how to avoid bad effect divorce for kids

I've always thought that kids are really simple. All they want is love. So if you divorce and both parents are loving to their kids, and have their best interests at heart, then they will be fine. That means, no intense arguements infront of the kids, no using the kids to try and get one up on the other partner (saying, "you love me more, right Billy", because that's selfish, and love isn't selfish), and never say anything bad about the other parent infront of the kids. Oh yea, and never take out a bad mood caused by the divorce on the kids... it's selfish. Just love! =D

of course we have to explain why it happened, using language that kids understand. still giving freedom to children to meet and communicate with both parents.

i think its destiny for kids who their parents decide to divorce... their parent got conflict, but the biggest impact is in their kids..

No matter how much we shelter and protect them, they will be affected. Key factor here is that as the parents they must remember that they are divorcing one another and not the children. Such as a father although now may not be around seven days a week he still has to remember he has to maintain and bond if not more so after a divorce. Mothers must remember that the issue is with the ex-husband so she cannot through around any harsh words that will influence the children and vice verse of the father. It will never be one hundred percent easy, but both parents whether they like it or not are tied together in many ways because of the children so as amicable as they can possibly behave is the best for the sake of the children.

Children are always a very vulnerable entity in case of divorce. In most cases,they do not represent an insurmountable obstacle in the determination of divorce. "Life must be lived, is not it? And later the child will understand that a divorce does not mean the end of the world. I take care to not miss anything,even if he will not be there."So think perhaps some people.A divorce affects parents and children, the child is deprived of parental model (paternal or maternal). From my point of view I do not think can be avoided effects that divorce can have on children, it is important for the moment that they may not guilty, to believe it's their fault, do not feel unloved, rejected, and facts that can lead to being complex, outraged or even antisocial. So perhaps, as with adults with problems, it is best to call a psychologist until the time is over.