With time and maturity our relationships undergo a change...

Hi, I agree with you that with time relations get changed. Even the mother and son, father and son relations get changed with time. What I am going to write here is something heavy for me and can be heavy for some one else but I think that when a child is small your mother will take care of you with everything. Then the son is little grown up and he have his education and other expenses. Obviously father provides these in here, but mother keeps the records and then starts taunting that we have spent this much money on you. These words seems like words from a merchant or a shopkeeper who do some business for money. Like this there are other relations which change with time. Sorry to reply with this bad experience but that is all I have to share. Thank you.

hi kiran madam, now a days selfishness is growing and growing, there is no father and mother,child and mother,brother and sister,all are running behind money,when it stops money is comming,then the real values and faces are faded out,i have seen this several times in my life and in mylot also,but i never do like that,what ever possible i am doing for friends,have a nice day

For me it is very big differ about it when it comes to attitude of not normal due to the job now is less.

hello kiran! i agree with you that the only thing that doesn't change in this world, is change itself. Most relationships undergo changes, with time but i don't believe maturity has a vital role in every case. As you yourself have explained, some relationships changed for the better or worse, depending on the circumstances involved. People change, thus, their perceptions also changes, along with how they view existing relationships in their lives. There are changes that we need to have, in order to co-exist in harmony with everyone else. But there are changes, a lot of them actually, which are really brought on by other changes in our lives. Such as added responsibilities like getting married which can strain relationships between parents and child, especially mother and child. Or you have taken on work in some distant place, straining your relationship with your family and friends. Changing it through time. We can say that relationships, like people, evolves. As we mature, we so want to make it evolve into something more vital, closer and stronger despite trials and drawbacks. But that is not always the case, there are factors, outside factors which affects us and our relationships with people. Maybe the only thing we could draw out from this, is to be steadfast no matter what and to be always ready to accept the unexpected, for that's life, it is a constant change.

Dear, I think the only thing in the relation is the level of feeling. I think the relation is made of only level of understanding and feeling.. If our feelings and understanding r at maximum level than we need not worry about..Even after a long time duration we can have the same level of relations... Arvind

As life of an individual progresses, changes occur for the person to adapt or for the person to fit into his or her new role. I definitely agree with you that relationships udergo a life cylce of change. I can share an experience wherein my relationship with my father changed as the time goes by. My father was my closest friend and we always do things together, like watching movies, doing shopping and groceries. We were like buddies in everything that we do and I always go with him to parties. That was during my preschool and early school age years. But as I grew older, as I started to mature and become an adolescent, our relationship definitely changed. We no longer do things that we used to do and I definitely hide things from him especially that parents during adolescent years instill rigid rules and no boyfriend policy. My husband has also undergone some major change in his life, and it was for the better. He was the kind of guy who would never be serious in a relationship and has even cheated on me when we were still in a boy-girl relationship, but when I got pregnant he definitely matured and transformed into a god and loving father that he is now. So I guess change has to happen for an individual to mature into a relationship.

Hi Kiran! What an outstanding topic for discussion! You appeared to be studying complexities of life very closely and very discreetly.. I more or less in agreement with you on your observations. I have also felt that relationships undergo a change with the passage of time, be it mother-son relationship or mother-daughter relationship. When people get married and get busy in their own families, they tend to ignore other relationships. Their priority gets limited to their own family. Balancing all the relationships after marriage is a really a difficult task but not impossible. It depends upon individual to individual how s/he want to live his/her life and how deeply s/he understands that other (relations) are equally 'important' in his/her life. I try to make a balance between my family, parents and other relatives, depsite knowing the fact that I cannot please everyone. Deepak PS - have a great day!