Woman should be at home ??

In your country, the women have the option of working or not, which is a luxury that many Europeans and Americans do not have. So much depends on your financial position and your family pressures. Somehow, I don't think you have as much choice in the matter as you think! I expect your future inlaws will have a lot to say on this!

Well, if money is not a problem to you, then you can just allow her to stay home but if you believe that your income is not enough to support your family, then you can have her working. You can also ask your wife if she wants to stay home. A lot of women today even their husbands can afford for them to stay home, still chooses to work. For me, I would rather do work. My husband earns good and can well support our family but I prefer to work. I don't like staying home, it bores me to do similar household chores everyday and just wait for the husband to come home. Another advantage for me is that, I get to have the freedom whenever and whatever I please. My husband pays for everything in the house and it's not good that I always ask from him to spend for my clothes, for my make-ups and all other stuffs women are fund of. But of course, the decision should come form your wife.

If she wants to work then that is her decision and no one elses. Perhaps you could both come to a compromise? She could work until you both start a family then she could spend a few years raising the children and go back to work at a later time? That is what I would like to do but I cannot afford to so I start back at work next month. ( I have a 22 month old and an 8 months old)

Congrats at first! The decision depends on what your wife wants her to be. Its high time that both men and women should hear to what each other wishes to do. Working or not working depends on factors like a)family's financial status( money is much mandatory for almost everything today) b)how much strong and bold the woman is( such that she can face social problems at office and at outside). she will get exposed to world if she is let to work for the first time,if she got used to it, she will be keep on improvising her personality. If she s not let to work, she can only be a Queen for her own 4-wall kitchen and a monotonous mother who could teach only the bookish curriculum for her kids.I would say, No one can even suggest her, the decision is all her's if she could get going brilliantly at anything she chooses.,either Home OR Work!

Congrats at first!

As an American woman, my gut reaction is to say "Of course she should work!" After thinking about it, though, I would modify my answer. Instead of "Of course she should", it should be "She should work if it's something she wishes to do, but you should discuss the matter and try to come up with reasonable compromises." By compromise, I mean that you should each come up with some reasons she should work and some reasons she shouldn't, and discuss those. For you, try to think of one thing that would be hardest for you to deal with if she were to work. Admittedly, I have a hard time understanding why you wouldn't want her to work, but that's mostly a cultural background difference. As an example of something hard to deal with, are there particular jobs that you would be unhappy with her taking? If so, think about why that particular job would make you unhappy. Also, determine what her reasons are for wanting to work. Does she want to help out financially? Is she looking for something to do outside of the home while you're working? Personally, I've always needed an outlet outside of the home. Of course, right now, I can't afford not to work. I've always found the outlet to be important, for several reasons. One, by interacting with people other than just my family, I learn new things, and often grow as a person. Two, I find it enriches my family life, by providing me with new topics to discuss with the family. Sometimes, sure, it is just me venting about how upset something at work made me, but other times, I have pleasant stories to tell about people I talked with. At any rate, I still suggest each of you coming up with pros and cons about the job, and the other person responding to those. Don't just agree with the pros and cons, though, try to come up with counter-arguments. This isn't to talk her out of wanting a job, or you not wanting her to work, but it helps you both understand the other better, and it allows you a clearer view of things by studying the issue from both viewpoints.

Hi,my friend, it depends on so many things. Firstly, your country and your culture. How is the situation in your country? Is it common for women working outside? What's your wife's opinion? I mean does she like working? Have she got good education? If you are in a country where there is no gender discrimination and lots of women work outside. If your wife got good education and it will be a big waste to stay at home. You should let her go out. The other thing is the household finance. If you can support the family easily, while your wife likes very much stay home and take care of kids. You can let her enjoy staying at home and being a good wife. And finally, congratuations to you. Wish you happy marriage.

It is not good asking me I believe in the superiority of women as a general rule so if your wife wishes to out to work then she should do just that. Marriage is partnership of equals if you wish to say she must not go out to work then she can say you should not go out to work. If you can't agree on such a basic part of a marriage maybe you should forget the whole thing

Wow! ARe you serious!!? This is 2011 right? I would say it should be a mutual aggreement so that you can both benefit from teh situation. Did you think to ask her what her preference is?

hello, That depends on the situation. If she is presently working and you have an agreement that after marriage she will stay at home,if she agreed then it's fine. A career woman is used to have been working,but if is she chooses to be a plain housewife that would be great,especially if you are financially stable to support the finances. It's just a matter of agreement,talk the matter with her and asks her opinion.

I would say that she should be allowed to go to work even if it is not for money. More importantly it depend on whether she wants to work or not. Whether it is financial independence or passion you need to discuss this with her. However, when it comes to kids I would be a person to give them more time than my professional life. So all you need to do is ask her whether she can manage house and work simultaneously which is a tedious thing to do. And this also depends how strong willed your wife is. All the very best for your married life ahead :)

Hello in a old fashion marriage woman will stay at home but now in a modern way woman has the same level with men. However, depends on the agreement between you and your wife that you can allow her to work until your children not yet come then after that you can tell her to stay at home for your children welfare... see you around

I think this is a subject that you can not decide on your own. The person who is going to work is your wife. I think she has the right to decide. If she wants, why not. You will need more money when you have children. So I think it is the best way to save money beforehand. I wish you both a happy, long life together..

well, i think you should let her free and try to know her thought. I think maybe it's a good idea to let your wife work. That means if you guys have more money and that doesn't a bad thing. with more money you could do more things you like. anyway ,if she don't want i think it doesn't matter. hey,personally,i think it's better to go to work,but if she stay home and do some housework she like..it is also not a bad idea..... anyway,it depends on your wife and you should respect her..wish you guys happy!

I think it is totally up to your wife. In these modern times, women can make that choice for themselves. You will be wading into dangerous water if you want to make the decision for your wife. If she does not want to work, that is a different situation altogether.