is no longer in there life they cant even survive because they've invested so much into there marriage even changing there jobs or changing themselves in other ways to make there mates happy. so when it comes to marriage I have mixed feelings. dont get me wrong I would love a companion to share life with and to know what real love feels like, the love a person feels when there in a relationship, but having my mental emtional physical and spiritual freedom is just as importaunt to me as love is and being in married can sometimes mean losing that.

I'd rather be single, then I can be free to play around (no not that kinda play) marriages tend to fail so Im better off not doing so.