afraid of loosing someone and letting go.
By jralivio511
@jralivio511 (480)
Philippines
January 15, 2011 9:49am CST
3 days ago I woke up thinking how my friend and her online boyfriend would be if they personally see each other? Would the love they felt before would be the same? Is he good enough for my friend? What if he just want to add her on his list of girls. I've decided to send a message to my friend saying "hi". And she said "oh, you remember me". And I said "yes I miss my ate". I used to call her "ate" as my respect for her being beautiful than me. Just kidding. For being mature enough than me, I think. And I cried. I just missed her and I know I'll never got the chance of cooking breakfast for her, dinner, midnight snack, eat mangoes because she already have him. She said she love him online where many people can read them and it seems that she would like to tell the world that she is so happy with him. Am I too jealous to feel this way or just afraid?
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8 responses
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
15 Jan 11
Online dating is safe as lone as the people understand that that is what it is. I tell you, I have many girlfriends (teachers) who have dated online guys and then it blossomed into a face-to-face romance that lasted for a hot minute (not very long)but not until they got their hearts broken. The pain was short lived, they are still trying to find "Mr. Right" online. Some people learn from their mistakes but other just keep walking back into the fire.
Your girlfriend should just keep the relationship online, and you should be there for her, if she wants you, if things fall apart. Just step back and let her have this time (fun) and hope it is not a game this guy is playing with your friend.
@jralivio511 (480)
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
Thank you so much. I will go anywhere. I'll be here forever. I am her best friend, right.
@markroderick (888)
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
I guess you are just afraid that your friend would have no time for you. But i guess it depends on your friend whether she will take your advice or not. There are lots of relationship that started on the internet and ended in church. Always remember that love is always a risk and a game. Sometimes you lose and you win. Goodluck !!!
@jralivio511 (480)
• Philippines
17 Jan 11
Not really. We leave together for almost a year and that 2 years ago. It's just that the guy might not be good enough for her.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 Jan 11
When we meet someone we are very attracted to, we want to do everything to keep them in our lives. Fear of losing them is always there. We don't want it to happen, but there is always the possibility. Letting go of that person can be the hardest thing we can ever have to face.@jralivio511 (480)
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
You are so right. Every time I am thinking of losing someone, it is very hard. Sometimes I am crying.
@jralivio511 (480)
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
I think, yes, I am jealous. The guy is her first boyfriend. And somehow, I am not really into online relationships. I don't believe that someone will fall for someone online. Words can be so easy to create. And maybe, I should try to have a boyfriend. Not online just like her for a change.
@yhanie (188)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
we really have to let go of someone to live better but it always makes us feel that letting go is impossible,, just make your mind set before you
decide to let go because that is not an easy job,,
@jralivio511 (480)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
Letting my friend go. Yes I did that already. It's just I am afraid of not seeing her anymore. She might go with her boyfriend far a way from any body for them to get alone together.
@wydtron (302)
• Portugal
15 Jan 11
Honestly i think that online relationships almost never work fine because lets be honest a couple always need physical touch without it, its just chatting because how do you really know who is in the other side of the chatting. I say this because i had the same experience like 5 years ago i was a kid and stupid after 1 year i understood that what i was doing was stupid because probably i would never see that person in real life.
Thanks for reading and posting :)
@jralivio511 (480)
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
The thing is they see other already. 3 days ago they've met in person. And for I saw on their picture on a networking site. They seem very close and happy.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
it's really hard to let go and eventually lose them completely. i've been through this many times in the past but good thing, i'm all good a very long time ago.
i wanna share my situation right which is a little bit related to letting go but different from your situation though.
i'm going out with this person and i like him a lot. we're acting as if we're lovers but due to some circumstances, we can't be yet. i'm ready to let go even if it hurts me i know. but we haven't even started yet. well, i'm just going with the flow but as always, i'm guarding my heart.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
15 Jan 11
Yes,you are right.Sometimes we are afraid of letting people especially the guys you loved.And i can't even imagine that if he has disappeared in my life,what should i do?Anyway,i think you are the same with me,we are afraid of letting them go.But if we change our thoughts,maybe we should think about this calmly and things will get better..We should cheer up and just flow it,everything will be fine.
