How do you deal with your old in laws false beliefs?
By desertsong
@desertsong (94)
Philippines
January 16, 2011 7:53pm CST
I am actaully a nurse so I believe in things that has scientific basis. I often have petty quarrels with my in laws because of their false beliefs. I just can't help it when they talk about things that are not true. In our country, people have a lot of beliefs and customs that we have learned from our ancestors and has been passed through generation to generation. Eventhough we are now in a world of science, old people still cling to their beliefs. One of them is not taking a bath after eating because you might get hepatitis. Imagine how ridiculous the belief is. Knowing about the disease and being a nurse I just can't ignore their statements and make comments. It would make sound like being disrespectful to argue with them but I really can't stand hearing them talking about false things. And not only that, my husband follows what they say and even told me that I should do too. But of course I know the truth so I don't follow them. They have a lot more falacies that they wat us to follow because it might be bad for the health. How do you deal with your in laws falacies?
2 responses
@arvind_mangal2002 (124)
• India
17 Jan 11
I donot think so that you should go against this old and false things.. I think ignorance is the best way to overcome from this problem
Thanks
Arvind
@phoenix3423 (135)
• United States
17 Jan 11
I heard a lot of that while pregnant the big one was do not lift your hands over your head or the cord will wrap around babies neck. I got into the same arguements you are now. I exhausted myself trying to prove to them they are nuts all I did was make me more stressed and got got hear I told you so when my son was born with cord around his neck.. I know just a chance thing but now I have learned patience when dealing with my elders. I do not try and explain when they say things I say thanks for the advice or I am glad you care enough to try and look out for me but I believe differently and then I leave it at that. I feel that if two people are never going to come to an agreement that it is pointless to argue. If you are not going to convince them and they are obviously not going to convince you why cause drama and stress. As far as hubby is concerned he knows how you feel and if he wants to believe it and follow what they preach then so be it but I would tell him that you think its nuts and are not going to follow his lead on this one. He can get mad but stick up for yourself while causing the least amount of stress cause when people start yelling they stop listening. I wish you luck!