A Question About Long Distance Relationships

Love to each other is the strongest of all and there is no question about where you are. For me i believe that long distance love affair is not the a big issue in the love between you and partner. All i can tell is maintain your trust with each other to grow more the love. Always send messages that makes you alive in her/him at least one sms a day. If you have more time ring a phone for her and send some sweets words. Try to send also some cards and gifts even you are at internet you can do this. There are lot of ways to prove your love and be faithful forever to him/her. But don't forget to plan your visit to see each other. At least to fulfill the love you have and to grow more the love. Think all the possible sweet phrases and send. try ..

I had a similar situation.i was going away for 4 years.and so we agreed to be truely honest with each other of talking about our problems being away from each other however bad it might get into our relationship. The first few months were really hard but Eventually we decided we should just move on with our new lives and see a change. 2years gone and we are still singles :D. well, maybe if ur love is strong no way is hard way.

MMichaels, Let me just say that the greatest distance is often not that of the physical distance, but rather, it's the emotional distance between the both of you. If the relationship crumbles - it's probably too fragile within to survive in the harsh reality of Love. IMHO, even if she is just next block away from you, it will still fail. Since this is a LDR, I would advise you not to expect things to fall nicely in place for either one of you. Like any other aspects of your life - if you don't put in the effort to upkeep and make it better, it will just perish gradually. Don't always hope for the best possible situation and/or the best possible mate - it never happens. Our relationship are always imperfect - because we are imperfect ourselves. We grow from imperfection and struggles, so as to polish our personality and character. Take care and I wish you both all the best.

it's really hard. my last relationship is a long distance one but i barely remember the feeling. but i was and am sure that it's hard. his family and his work are located in Japan. though it's just an hour difference with mine but even though he calls me everyday, it's still not enough. i wanted to hug him and kiss him everyday. but i can't. i wanted to tell him stories about my day and whatever but we have limited time over the phone. sometimes we misunderstood something we sent via text or chat. what we do is build a lot of trust and understanding. we lasted for years but on and off. we decided to end it because of the distance. it took time for me to get over it and understand that we can't make it this time. however he got married, that was the time i accepted that there will be no next time for us. we remain friends though, even right after we split. he has a baby now and we talk about family sometimes. from that experience, maybe or close to making sure that i'm not okay with long distance. it'll work for others i know but it needs a lot of patience, understanding, trust, surprises, and effort.. or whatever you need to have to keep it going. goodluck..

honestly, long distance relationship is sometimes difficult to handle especially now that world around is very tempting... however, despite with the temptations around as long as your relationship is grounded with trust it will work very smoothly. constant communication is a plus, it's a way of bridging the gap between that two of you.

hi, actually i cant live and love to a long distance relationship, because i really cant resist in a long distance lover.

Long distance relationship is really difficult, i can say that myself as im also in this kind of relationship. The longingness and the loneliness really makes you feel depressed. At least you are just 3 hours away. Me and my hubby now is miles miles away from each other. The distance is really difficult. In 3 years we were able to pass that trials. Trust, love and patience is all you need. Hope the best for both of you. Happy mylotting:)

My boyfriend and I have been doing the LDR thing for the better part of the last three years. We hit our three year anniv. in March, and we still have 2-4 more years to go before we can really begin to build our lives together, unfortunately. Right now, he lives 600 miles away from me, and very soon will be adding another 300-500 miles on top of that :( We've kept things alive through a lot of instant message conversations... Emails.. phone calls.. letters... care packages.. photos... videos and video conferencing. I won't say that it's been easy, because it hasn't been. All of those things, plus above all, honesty and openness are the best ways to keep things going. Your conversing and writing will have to make up for the lack of full time physical intimacy, even for small things such as kisses and hugs. When it comes to the things that we send back and forth in the mail.. Sometimes if one of us reads a novel, we buy an additional copy or send our own copy to the other partner, using post-it notes and slapping them in the pages to make our own footnotes and to point out things that we find interesting. With care packages, we send back and forth silly things... crayons, bubbles, quote books, sketches, even home-baked snacks. Sky's the limit :) Best of luck!

It will eventually fizzle out! One of you has to make the tough decision to move near the other. If you don't see each other person at least 4 times a week there is no physical contact on which to grow your relationship. We humans still need physical contact, no matter how much technology we produce! A hug is still better than a video chat anyday of the week.

I agree with some suggestions in keeping the long distance relationship alive. Trust is indeed important. I am in a long distance relationship myself. I am an hour and45 mins away from my boyfriend via plane and one day and a half via ship. :) We maintain the constant communication. And by that, we talk seven to eight times everyday. But despite of that nothing beats the physical presence of the other. And we are working to make our relationship to work despite the distance. For a year and 5mos now we re still excited about us. :)

If you are both busy and are really country apart, set a time where both of you could be freely talk even just once a week. Maintain that communication where you are able to share your experiences both positive and those that touches emotional side. Be open. No holds barred talks that could lead you to more discover each other even if you've known each other for like one year. If talking over a telephone for instance (or any of that communication) in 'once a week', take it slow (not as if your always in a hurry because you've got something to pass for your boss or have to submit a deadline). By taking things & conversations one at a time, you get focused, you give attention to each other and even if you're miles apart, it's as if your together. By doing so, you also get to know her deeper that you could read her mind, know what she feels... Maintain at least that once a week conversation but making it often when possible could be better.